Jesus reigns! it will end in praise.

" there is a way that seems right in aan's sight but the end is destruction." run for your life. run to Calvary!

I hear

Your concerns above shows nothing is wrong with that child. I think you should rather pray about it and not seek any help to avoid error. Every child grows at their own pace. Those we thought cannot walk got up suddenly without crawling on knees and now they can run anyhow....

Be patient.

it is well!

Jesus shall reign!!!!

save us o lord!

*One of the most difficult*, most onerous, most innocuous, most ponderous and most ludicrous person to relate with is that man who does not like his own face!

One of the most gullible persons to deceive with "fake love" is the man who does not know how to relate with himself in love

Every man's propensity to relate and accept hands of fellowship from others is pivotal to his degree of selflove. In other words, you can only enjoy a man to the degree to which he loves himself

The least any man can do is to love himself despite all...

Self love is crucial to living a fulfilled life.

When there is no love lost between you and yourself, it becomes extremely difficult to love any other person or to love people

When a man does not love himself 'personally', he is at the mercy of emotional disposition from other people.

People who don't have self love constantly look forward to others for commendation and recommendation. They see themselves using other people's mirror.

A man or woman without self love is easily deceived with "things" and "fake profession of love", because when you don't love yourself, you will suffer from chronic poor self esteem and become excited at the least show of affection. This is extremely dangerous as it puts your life at risk.

Self love is self preservation. It is self defense from avengers who want take advantage at the slightest chance.

Love yourself enough to say "NO" to a love that will eventually kill You.

*To win in this world, you must first and foremost win your own heart...Love yourself*

*The World only sees you through your own eyes. What you see is what they see!*

People without self love are easily intimidated and are never freed from low self esteem. They throw tantrums at the slightest provocation

If you marry them, you are bound to live in hell because they point accusing fingers all the time

If they are your employer they are never impressed because they think you are actually better than them

If they are your employee or subordinate they hate you for demanding for performance because they think they are not good enough for you

If they are your friends, they compete with you all the time because they think elevation and promotion only come by competition. And really, elevation and promotion come by competition...by competing with your own self...competing with the best in you!

If they are your neighbor, they complain about everything, they don't know how to overlook things because they are overwhelmed by their own error.

They are so excited at putting their magnifying lenses on other people's error because that is where they find their self meaning. They think that by putting others down, they can actually move up. This is a sign of deep seated problem of lack of self love.

They love to complain and are always explaining reasons for their actions because they want to be accepted

*No amount of love extended to a man without self love can make him happy. Reason is that no man is truly happy until he has fully loves and accepts himself*

Nobody can love you enough, not even your spouse, kids or parent, it takes you to love you enough through anything and through everything.

People without self love find it very hard to let others go. They hold so tightly unto relationship that they become obsessively possesive. And when people eventually walk out of their life, they become shattered beyond "Repair".

Now, note this: Not every man is assigned to walk you through your journey of life. Those who left have probably completed their assignment with you. Stop complaining and stop explaining

Some people will naturally fizzle out of your life, not because you had issues with them but because they are not fit for the next phase of your journey to destiny. So stop crying over spilled milk...it is actually a stale one

Focus on you and improve on you so much that those who left would be proud they were once with you.

Don't get bitter if you must get better.

Let people use you, reuse you and even abuse you, as long as you have not refused yourself, you are on your way to becoming another fuse...a power source

*No one in this world deserves your love and affection as much as you.*

Have you ever seen a man in love with a lady? He dots over her, cherish her, adore her, looks well after her.

A man who loves himself will take care of himself, looks well after himself. Buy himself nice clothe...dots over himself..

To love and accept yourself unreservedly is the most terrifying things ever. Don't you ever desire to be someone else, you will be wasting the person that you are!

Pride is a symptom of chronic lack of self love...A man without self love sees humility as humiliation. They raise their shoulder in all situations. Meanwhile, he can barely look himself in the mirror.

The worst loneliness ever is to not be comfortable with yourself.

Love yourself enough to enjoy your own company.

*You must learn to enjoy being alone because you will always be in your own company most of the time*

A man with self love might be alone but he is not lonely because he will soon pick up a conversation with himself.

Real conversation ensue between a man and himself when a man is left alone. But too many people do not even enjoy their own company...they fall into depression and become despaired.

*Get involved with you, a man in love with himself is comfortable to dance alone, sing alone, pray alone, cry alone, laugh alone because in the actual sense, nobody really cares.*

If someone tells you he cares, believe him but don't hang on to it, because the man who told you he cares have himself to look after too...And so why would you be tied down to someone else's love.

*Your most important relationships is with God and with yourself*

When you love you, you will forgive you.

*When you love you, you are not ashamed of you.*

When you love you, you are never tired of you

*When you love you, you will celebrate you.*

When you love you, you will be hopeful of you in all situations.

Self love will give you a healthy self esteem.

*A man with self love is confident in almost all situation. He is able to play, laugh, work and relate well with others.*

When you love yourself, you will love what you do.

Be the first to congratulate yourself. Be the first to like your own postings on FB. Be the first to like your own picture. Be the first to pat yourself on the back when things are rough. Be the first to hug yourself when you have a breakthrough.

