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Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 9:29am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Amozever12:hope you have bullet proof because nlanders warriors might come for you. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Dygeasy(m): 9:30am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise:People read to reply and not understand these days. Many fathers are going through the exact things that you described and it's unfortunate. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 9:31am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:depends on the man a woman is married to. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by complexBoss12: 9:32am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise: God bless you. I am in my mid twenties, bt hardly at home since I was a kid, bt my dad has only called me once, to kn hw I am doing. it felt strange! emphasis on d hardly at home |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 9:32am On Jul 21, 2020 |
phemmyfour: Don't mind him. Meanwhile some men here feel it is beneath them to get close to their children. Did they father the child only to hand them over to their mothers? 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by xynerise: 9:36am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Dygeasy: I am not surprised though. Many fathers are doing what I advised and they are not dead or become sissy like my myopic minded friend, TonyeBarcanista said. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by IbrahimSkiba(f): 9:38am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise: Finish him 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by authority2006(m): 9:39am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1: I'm not trying to insult you lady, not everyone has enough resources to the extent of having spare time to bond with side chicks. Though, I can't say much about your husband or dad. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 9:40am On Jul 21, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: Really? So men should spend time with their children? Mr Tonye you really speak from different sides of your mouth. When it comes to me, all the hairs on your body will stand like a werewolf Carry on kissing the truth sweety 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 9:45am On Jul 21, 2020 |
authority2006: You got that right. You can't say much about what you don't know. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 9:46am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Chimpretty:the average Nigerian man has that mentality. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 9:48am On Jul 21, 2020 |
krushdripper:That's for the ones who still decide to marry the average Nigerian man. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by authority2006(m): 9:53am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: In some households where the husbands don't have enough or just being irresponsible. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 9:55am On Jul 21, 2020 |
authority2006:and how many homes have enough in Nigeria ? 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Psoul(m): 9:59am On Jul 21, 2020 |
You are right @OP. My father (may he keep testing peacefully) used to tell me, and I quote: "Any child that does not have... my father said, has lost most important thing in life." I can't remember talking to people without making references to what my father told me concerning such issues. Ppl that don't know my father wish they met him cos of my references I normally make to his words. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:01am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:One of the problems of you people is the lack understanding! 1. A man's primary duty in the home is to provide, protect, defend and care for the family. 2. When he is chanced, he spends time with his family no matter how little (most men I know do this). I have never seen a man that doesn't spend time with his kids when he is chanced... Except for a few extremely irresponsible men! 3. Yet, a woman is always the first point of call for kids because she is usually with them while discharging her wifely duties in the home front, spends more time with the kids and of course bond more. 3b. The above does not in anyway relegate the relevance of the man. Although most kids tend to acknowledge this sacrifices of fathers when they are grown, especially male children. 4. For Xynerise, being an adult male that is expected to know better, to come up with an uninformed thread just like this only shows that he is advancing an agenda to subjugate men/fathers. It is unfortunate and Sissy for a grown up man to reason this way. 5. I don't expect you to grasp my point because you are not a man, husband nor father. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by krushdripper(m): 10:02am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:I'm speaking on the ones who even decide to marry at all and are not already made before they do that. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 10:07am On Jul 21, 2020 |
krushdripper:lol, the door to walk out is now wider and easier, nor be do or die affair. If the road nor let you pass go front ,you pass am come back. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by xynerise: 10:07am On Jul 21, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: You keep using the sissy word. You don't even know what it means. This is not about the time duration you spend with your children but the knowledge and inspiration (both spiritually and morally) they get from you even during that short period of time is what matters most. Tonye, you are not the only father who is going through challenges outside the family. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Tchange1(m): 10:08am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Be it a drunkard as a father, rapist as a father or be it what ever, a father's place in a home is totally irreplaceable. If you don't have one as a male child try to be one. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by streamsofjoy(f): 10:09am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18: Haba! Why are you this harsh. He said Most fathers. If your father is different just state it and not attack his upbringing and parents. you no try at all, as if una been get unsettled beef. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Abbeylanre15(m): 10:10am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise: CHISOS! Antelope kwa... This is smackdown |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 10:15am On Jul 21, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: The bolded was not in the equation in your previous comments. It is good to see that you know it is important. As I said to someone earlier, it is not about men's vs women's roles. It is about getting close to the children you fathered. It much more than providing, protecting, etc. I don't have to be a father, man or husband to understand you. I have a husband here; a great father (who is also my father). And he makes it seem effortless. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 10:17am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Myopic woman, if your father is not close to you or if he is not relevant, stop assuming that all fathers are like that. Thank you |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by DelphiOracle(m): 10:20am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise:na d antelope weak me |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Korllami007: 10:20am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1: You can tell that to soldiers in sambisa that have been there for more than three years and may end up getting killed without seeing their family. I'm pretty sure if you happened to be the kid of a soldier that's has been fighting in borno for years, you will hate him for not bonding with you while spending his money. They are some pictures of soldiers being slaughter, packed like sardine that has been circulating the internet. You know that they are human too, but you are here stylishly belittling their work. Their kids can hate them for not bonding with them. Their father put their lives on the line so that they can live a good life. I'm pretty sure you will hate your father in this situation. The tissue paper and a piece of paper you use daily, I don't think you know how it's made. Some men sleep in the forest for months dragging out log of woods and they do this to feed their families. Abeg come do Jackman for sawmill make you dey roll timbers weigh 200kg and above from morning till night or make you offload timbers from a truck; if you can do any of this jobs for 1 minute without ending in hospital or die, you should be given national award. But you are here on the internet belittling men's work in the society. Mtchew. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 10:23am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Sparro: That's why I say you are the myopic one. If you actually read my comments to understand, you would have seen that in fact I said men especially in recent times are close to their children. But your bias, myopic mind and short sightedness won't let you see beyond your nose. You only read to attack not to get it. Please take your bias elsewhere 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by kingreign(m): 10:24am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Awan owo, mbok, that guy speaks left and right. Let him be. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by DelphiOracle(m): 10:29am On Jul 21, 2020 |
swiz123:there is nothing like spending reasonable time with your kids. All u need is balance 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by ImaIma1(f): 10:32am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Korllami007: You can go to sambisa yourself to deliver that message. I went to Command and naturally, the friends I grew up with were children of soldiers/officers. It didn't stop them from being close to their children. In fact one of them who lost her dad in the plane crash en route Obudu was exceptional. That man was so close to his children. It was pleasant to watch. So please use another analysis. It has nothing to do with the profession. Even when soldiers goes on peace keeping missions to Sudan or elsewhere, they still come back home. Choosing to spend time with family/children is a personal thing. Don't worry...I won't hiss 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:34am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Read OP's original post again and subsequent comments. What he wants is for fathers to spend more time with kids just like mothers. Meanwhile, I congratulate you for having a good and responsible spouse. I'll say that you were diligent to be able to give your heart and body to such a man among wolves. I trust he would say same of you! |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 10:42am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Yeye, in your myopic mentality, no matter what, a father will loose relevance where his child is concerned. Sorry for your own situation. Our fathers are very very relevant in every area. And we are going to be very very relevant where our children are concerned. Like I said earlier, there are as equal number of irrelevant mothers as there are irrelevant fathers. I won't reply any of your myopic comment again. |
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