Aro_007: Middle of the nite is the best time you can discuss with me. During the day time I am always busy at work and after getting home you bet am already fast asleep at 9.00/9.30pm, But any time from 12.30 to 4.30am I am always awake. Wired rite? Well it is a bad habit I got use to while in secondary. Even my dad who is now late knew that that was the best time zone to discuss something meaningful with me.
The unfortunate part of my routine is that it's affecting my relationship with my wife. While we both get back home abt 8.00/8.30 pm, she often still have to take care of the children and often still watch the Africa magic till abt 11.30/12am. This is about the time I am preparing to wake up. This is causing alot of communication problems btw us cos we hardly had the time to talk. The longest time we spend talking together is while coming from work in the traffic, but now that we use separate cars because she is now a nursing mother. We are now strangers. I have tried so had to switch to her routine but it is not just working for me.
Please I need someone advice quickly has I know this is not helping our 3 yrs old marriage.

You sir, need to stop being selfish. You sleep around 9pm? To avoid sleeping, just walk into the kitchen with your wife whilst she is cooking dinner. As she's cooking, you are helping her with it and talking about your day- it's a great way to bond. Discussion spills over to dinner and hopefully she can reduce her Africa Magic. There! Your problem of distance in your marriage is reduced. One hour face-to-face everyday talk can do wonders. You can also chat online during the day.

Your body will learn to sleep around 11pm after a few months.

You already know what the problem is. Change your sleeping habits. It takes time but it is possible.

Aro_007: Middle of the nite is the best time you can discuss with me. During the day time I am always busy at work and after getting home you bet am already fast asleep at 9.00/9.30pm, But any time from 12.30 to 4.30am I am always awake. Wired rite? Well it is a bad habit I got use to while in secondary. Even my dad who is now late knew that that was the best time zone to discuss something meaningful with me.
The unfortunate part of my routine is that it's affecting my relationship with my wife. While we both get back home abt 8.00/8.30 pm, she often still have to take care of the children and often still watch the Africa magic till abt 11.30/12am. This is about the time I am preparing to wake up. This is causing alot of communication problems btw us cos we hardly had the time to talk. The longest time we spend talking together is while coming from work in the traffic, but now that we use separate cars because she is now a nursing mother. We are now strangers. I have tried so had to switch to her routine but it is not just working for me.
Please I need someone advice quickly has I know this is not helping our 3 yrs old marriage.

i actually prefer talkin at night, my mom does so wen i visit,
could rememeber once ma ex woke me around 2am askin i loosen her weave-on she just fixed cos she aint confortable with it....mehn, no be small thing

most times, de quietness of the night tend to make issue sink well into de head cos dere are no distractions

agoha_vivi: My parents where fond of it especially my mum. Now I'm married my hussy has taken over and is even worse. Most times when something bothers him, he would act perfectly normal only to wake me late at night. There was a night he woke me up to ask why I didn't put enough tomatoes in the rice I prepared the night before. I so wished he were a child that day because I for flog am. I had to leave him to sleep in the guest room that night.

Seems funny tho', but i undstand him, he was between telling u or not,
Sumtimes women are difficult to correct.
They get moody, no man wants to say 'd food isn't okay'... No woman wants to hear it either.
What he did is 100% reasonable.

^^ hm! not unless the site now lets dopplegangers walk free about its forums.

Spell the nick that sent you d msg if you post the truth.

[quote author=agoha_vivi]There was a night he woke me up to ask why I didn't put enough tomatoes in the rice I prepared the night before. I so wished he were a child that day because I for flog am. I had to leave him to sleep in the guest room that night. [/quote

LWKMA.....UR HUBBY REALLY FUNNY....

My mom used to but not anymore. I think I somehow deserved it, I was real naughty. Her midnight talks was helpful, kept me on track.

Right now,I use midnight waking as a tool for "cornering" my husband. Lol poor him!. Give him a real goood seex when he's dreaming then hand him a blank chequebook to sign. Not foolproof sha, it fails sometimes.

candieangel12:

Housewife ke? I reject am! I am a dental student.

i like this gal. She's delectably evil

My mom had PhD in waking one up in d dead of d nyt to talk of issues she thot serious. I usually agreed wit her just so I cld go back to sleep.

Back then when I was still single, I remember the night my g.frnd woke me up asking for a break up. I just told her to postpone d gist till morning, hw can u be breaking up at night, u b winch? She was shocked while me, I carry on with my sleep o.

tnktosin: Back then when I was still single, I remember the night my g.frnd woke me up asking for a break up. I just told her to postpone d gist till morning, hw can u be breaking up at night, u b winch? She was shocked while me, I carry on with my sleep o.

LWKMD

Ha! I thought it was only me mom that does that! I hate it with a passion.. she stopped now though! She realized you don't try that "talk" thing to people abroad especially when they've had a long day at work..( anyways I refused picking her calls and even warned her not to ever wake me up from my sleep just to talk unless it's absolutely necessary) 90% of the time, it's not. She wakes up and just want to gist then feigns seriousness by waking someone else. Highly unacceptable and unfair too!

debomb:
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I hate competitions

My parents never did that to us but I had to cultivate the habit of waking up early in the morning as an undergraduate to study. Now that I have graduated, I can't break the habit. I still wake up at 2am every day. I'm trying so hard to break this habit by going to bed very late.... I hope it works with time.

goldwaters: My mom had PhD in waking one up in d dead of d nyt to talk of issues she thot serious. I usually agreed wit her just so I cld go back to sleep.

stpat1: Chai, you remind me. It was my mum that did it and that was the only time. She woke me up quietly in the middle of the night to discuss my school issues with me. Well I must say it had a positive effect cos after that discussion I did all I could to get back to school cos I really felt how it bothered her so much. Now I'm happy that she did that. Sweet sensitive and understanding mum.

You people want to traumatise me abi. I was in first term of SS1 when my mom woke me up at 1am to begin reading for my SSCE. I am 32 today and i still ask her what that was all about. Did i snore? Was she lonely? Till today she only smiles. I will ask her again tomorrow. Maybe i should wake my kids up tonite. What needs to be said at midnight that can't wait till 6pmm?

Well it will be very obvious that .........that person does not like his or her life.

Wake me during the nite

I WILL STAB U WITH ANYTHING THAT ENTERS MY HANDS!!!!!!!!!

Nama!!!

candieangel12:

Uhm at night, im usually just talkin on the phone, watchin tv/movie, internet, just plain chillin. I usually fall asleep around 9am n wake up at 1pm.

u ehn.....i pray u wont kill smebody wt laf 1 day

Ayorh4you:

u ehn.....i pray u wont kill smebody wt laf 1 day

LOL, what you mean by that nah?

candieangel12:

LOL, what you mean by that nah?

r u an Alien?

Ayorh4you:

r u an Alien?

Hmmm, why do you ask? &No, Im not an alien.

chatting with some babe the other day,
i dozed off as i was really tired. i don't know whether that turned her on or what. she just started buzzing my phone like crazy. put the sucker on silent and went back to sleep.