Love yourself to pieces for this is peace in itself

*Even the statement "I love You" starts with "I"*

Look yourself in the mirror regardless of your look or stature and tell yourself the best thing ever just as a lover will tell the one he loves...Not mincing word...

Right on my desk here... I have an inscription:

I JUST LOVE ME... I LOVE MY LIFE!

*Femi Adediran...olufire nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*Others heart may grow cold towards you, don't let your heart grow cold towards yourself. It is all you have got!-* Femi Adediran, February 2020

*If you have to wait for thumb up to do anything good, you may as well forget about your place "up there". Because "thumbs up" becomes scarce in the face of good life performance* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Our creativity, our originality, our productivity...have been sacrificed times and again on the "altar of disapproval". We are more familiar with the word "Not Approved" in our subconsciousness than any other one thing* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*We only get the chance we create.Approvals are limited...Nobody will give you a chance until you create one* .- Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Everything you have permitted so far is everything you have got* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Your life will drift in the direction of what you permit* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*To Break the Jinx of "Not Approved", you must get ready to decide on the New rule and the new way to go. Every standard you see today was set by men and women who moved past General approval to life approval.* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Anybody who has ever done anything reasonable with their life will tell you that the journey of Greatness is movement from Disapproval to Disapproval to Disapproval to Disapproval and then to more disapproval. And then you become approved when you have been completely disapproved.* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

A poor man who is self confident has more hope than a man whose house is full of money who is not.

*Disapproval is intended to do just one thing to you...To puncture your confidence...And when your confidence is gone, all hope may become lost* .

We live each day faced with rejection and disapprovals...continuous rejections and Disapprovals

Our creativity, our originality, our productivity ...have been sacrificed times and again on the "altar of disapproval". We are more familiar with the word "Not Approved" in our subconsciousness than any other one thing

We receive quiet disapproval each time we try to do something meaningful with our life and in our world

*We just wished that others will give us the nod at least to give us the confidence that we are on the right part and doing something good. But the truth is that nothing good ever gets approved initially. You must work way through disapprovals unto approval.*

It will amaze you to know how many talents and great skills have gone down the drain because of the "initial quiet disapproval"

It is "Not approved" because it is not the standard practice..it is not conventional...it is not generally acceptable...It is too new to be the norm.

There is only one reason they tell you it is "Not approved"...because they lack the gut and the will to do it.

Its a case of a critic who knows the way but does not know how to drive

*Most Disapprovals comes from men who "cannot see" the good in others. They are. blind men" criticizing men with "sight and vision"...So, why would you be bothered?*

Anybody who has ever done anything reasonable with their life will tell you that the journey of Greatness is movement from Disapproval to Disapproval to Disapproval to Disapproval and then to more disapproval. And then you become approved when you have been completely disapproved.

*No one will give your life a meaning, you are the only one who can give your life a meaning*

If you understand the "concept and the intent of Not Approved", you will become more resolute because that is the path of approval itself

To Break the Jinx of "Not Approved", you must get ready to decide on the New rule and the new way to go. Every standard you see today was set by men and women who moved past General approval to life approval.

*You can Become the New Standard, the New law and the New Rule if only you would not wait for general approval.*

We only get the chance we create.
Approvals are limited...Nobody will give you a chance until you create one.

Everything you have permitted so far is everything you have got

No one can make you "feel superior" without your own permission

Your life will drift in the direction of what you permit

We are limited to the extent that we allow men to decide "our approvals"

*We feel good when we get approved but becoming great is beyond feeling good. It is a "decision to be" inspite what feel*

Do what you have to do inspite your feeling anyway.

We left too many things undone because we got no approval

Approval is good but if you have to wait for approval to do anything, you may as well be setting up your self for an unfulfilled life

To become fulfilled in life, we must be able to move beyond and above General approval and embrace life approval

If you have to wait for thumb up to do anything good, you may as well forget about your place "up there". Because "thumbs up" becomes scarce in the face of good life performance

Others heart may grow cold towards you, don't let your heart grow cold towards yourself. It is all you have got.

*Talents are skills are everywhere So also Disapprovals in multiple folds*

When you work with a sense of approval, you fear less and do better with great confidence

And where does disapproval comes from...? From YOU first and foremost....then, from your feelings, from your friends, from your perceived foes, from your loved ones...from everywhere. It is so ironic to know that our life and living is in the midst of continuous Disapprovals".

*Its a free world..."void and without form". The shape you got is what you approved or what you "permit others to approve". And until you understand this...You will continuously minimize your opportunities and jeopardize your possibilities*

Men who realize this eventually overturn the world

If you know that what you are doing right now is "globally approved"...How would you do it? Now, give yourself that global approval and do it confidently...More Confidently!

