I need advise for a best friend who is going through this situation. Her parents seemed like the ideal couple who are really in love. Her dad would always ostracized cheating and would always make remarks about men who cheat and how he could not imagine himself cheating on her mom. They were high school sweethearts. Her mom had recently travelled abroad so she decided to surprise her dad by coming home early from university then expected and found a women wearing her mom's gown and sleeping in the bedroom. She left without the other women seeing her but now she does not know what to do. Must she confront her dad? Must she tell her mom or perhaps her siblings? must she pretend nothing happened? This is a real serious problem so mature answers only.
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If it was me I will do nothing,my father is a player.

Your friend should just ignore the whole event.If he tells his mom,it's only going to tear the family apart.
If he confronts his dad,it's just like wasting his time.

k2039: Nothing,my father is a player

hmmm i bet you are one too

totalbaby:
hmmm i bet you are one too

I love my mum and I have little or no regards for my dad,so cheating is like disrespecting my mum.

k2039:

I love my mum and I have little or no regards for my dad,so cheating is like disrespecting my mum.

thats good to know but was your mom aware of the cheating or not? if she is aware fine. but don't you think it is unfair to keep the truth away from her?

totalbaby:
thats good to know but was your mom aware of the cheating or not? if she is aware fine. but don't you think it is unfair to keep the truth away from her?

They are seperated,but ofcourse she knows he is a player

totalbaby: I need advise for a best friend who is going through this situation. Her parents seemed like the ideal couple who are really in love. Her dad would always ostracized cheating and would always make remarks about men who cheat and how he could not imagine himself cheating on her mom. They were high school sweethearts. Her mom had recently travelled abroad so she decided to surprise her dad by coming home early from university then expected and found a women wearing her mom's gown and sleeping in the bedroom. She left without the other women seeing her but now she does not know what to do. Must she confront her dad? Must she tell her mom or perhaps her siblings? must she pretend nothing happened? This is a real serious problem so mature answers only.
Thanks

Simple, she should tell her mum and let them deal with their issues. There is no need for her to pretend she is the first to have this problem. Yes, it is serious issue but it is not her place to make judgement on who in the family should or should not hear of it. The man is involved, She needs to let her mother know that she knows. If outsiders will not do that, at least her mother needs to be able to know that she, a child of that union would know to do better. She should give her mother the chance to make a decision on the where her marriage(not your friend's) should go.

Blackmail him

I wil take a photo or video coverage of my dad and d lover in action and threatn to spread it all over the internet + giving mum, pastor ,frend and sisters a copy of d video IF HE DOSENT STOP

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Kobojunkie:

Simple, she should tell her mum and let them deal with their issues. There is no need for her to pretend she is the first to have this problem. Yes, it is serious issue but it is not her place to make judgement on who in the family should or should not hear of it. The man is involved, She needs to let her mother know that she knows. If outsiders will not do that, at least her mother needs to be able to know that she, a child of that union would know to do better. She should give her mother the chance to make a decision on the where her marriage(not your friend's) should go.

drnoel: Blackmail him

yeah, blackmail his sorry arses .

Kobojunkie: Simple, she should tell her mum and let them deal with their issues. There is no need for her to pretend she is the first to have this problem. Yes, it is serious issue but it is not her place to make judgement on who in the family should or should not hear of it. The man is involved, She needs to let her mother know that she knows. If outsiders will not do that, at least her mother needs to be able to know that she, a child of that union would know to do better. She should give her mother the chance to make a decision on the where her marriage(not your friend's) should go.

What kind of advice is this....

If she tells the mum...the mum might decide to confront him, and this might lead to insults, beatings...etc. Which might tear the family apart.

The man won't change either, instead it would be an opportunity for him to continue his illicit act.

Be best options she's got would be to keep quiet, or to confront him respectfully and her what he has to say.

Reporting the incident to a third party is totally out of the question.

k2039: If it was me I will do nothing,my father is a player

I don't doubt that

Don't tell your mum. Respectfully confront your dad and let him know you are aware of his illicit affair. Remind him that it goes against everything he claims to stand for and it's capable of tearing your family apart. I bet he'll stop cheating, otherwise threaten to tell your mum if he doesn't stop.

Mynd_44:
I don't doubt that

Sounds to me like you know him,lol

k2039:

Sounds to me like you know him,lol

Maybe

Tell your friend to blackmail his black a$$ especially as he's forming holy pass

If it was the son that caught them, He should talk to the girl to hook him up too

drnoel: Blackmail him

I will also blackmail him till the end of days. if possible, the gurl must hook me up also.

Hmmm so you have no regards at all for ur mom?

fem30:
I will also blackmail him till the end of days. if possible, the gurl must hook me up also.

I won't tell my mommy,cos I don't want my family torn apart. Somethings are better left unsaid,especially if the outcome won't benefit both party. as for my dad,I would report him to someone that can scold him on that.

True that but as you know the truth always comes out in the end. Her mom found out anyways and they are separating because she cannot handle his womanizing anymore.

Yomieluv: I won't tell my mommy,cos I don't want my family torn apart. Somethings are better left unsaid,especially if the outcome won't benefit both party. as for my dad,I would report him to someone that can scold him on that.

totalbaby: True that but as you know the truth always comes out in the end. Her mom found out anyways and they are separating because she cannot handle his womanizing anymore.

its better she found out herself,than for me to be an agent of destruction.

If I know my mom. . .she'd prolly be doing the same!
I don't come from a family of 'female MUGUS'!
She go don smell im azze tey tey! Haba!!! Smoke dey hide for h-inside bottle?
Bottomline. . .not my consain!

All I wanno know is where my school fees and pocket money at? Or where the next 'SUMMER VACATION' is gonna be!
Shikena!!!

I could care less!

@ Post

I would be happy I'm not the one married to him

He's my father, not my husband!

@op

So how did your father and mother end the matter when you ran into your dad's room and found his babe with your mom's gown?

You people just come here fronting with other people when you are the ones who needs advise.

Well my parents are happily married thank you. So stop saying things you think you know!

ifihearam: @op

So how did your father and mother end the matter when you ran into your dad's room and found his babe with your mom's gown?

You people just come here fronting with other people when you are the ones who needs advise.