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Thank you all for contributing. @ Jeffrey I hv never told him I love him, I always turn down his proposal, he didn't really cater for my needs, he doesn't even hv my account number. We were not dating these years, we don't stay in the same town, he stays in same town with my parents so we just see anytime I visit my parents. I know if it had worked out with another guy I wouldn't hv even remembered him but the issue is that what if he's actually the right man that's y I keep having failed relationship, u know like running away from my destiny

OgidiOlu3:
Well, in those days, some of our parents didn't exactly "love at first sight". Most of them grew to love each other.

My advice: If there's no attraction, don't force it. Don't marry a guy that you don't love no matter how crazy he is about you. It takes two to tango. There's nothing as bad as unrequited love. If you don't see yourself growing to love him, you'll end up miserable for the rest of your life. You're not an object, you're human. You have feelings and your feelings count. If you don't love him back, don't let anyone force you to marry him.

What, if I may ask, is your reason for not loving him?

OgidiOlu3:
Well, in those days, some of our parents didn't exactly "love at first sight". Most of them grew to love each other.
My advice: If there's no attraction, don't force it. Don't marry a guy that you don't love no matter how crazy he is about you. It takes two to tango. There's nothing as bad as unrequited love. If you don't see yourself growing to love him, you'll end up miserable for the rest of your life. You're not an object, you're human. You have feelings and your feelings count. If you don't love him back, don't let anyone force you to marry him.
What, if I may ask, is your reason for not loving him?

I don't have any reason for not loving him, I have tried to love him but I can't, I even get upset when I see his call. Now my people wants me to get married to him because he's a good guy and have been patiently waiting for more than 5yrs. The irony of it is that the ones I love always break my heart. I'm so confused. A friend said it's an evil spirit that is making me not to love him and love the wrong people. I'm not attracted to him, I don't feel anything for him, I believe I can stay in a room with him for a week and nothing will happen

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