*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*We only become more by Sacrifice* .- Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Every nation where the law does not rule supreme becomes paralysed with endless chaos because order can only be by The Law. -* Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Be comfortable in your own skin, you can never tell what is under the skin of your neighbor. Some have burning fire under their skin, they can only look good for so long.-* Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Money is capable of growing, increasing and multiplying if you have the right information. Be as passionate as you work hard at your job as to how to know how money grow, increase and multiply. So, don't just work, make money too because it is one thing to work, it is another to make money* - Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Until you learn to prioritize, you will never be able to maximize your finances. Understanding what is important, what is urgent and what is your opportunity cost. -* Femi Adediran, February 2020

*Time is money. Money is time. Every money you have got and that you will ever get is in exchange for your time which is your life. Whatever you earn at the moment is what "they" or "you" say your time (life) can produce right now. And if must get out of rat race that comes with the constraints of time, you must be able to establish a clear timelines about money* -Femi Adediran, February 2020

*True freedom is obedience to the Law. Every disobedience to the law ends in a broken life. The law that is capable of making you is strong enough to break you! Obedience to the law is non negotiable-* Femi Adediran, February 2020

**We make the law* and break The law...And the law can make us or break us.

We are made free or held captive by the law.

True freedom is obedience to the Law. Every disobedience to the law ends in a broken life. The law that is capable of making you is strong enough to break you! Obedience to the law is non negotiable

Every nation where the law does not rule supreme becomes paralysed with endless chaos because order can only be by The Law.

*And what are the laws that makes you master at home finances??*

1. *The law of Financial Intelligence*

Until you are properly informed, you may as well get ready to be thoroughly deformed.

It is not enough to work to make money. You would do yourself a world of good to know how money works and how to multiply your little fund "gradually".

Money is capable of growing, increasing and multiplying if you have the right information. Be as passionate as you work hard at your job as to how to know how money grow, increase and multiply. So don't just work, make money too because it is one thing to work, it is another to make money

Deliberately teach financial intelligence in your home. Teach your spouse and children. Everybody should be on the same page. Practice money making in your home.

Train your kids in particular on financial intelligence. You would have saved yourself from a lot of "future trouble". Many of us wish we knew what we know now when we were 10yrs old.

Warren Buffet was once quoted to have said he regretted not starting to invest since he was 12yrs of age

Don't just read comics, read money making books.

Money making books are not always interesting, but the resources therein will eventually make your life interesting.

Read at least one money making book in a year and ensure you pass it round all your family members

*2. The law of Prioritization*

Until you learn to prioritize, you will never be able to maximize your finances. Understanding what is important, what is urgent and what is your opportunity cost.

Prioritizing will set you free from frivolities, show off, excesses, spontaneous spending and reckless overgenerosity" that will eventually put your family in Jeopardy

*3. The law of Timelines*

Time is money. Money is time. Every money you have got and that you will ever get is in exchange for your time which is your life. Whatever you earn at the moment is what "they" or "you" say your time (life) can produce right now. And if must get out of rat race that comes with the constraints of time, you must be able to establish a clear timelines about money

*4 The Law of Sacrifice*

We only become more by Sacrifice.

Every home that wants financial freedom must be willing to sacrifice at some point in time.

Identify what you need to sacrifice at the moment as a home so you can attain financial freedom at the "set time". Every vision is reliazable....mostly by Sacrifice

5. *The Law Of "Peer Pressure Avoidance"*

As much as you can, avoid the pressure of looking like others

Be comfortable in your own skin, you can never tell what is under the skin of your neighbor. Some have burning fire under their skin, they can only look good for so long.

*6.The Law of Work*

Either mental or physical work, promote the culture of work in your home.

The only way to make money is to work.
Little wonder why God put Adam in a place to work first and foremost ever before He gave him a home.

When you work, things begin to work however little. Nothing is more dignifying

7. *The Law of Tithing And Giving*

Pay your Tithe and give to the poor as much as you can. Its a spiritual law that makes your money produce bountifully

*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*In marriage, love has its place, money has its place. Neither can be substituted for the other. But one can eliminate the other. This is a puzzling marriage quadratic equation-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Our prosperity is as important as our spirituality. Don't just get spiritual...Prosper too!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Happiness may be a choice. Money is a big influencer of that choice* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Real men work the streets*
*Real men do not mind the smelly boot*
*Real men are not afraid of the cold*
*Real men are not intimidated by heat*
*Real men sweat it out*
*Real men till the ground*
*Real men will rather die on their feet than live on their knees* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If you want to be real man in your own home. Go to work. Go make money. Even if you have to do the most demeaning job, do it. You will definitely arrive at a meaning soon. Nothing can be more demeaning when you become a "figure head" in your own territory...Your home* .- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Stop begin for "alms" everywhere. Be your own man, carry your own weight by Gods help. Get up and get going. Don't say there is nothing to do. Look around and find something to do even if it is to baby sit for someone* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


*Research has shown that* the number one marriage problem of all time has been money.

When money is no longer the issue...We may no longer be having "so much issues"..

In marriage, love has its place, money has its place. Neither can be substituted for the other. But one can eliminate the other. This is a puzzling marriage quadratic equation.

*With all thy getting..get money...legally...and get it fast!*

Our prosperity is as important as our spirituality. Don't just get spiritual...Prosper too!

Marriage becomes endurable or enjoyable to the extent that we can make the basic things of life available in our homes...courtesy money.

Even the children of a poor man does not like him

Happiness may be a choice. Money is a big influencer of that choice

Every home needs at least three source of income to be able to take care of the generation past (Your parent), the generation present ( Your immediate family) and the future generation ( Your children responsibilities).

Money matter is everybody's responsibility but men are expected to be more responsible

Every man must be "proactive" and be "brave" enough to provide for their homes...before it becomes an issue

Be bold enough to make money as long as it is legal.

