jackals:
Most of them are even broke ASF. One decided to take me out last week Sunday after consistent begging from his side. He started complain about how he's been meeting gold diggers in the past. he was trying to manipulate me. he took me to a place. The idiot couldn't afford to buy wine of #18,500 and claimed to be working o. In this age and time, you can't afford to spend 30k on a woman you want to impress, shame. Had to block the idiot before he waste my Time. and I conclude in my mind" no pussy for him"

Clap for yourself. Wine of N18,500 mtchew. If this is what you gold dig I mean chicken change then you should be ashamed of yourself. Others are selling their pussy for real estate and here you are complaining of a guy that couldn't buy you a wine of N18,500. Oloshi. Get out! For your mind you be classic girl. Classic ko oloshi ni.

I blame the idiot that was begging to take you out.

GreenMist21:
YourTitties this is how a good boy behaves.

K

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Not that you will read this. But if you want to leave I'd suggest you leave without the kids. Because to train a kid in school up to university level is not an easy task. I for sure have experienced it. My mother trained my siblings and I alone without the single contribution from my dad or his brothers. Today I'm a graduate n guess who is back in my life and I have to accept him for who he is? My dad. It will pain you more after training your kids alone then their father will come into the show and of course they will regard him unless they wanna answer a bastard. Best thing you should do and it is the easiest way out of this is you filing for a divorce. It's not hard to get one so that he too can take care of his kids as you too. Running away to a place where he won't find you makes you take all the responsibility yourself and believe me no matter your income level, it will shake you. Reconsider. If truly you are in an abusive relationship, file a divorce it's not sin, Bible supports it.

bukatyne:


Your attachments in this post makes my point easy.

If a man has a good dose of self-respect and self-esteem, he would not want to sleep around. He would look for a girl inclined with his beliefs and chase her. If after all said and done, she says no, he counts it as her loss and move on. He is very sure that he is quality material (not money) and knows the value he is bringing to any woman lucky enough to be his. He doesn't need games (who builds anything solid on games)? He also avoids loose women who have nothing apart from sex to offer him.

If a woman has a good deal of self-respect and self-esteem, she knows the kind of men suitable for her. Low quality men wouldn't even come for her because they cannot invest what is needed to get her. They need cheap thrills so naturally would not waste their resources on quality. If a low quality guy mistakenly chases her, she tells him no politely and move on. (No is not 'I will think about it while collecting his gifts'. Else, you are a low quality girl no matter what your exterior looks like). Such a girl does not fall for the gimmicks and tricks of play boys and other low quality men. A man/guy who is seeking her knows he has to be worthy of her and treat her with respect.

The problem is that too too many men & women lack self-respect and self-esteem in Nigeria.

That's why they base their worth on the number of women they sleep with, no of men's money they chopped, how they maltreat people, they fall for people who don't respect them when they don't even see any good in themselves. They twist and adjust like chameleons to whomever they are with instead of laying their cards (strength, flaws, hope, dreams, aspirations) etc on the table and letting their partners choose to the with the real them.

That's why they don't respect themselves and hop from bed to bed, claim the devil made them do something, cheat about with their partners, claim to be things they are not, blame the society for their choices etc.

Nigerian parents need to really do better raising up kids that are content with themselves and in them selves.

The right word I think Nevestlbot is looking for is Self-respect and Self-esteem. These two words means what the OP is trying to present and not the false confidence thingy. Lack of confidence or false confidence isn't the same as lack of self-esteem and self-respect and also doesn't mean what you @op is trying to put up but rather self-esteem and self-respect means what bukatyne is trying to put up. I'd give you an example: because the wrong person is wielding power like PMB of Nigeria would you say power is bad?
And because respectable men Like Macron is at the helms of power in France would you say power is good?

Power is deviod of good and bad regardless of whoevee wields it. Redpill isn't the problem but personality.

I also got a mail from one nairalander her on how he could get his girl to love him if I've got any redpill to do it for him, I told him simply you won't get what you are looking for from her because he wanted to bang and leave the girl. I told him to forget about her and move on and the nigger blocked me. It all depends on personality. I am a redpiller but I've got important things to do other than going after women. I need tk make money and travel round the with or without a woman by my side. So individual difference. Remember don't hate the game but hate the players.

NevetsIbot:

Confidence.... Confidence.... Confidence! You can't project confidence that isn't there or true... You just can't .. all you're projecting is false confidence and any lady with her sense wrapped around her head like an head tie will smell it along with your insecurity a mile away.. They always do.

What do you mean you can't project confidence that isn't there? There nothing like false confidence. Confidence is having faith or relying on something or someone (who can be oneself) so how then can you falsely rely or have faith on something or someone ( who can be oneself)?

You can't tweak a sensible girl into thinking she likes you when she's not interested or attracted.... And you only ever want to attract someone sensible

Now you got the whole movement all wrong. The redpill doesn't teach you how to tweak a girl into liking you. But rather to tell you the manipulation of these women so that when things go sour you wouldn't loose. It doesn't even teach how to get a girl let alone attract one. But it shows you potential girls to meet with low risk of rejectio for those who have phobia for rejection.

True confidence must stem from something..( not implying baseless factors like the size of za Dickson or length of time when doing the do ).. Intelligence, vulnerability ( Knowing you're human and accepting your flaws), skillfulness at a particular thing, having emotions and all... I'm talking solid factors that can actually be valued.. That's what you should pull your confidence from. Not making up one inexistent weak confidence from somewhere - you really are not helping your life.

True confidence stems from knowing your ability to succeed and not fail and also your ability to withstand the shock of failing. What will you call a man who knows the highest a lady he is going after will tell him is "no"?

Whatever confidence you possess when going after a woman is likely the same confidence you'll use to pursue your dreams.. that's my Red Pill. Develop true confidence, Value yourself and be you (Accept all to flaws and short comings. You're human and she is too)

This is very wrong. Some people are very timid when it comes to women but are very confident in their careers that they are very successful. Some just don't take women ish too seriously like there are folks who once you say "no" the first time they back out. Does that mean they are the Unserious type in their career? Their are people who are very good with women to the point they can get any woman be it a nun married or not but are very unserious with their career...
What you should have said is "instead of putting all that energy into being a womanizer, why don't you use it in your career hat will be beneficial to you.

What am I saying? False confidence will get you a little of the good stuff in life and with women.. that you have to cook up confidence from somewhere to go after a lady is most likely an indication that you have been going through life with little or no confidence.

Again there's nothing like false confidence.

Ubunja
Martinez39
CAPSLOCK
And fuvk you GreenMist21 for getting me banned.

GreenMist21:

Miss my boo bear!

B!tch you got me banned!
And I ain't your boo