Never ever be ashamed to do what you have to do to make money for your family

*Money making is only for the brave and the Lion hearted.*

If you must do it at all, do it proudly. Every man you see "with money" is doing and coping with some "shit" somewhere. There is nothing more dignifying

We remain poor because many of us are timid and ashamed of "what we ought to do". If it is not shameful, why would you be ashamed?

Real men work the streets
Real men do not mind the smelly boot
Real men are not afraid of the cold
Real men are not intimidated by heat
Real men sweat it out
Real men till the ground
Real men will rather die on their feet than live on their knees

*Money may not be everything but it can suffocate almost every other thing*

If you want to be real man in your own home. Go to work. Go make money. Even if you have to do the most demeaning job, do it. You will definitely arrive at a meaning soon. Nothing can be more demeaning when you become a "figure head" in your own territory...Your home.

You are the head by design, so do all you can to maintain and sustain your position...It is called Respect. Your wife and children will not only love you but respect you for your act of bravery.

Stop begin for "alms" everywhere. Be your own man, carry your own weight by Gods help. Get up and get going. Don't say there is nothing to do. Look around and find something to do even if it is to baby sit for someone

When money is in short supply, love and even life might become suffocated. Dreams and vision die "naturally".

*The only way not to become slave to money is to master it. And how do you master money ? By obeying the laws of money. You can only become the master by obeying the laws. And what are the laws*

To be continued...

*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*When it comes to generosity, your first port of call should be your spouse and no other person. Do you know why? No one truly cares about you as your spouse and when the chips are down, your spouse will be the first person to bear the brunt! So, why would your spouse not be the first recipient of your generosity?* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Be overly generous with with your resources with your spouse first and foremost. Every other person...including your children are secondary!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If you really want to see a changed world, start living by example before your children.* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

**The only way to have internal control in your marriage is to keep away from external influences as much as you can.* *When you are internally stable, you will become externally formidable** . - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Beware of Spiritual and Emotional leakage in your marriage, the result is always a bad wreckage* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If you really want to be happy in marriage, you must stop treating matters as "National Security Issues" demanding all seriousness.* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Don't take yourself so seriously else you will perpetually live under pressures and things will get worse. You must be able to laugh over everything and over anything. With laughter comes clarity of solutions. Things get clearer and softer When you laugh. Solutions ( solid) can only flow in excited state* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


*If your marriage is blessed* with children, be responsible enough to influence them positively. Parents are steward of influence over their children

The adults of today are the influenced children of yesterday.

If you really want to see a changed world, start living by example before your children.

Every married couple must learn to "keep secret"...Not because we have done evil but because the strength of our union is in our ability to "keep things" strictly between us

*If you can keep a "sealed lip", you will save your marriage from a lot of trouble*

Do not wash your dirty linen in the open.
Avoid "fighting dirty" so you would be able to "fight again".

No matter what the situation is between you and your spouse, never ever expose "their secrets", "your secrets"...It is called integrity. It is a great "relief" to know that no matter what happens between you and your spouse, you are still "safe" with them

The less you talk to others about your marriage, the more secure it becomes. Rather, pray more and talk less.

The only way to have internal control in your marriage is to keep away from external influences as much as you can.
When you are internally stable, you will become externally formidable.

Beware of Spiritual and Emotional leakage in your marriage, the result is always a bad wreckage

Every marriage needs a brainstorming session from time to time. Don't just think apart, think together. Critically look at issues together and be sincere enough to "adopt" the truth. The result will amaze you.

Do not wish to have the kind of marriage your friend have, you will only compound your own marriage trouble. Rather, build your own dream marriage.

Have a master plan for your marriage, go over it from time to time until it becomes your reality. Every good marriage you see has its own complimentary troubles. If you are so in love with your friends marriage, get ready for its trouble too.

If you really want to be happy in marriage, you must stop treating matters as "National Security Issues" demanding all seriousness.

Don't take yourself so seriously else you will perpetually live under pressures and things will get worse. You must be able to laugh over everything and over anything. With laughter comes clarity of solutions. Things get clearer and softer When you laugh. Solutions ( solid) can only flow in excited state

Sometimes we get tired of our spouses. When this happens. it is time to take a break. You may have to go visit with your parents or old friends. Marriage shouldn't get so boring that it becomes distasteful.

*Anything can become boring even our marriages, it is your creativity that will save the day*

Beating your spouse(wife) may make you feel like a man...But there is no greater madness than that, even a mad man deserves greater respect than you, he may have lost his mind but not his respect.

When it comes to generosity, your first port of call should be your spouse and no other person. Do you know why? No one truly cares about you as your spouse and when the chips are down, your spouse will be the first person to bear the brunt! So, why would your spouse not be the first recipient of your generosity?

Be overly generous with with your resources with your spouse first and foremost. Every other person...including your children are secondary!

When your spouse is okay, you can be sure, every other thing will naturally fall in place...Even your your children will be happier.

*Marriage will either make you better or bitter. The choice is yours...*

To be continued....


*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*The biggest favour any man can do to his children is to love their mum. The children will be better for it* ...- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Make dancing with your wife a regular practice. Its a good way to renew your friendship.-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*There is more hope for a single person than for a couple that is not united. It is better to stay single than to be in a marriage with no unity. A marriage "not united" will take so much from you until it takes your last breath. Be warned!-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Ouick forgiveness is your passport to a "success full" marriage, the quicker you forgive your partner, the "fuller your success" will be-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If you want people to read a book, write with bold inscriptions on it : " DO NOT READ". It will amaze you how many readers you will get within the hour. Restrictions increases curiosity* .- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Marriage is real work. But marriages don't just work. It is the married that must go to work. Marriage only work when we work. Your marriage cannot be better that the input you made into it. Even if miracle must happen, it can only happen because you prayed...and work.* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*You must understand this also that your spouse can't be everything to you. Your friends are your friends, you parent are your parent, your family are your family and your children are your children. You must know where to draw the line else you are setting up yourself for an unhappy married life living in your own "self made prison".* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


*By default and design,* marriage is expected to give us an idea of what Heaven will be like.

Every experience of marriage is expected to be sweet, soothing and comforting. Anything short of this is "unacceptable".

Marriage is not designed to be of "convinience" but of comfort. It must first and foremost be comforting before it becomes convinient

**There's a secret power of marriage, it is called The Power of unity. Unity in marriage is like a dynamo...powerful energy to be and to become.* *Any united couple will seemingly effortlessly experience speed*

When couples are not united it takes a longer time to achieve a little thing. Each time there is misunderstanding at the point of achievement, success setting becomes distrupted depriving us of "energy and speed"

There is more hope for a single person than for a couple that is not united. It is better to stay single than to be in a marriage with no unity. A marriage "not united" will take so much from you until it takes your last breath. Be warned!

*Treat your marriage as a spiritual project and not just an emotional monument*

Be wary of disagreement at the wake of an accomplishment

*Be quick to forgive your spouse for your "own sake".*

Ouick forgiveness is your passport to a "success full" marriage, the quicker you forgive your partner, the "fuller your success" will be

Marriage is real work. But marriages don't just work. It is the married that must go to work. Marriage only work when we work. Your marriage cannot be better that the input you made into it. Even if miracle must happen, it can only happen because you prayed...and work.

You must understand this also that your spouse can't be everything to you. Your friends are your friends, you parent are your parent, your family are your family and your children are your children. You must know where to draw the line else you are setting up yourself for an unhappy married life living in your own "self made prison".

*Avoid the temptation of "possessiveness" and "overprotectiveness". It is an invitaion to cross the boundary to the other side. We become more curious with restrictions.*

If you want people to read a book, write with bold inscriptions on it : " DO NOT READ". It will amaze you how many readers you will get within the hour. Restrictions increases curiosity.

Make dancing with your wife a regular practice. Its a good way to renew your friendship.

The biggest favour any man can do to his children is to love their mum. The children will be better for it...

To be continued...

*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*As much as you can, avoid unnecessary explanation, keep quiet, concentrate your energy on your assignment and let your results do the talking* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Nature won't cheat nobody just as nobody can cheat nature. We all will "experience the weather" at our own turn. Life is turn by turn** - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*We all will experience day and night in our life time...our life will go through the full cycle of day and night having its share of good and evil...* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*America is not better placed than Africa. It is all about appreciating what you've got and making the most of it WITHOUT COMPLAINING* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Keep away from "complain" if you want to live long and stay away from "Explain" if you want to stay long* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


If it is noble...Do it

If it commendable...Do it

If it applaudable...Do it

If it is not shameful...Do it

If it is not Illicit...Do it

If it is not Illegal...Do it...

If you can Tell me about it....JUST DO IT!

Do what you have to do anyway...

*Complain* at best will leave you on a *common plane* as others

And i do not think you want to loose your identity in the crowd

With every complain, you discover one thing more...The impossibility in your reality

Complain and more complain will blurred your vision...You will not be able to "see the road clearly"

Complain will wear out your soul and make weak your spirit

Things get worse with every complain

And until you eliminate complain from your language, you will always live in disdain

There's a bright side to your situation
Look out for it, because every situations has got a bright and a dark side.

If you have seen the sun during the day, then you must see the moonlight at night...And then you will realize that the sun wont shine forever afterall and the moon will soon rotate away...

We all will experience day and night in our life time...our life will go through the full cycle of day and night having its share of good and evil...So why the complain?

Some people are experiencing longer day and shorter night at the moment whereas there are people whose nights are longer than day at this time....

*Nature won't cheat nobody just as nobody can cheat nature. We all will "experience the weather" at our own turn. Life is turn by turn*

America is not better placed than Africa. It is all about appreciating what you've got and making the most of it WITHOUT COMPLAINING

Our situations is like a coin...there is the head and there is the tail...

Complains makes a man irresponsible, passing blame unto other people and things.

Complain will make you dwell on the shadow rather than the substance

If things are not right in your marriage...work at it...

If you don't like your job...Find something else to do

If you are in place you don't like, go else where

If the relationship is killing you...then get out of it

*Stop the complain!*

*And why explain?*

Most of us explain ( even when we are not asked) because, more often than not we seek approval of others more than anything else

In life, people rarely approve of great deeds.

No matter how noble your motives might be, someone somewhere will accuse you of ill intentions.

As much as you can, avoid unnecessary explanation, keep quiet, concentrate your energy on your assignment and let your results do the talking

And if you must explain, be sure to do so with the right people else you should be ready to kiss your passion good bye.

You owe Dream killers no explanation. They will tell you, you cant do it simply because they cannot

*Keep away from "complain" if you want to live long and stay away from "Explain" if you want to stay long*

*Femi Adediran...Olufire nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*When we talk about "model homes", we are talking about couples who are smart enough to hide "their own ugliness" from all of us.* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

**Once we get married, our "most convincing and most assuring" mirror is our spouse.*Anybody can say anything to you, as long as its not your spouse, it may not hold much water. But when our spouse say anything to and about us, we naturally become as "pronounced". If our spouse kept telling us we are dumb, the Spirit of God will have to do extra work on our minds to convince us other wise. Such is the power of our spouses mirror** - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Marriage could be your sinking point or your soaring point. Marriage could be your starting point or your ending point. Whichever way the pendulum swings. Our spouses have the answers* . - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*No "ummarried person" is qualified to counsel the married no matter the degree of the annointing! Not until you show me your result will i be able to make you my resort.-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If you really want to be a marriage counsellor, go get married or fix your broken marriage. Counselling is about empathy, and until you can wear my shoe you can never feel my pain!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*No devil in hell can stop a man that is propelled by love!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Competing with your spouse or trying to get ahead of your spouse so you can be at forefront is sheer foolishness. You are better (best) off when you move together, complementing one another in love* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*The best marriage counsel you can ever receive are from fellow married people as you even if they don't "appear anointed"...they feel the heat as you. And if they can smile inspite the heat, you had better be talking with them. Enough of marriage counseling from books!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


*Marriages are not as beautiful* as they appear

There's an ungliness that under underlies every marriage. And we are only happy to the extent that we are able to accept our own ugliness making lemonade out of our bitter lemon...making message out of our mess

Every beautiful marriage has its ugliness and every seemingly ugly marriage has its underlying and perhaps "yet to be realized beauty"

When we talk about "model homes", we are talking about couples who are smart enough to hide "their own ugliness" from all of us.

Marriage truly is a mixture of beauty and ugliness. Mixture of sorrow and joy. And as long as the day and the night exist, we all will have our own share of the good and evil of marriage.

*We are on the high sea and until we reach the shore, our ship will experience all kinds of weather* .

If every married couple will realize and internalize this, it will "deliver us" from having too high expectations from our marriages and save us from heart attacks that comes from too many surprises

What do you say of home with great wealth but with challenged children? How about marriages with children yet no means of feeding them? How about those living with epileptic spouse though look so beautiful together outside? How about those marriages who have had to cope with "cheating spouses" day in day out? How about marriages with endless family problems? How about wife who had become bread winners because their husbands are lazy?

*Marriage remains a mystery to be unfolded everyday. A mystery that can be interesting or distasteful depending on our dispositions or attitude*

How about couples who never sees any good in themselves?

*No matter how good you see yourself or how good others see you, if your spouse dont see you that way, it becomes a distorted view.*

Once we get married, our "most convincing and most assuring" mirror is our spouse.
Anybody can say anything to you, as long as its not your spouse, it may not hold much water. But when our spouse say anything to and about us, we naturally become as "pronounced". If our spouse kept telling us we are dumb, the Spirit of God will have to do extra work on our minds to convince us other wise. Such is the power of our spouses mirror

A lot of promising young men and women have become "sunk" in marriage not necessarily because of marriage of "marriage stress" but because they got the wrong mirror that influences their thoughts wrongly making them loose their steam and courage for outstanding life performance

Marriage could be your sinking point or your soaring point. Marriage could be your starting point or your ending point. Whichever way the pendulum swings. Our spouses have the answers.

We are like raw materials in the hands of our spouses. We can become almost anything when our spouses support and encourage us contrary to the believe that marriage kills our vision and drives for life. With a loving right attitude from your spouse, you are on your way to greatness!

Every man and woman responds to love...positively. We become as we are loved. If only we have the right man and woman that can and would love us through anything

No devil in hell can stop a man that is propelled by love

That is why every married couple should fight to make love stay in their marriages because when love is out of the window, it is nearly impossible to achieve any other one thing together.

*Things get easier with love even in the most difficult environment*

*It is wisdom to make your spouse unstoppable loving each other through the thick and the thin. Loving each other through the bend and the curves*

Competing with your spouse or trying to get ahead of your spouse so you can be at forefront is sheer foolishness. You are better (best) off when you move together, complementing one another in love

Another foolish thing a lot of married people do is to seek advice from "unmarried people" - Their single friends, the divorced, the separated, the single parents. This is one folly too many. There's no two way about it, such people will end up as their counsellors. Each time we are counselled, we receive impartation to go the way of our counsellor. Be careful who you receive counsel from!

No "ummarried person" is qualified to counsel the married no matter the degree of the annointing! Not until you show me your result will i be able to make you my resort.

If you really want to be a marriage counsellor, go get married or fix your broken marriage. Counselling is about empathy, and until you can wear my shoe you can never feel my pain!

*The best marriage counsel you can ever receive are from fellow married people as you even if they don't "appear anointed"...they feel the heat as you. And if they can smile inspite the heat, you had better be talking with them. Enough of marriage counseling from books!*

To be continued...

*Femi Adediran...Olufire Nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*For there's nothing in adulthood other than mounting pressures and endless worries -* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*When a man looses his "childlikeness", he would be left with nothing but "childishness". For to be "childlike" is grave wisdom and to be "childish" is gross foolishness -* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*When you tell a child daddy is coming back tomorrow even when they have just buried his dad in his presence..."he believes daddy will come back tomorrow". A child believes in the resurrection and return of the dead!*
- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*It takes "a child" to have undaunting and unwavering faith. Faith is not for the "matured", because maturity is too familiar with impossibilities in reality!* - Femi Adediran, January 2020


*In the eyes of a child,* the world is beautiful, serene and most lovely place

There's an innocence in the eyes and heart of every child that makes the universe full of rainbow

Reminiscing over child hood age is always a sweet memory and you wonder what has happened to all the sweetness of those years

The nostalgia could be so therapeutic atimes that some us just smile in silence...

When we were but a child...Nothing is impossible...Everything is possible...until we become adult

There was a dream in the heart of every child that was so real that "we can fly an imaginary aircraft all day and we would feel so fulfilled as a pilot..." So interesting...

With a child there are no worries

With a child there are no grudges

With a child there are no revenge

With a child there are no unforgiveness

With a child there are no pressures

*Nothing is sweeter than "being a child"*

But we all move about today with guilt locking in our conscience because we have sacrificed our "childlike innocence" on the altar of corrupt adulthood.

When a man looses his "childlikeness", he would be left with nothing but "childishness". For to be "childlike" is grave wisdom and to be "childish" is gross foolishness

When the child in us is dead....

We become hardened and "a potential criminal"

We laugh with caution and smile with suspicion

We dance, minding our steps

Our sweetness vaporizes and our tears dry faster

Maturity makes us become cocky, cookie and caked.

Nothing kills faster than outgrowing your "childlikeness"...becoming an adult..."knowing good and evil"....

To live long, stay childlike
To stay young, stay childlike
To be happy, stay childlike
To be healthy, stay childlike
To trust God, stay childlike

When you tell a child daddy is coming back tomorrow even when they have just buried his dad in his presence..."he believes daddy will come back tomorrow". A child believes in the resurrection and return of the dead!

It takes "a child" to have undaunting and unwavering faith. Faith is not for the "matured", because maturity is too familiar with impossibilities in reality!

*To have faith...You must become a child...Believing with no questions or elements of doubts*

*The "death of the child" in us is the death of "our real life* "

Dont let your marriage kill the child in you

Dont let your job kill the child in you

Dont let your situation kill the child in you

Dont let the economy kill the child in you

Dont let your relationships kill the child in you

Dont let pressures kill the child in you

Dont let "their" hurtful attitude kill the child in you

Don't let what you will eat kill the child in you

Fight for the survival of the child that you are, for this is your true life

*In all you do, do not outgrow your childlikeness*

Remain sweet as a child
Remain forgiving as a child
Remain trusting as a child
Remain nice as a child
Remain "Playfull" as a child
Remain sincere as a child

For this is life in its simplest form

*Do not complicate your life and living, "embrace your childhood"*

Sing again for no reason

Laugh your heart out like there's no tomorrow

Fight and make up quickly

Play with the sand if you can

Dance to imaginary music

Run around with the kids

For there's nothing in adulthood other than mounting pressures and endless worries

*Femi Adediran...Olufire nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

*(Pls Read Thru and share with ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND ALL YOUR CHILDREN)*

**To respect the young is humility*
*To respect the aged is Blessing*
*To respect your mate is self confidence*
*To respect nobody is self destruction** - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Impact brings respect. The greater your impact the greater your respect. If you want to be respected, make impact*
- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Every respectable and responsible parent should take up the responsibility and the challenge to train and impart their children to respect others. This is the only way to preserve our "Biological heritage". Respect or lack of it is first and foremost a "biological heritage" before it becomes a "cultural heritage"-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If we look well after our "biological heritage" (What our children learn and inherit from us either by DNA transfer or by daily life interaction) our "cultural heritage" will take care of itself "naturally"-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Respect your spouse, this is one great honour you can do yourself-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Respect people especially on a first meeting, whether you know their antecedents or not, whether they are nice looking or shabby looking...You can never tell who is who, you may have just done yourself a favour-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*If and when you are privileged to help others, do not disrespect them. Give them respect because they were sincere enough to ask for help. One day you could also be in their shoes-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Respect people who are bold enough to disagree with you. Disagreement is not tantamount to disrespect, it only means that they are bold enough to be truthful with you* - Femi Adediran, January 2020



*Whatever you do* ,wherever you may be, whoever you may become, however good or bad your situation may be...Make it your life Golden Rule to *RESPECT PEOPLE*

Respect could be your greatest assets and it could be your biggest defect

Respect people not primarily because of their age or their grade but because they deserve it

*And If you really want to be respected, work for it. Respect can only be earned and not demanded*

No man who demands respect actually deserves it

It becomes a well deserved respect because you "worked for it"

It is disrespect in itself to be respected out of demand for respect

When you constantly demand to be respected, its a clear indicator that you had probably lost it

Respect is give and take. You can only "take" what you give

*Those who cannot give respect are those who have lost it to pride, arrogance and inverted ego*

To respect the young is humility
To respect the aged is Blessing
To respect your mate is self confidence
To respect nobody is self destruction

Until you respect yourself, nobody will respect you

Your value is what determines your respect and who will respect you

Impact brings respect. The greater your impact the greater your respect. If you want to be respected, make impact

Respect is reciprocal so also is lack of it

Respect people who are bold enough to disagree with you. Disagreement is not tantamount to disrespect, it only means that they are bold enough to be truthful with you

Respect can only beget respect

It is a great service to teach and train our children to respect others, they grow up to become men and women of honour because the path of respect is the path of honour

Children who grew up with no sense of respect eventually grow up not only to become a disgrace to themselves but also to their parents

Every respectable and responsible parent should take up the responsibility and the challenge to train and impart their children to respect others. This is the only way to preserve our "Biological heritage". Respect or lack of it is first and foremost a "biological heritage" before it becomes a "cultural heritage"

If we look well after our "biological heritage" (What our children learn and inherit from us either by DNA transfer or by daily life interaction) our "cultural heritage" will take care of itself "naturally"

Disrespectful parents can only raise disrespectful children because your offspring can only be your replica either in look, attitude or behaviour. So, when next your child act disrespectfully, check with yourself as well.

Every parent must be firm enough to teach their children respect.

*And If your children disrespect you, it is a monumental shame on you. You just failed a test of good parenting!*

Respect people inspite their misdemeanor. It is your personal insurance if and when your own "character fails" in your unguarded moment. You can only reap what you sow according to the "two edge sword" Law of khama

Do not respect people out of fear, rather respect people out of personal recognition of their values and impact made

Only God is to be feared and men are to be respected. Do not misplace one for the other.

*We begin to fear men when we idolize them. This is nothing but Idolatory bigot.*

Every respect truly is associated "with some kind of fear". This is no "mortal fear" but the fear of not losing the respect of the very men we respect.

If and when you are privileged to help others, do not disrespect them. Give them respect because they were sincere enough to ask for help. One day you could also be in their shoes

Respect men of God, only the annointing you respect works for you

Respect people especially on a first meeting, whether you know their antecedents or not, whether they are nice looking or shabby looking...You can never tell who is who, you may have just done yourself a favour

*Do not be partial in giving respect. Accord same respect you will give a CEO, same respect to a cleaner. In life, tables turn too fast*

Respect constituted authorities, its a prove of how responsible you are.

Respect your spouse, this is one great honour you can do yourself

*And If you really desire to be Great in life, respect for others must be in your kitty...Always!*

**Femi Adediran...olufire nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com**

*Marriages does not fail because we are bad people. Marriages fail because we are real people. Real people with Real emotions and Real needs* .- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*There are no ideal marriages, only real marriages. And if it is ideal, it is not real!-* Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Nothing can be as hurtful and heartbreaking as a deceitful partner.* - Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Samson didn't fall for Delilah because she was so beautiful but because he found a "secured place" "a home", a place of comfort and self assurance on her laps, that he forgot to go back "home"* .- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Not every marriage is a home. Ironically, every "home" is a "type of marriage".*
- Femi Adediran, January 2020

*Some marriages are made in Heaven. Some are made in hell. The difference is in where "home" is situated* .- Femi Adediran, January 2020



*Marriages does not fail* because we are bad people. Marriages fail because we are real people. Real people with Real emotions and Real needs.

There are no ideal marriages, only real marriages. And if it is ideal, it is not real!

The reality of our marriages is in the fact that we are as similar as we are different and we are as different as we are similar. There are similarities in our differences and there are differences in our similarities. This shows that we are still unique individuals inspite our union.

It is perfectly human to have needs and express our emotions. Issues arise when we expect angelic manifestations from human beings. We become easily disappointed when we hold ourselves to standard so high.

You may be able to pretend elsewhere but not in the "living Room" of marriage. There's no hiding place in marriage, you can only be as naked

*Marriage is the only place where you must be naked if you must be covered. It is the only place where if you cover anything, you will eventually become naked*

*Marriages run into chaos when we try to hide " where there is no hiding place" . And if you ever succeed in hiding, it can only be for so long*

Nothing can be as hurtful and heartbreaking as a deceitful partner.

Deceitfulness will eventually lead to insecurity

*When we don't feel secure in our marriage, "cheating" on our spouse is always the result* .

We all seek Spiritual, emotional, financial security

We all want to be in a "secured place" even if it were to be in the arm of another man or woman as long as it is identified as "secured". That is why some people still talk about having a best friend apart from their spouse. It is about security

Samson didn't fall for Delilah because she was so beautiful but because he found a "secured place" "a home", a place of comfort and self assurance on her laps that he forgot to go back "home".

Not every marriage is a home. Ironically, every home is a "type of marriage".

Make your marriage a home.

Some marriages are made in Heaven. Some are made in hell. The difference is in where "home" is situated.

To be continued...

*Femi Adediran...Olufire nooni*
*Olufire@gmail.com*

who then will deliver us from slavery?

God help us!

R I P

it is well