elantraceey:
I think we've seen this before .



Nice points though.

ShirelleBaby:
Yeah--imagine meeting someone with all of those!!


DISASTROUS-

edozie04:
choi!!!! I fall into some category, make I quickly readjust

Mintayo:
This is Long but i think its worth the read.
1. Those who can never say, “Sorry”- they would hurt you, annoy you, disappoint you, but would never apologize because they believe that it will demean or belittle them. When you are wrong or right, you apologize to them hoping that they would change but they never do. You start feeling irritated. The love and respect you have for them start to wear away.
2. Those who can never say “Thank You”.-whatever you do for them, they are never grateful. “Why should I say thank you when you are just doing your duty?”. Some will say their gratitude is in the heart. Such an attitude causes irritation, frustration and unhappiness such people believe that the world owe them a lot, they are difficult to please.
3. Those who have excessive libido or inadequate libido- sexual intercourse is essential in a marriage but when you have a spouse that wants it for breakfast, lunch and supper, it is difficult to have any peace in the family. Infidelity also knocks at the door. Also, when you have a spouse that hates sex or think sex should be had just once in a year, there is a challenge in the family and infidelity is always a challenge.
4. Men who think that women are to be seen but not heard.- this is 18th century mentality. It is true that marriage is not a zone for feminist crusade, but if a man has an archaic views about women, and then please avoid him like an Ebola patient. Watch out for statement like this, “How can an ordinary woman want to be the CEO”.
5. Women who think they don’t need men in their lives- such women believe they are self-sufficient in all things. They have the i-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. Men feel ill at ease when they are with women who don’t allow room in their lives for a man to fill. Such women find it difficult to express love; they fly quarrels easily which creates frustration and suffering.
6. Men who are looking for housemaids and not wives: they have archaic idea of what the role of a wife is. They believe that women are only meant to cook, clean the house, bear children and serve the men. They believe that when men talk, that women must just obey. The men can keep mistresses but the women should keep quiet and not seen greeting men. A woman should not work, should not go out and neither complain whatever the man does to her.
7. Those who can never trust anybody: they believe that everyone is a dangerous enemy that has evil design against them, they have obsession with fear of people especially their spouse, once a spouse can never be trusted, there can never be joy in the family.
8. Those who have no respect for others: people can mouth love but without respect, there can never be happiness in a home. Women who love to prove a point by insulting their husband or men who believe in treating their wives without dignity in the name of cutting their spouse to size, such people make terrible marriage partners.
9. Women who see all men as competition that must not be given an inch: Marriage is not a place for activism. Women that see a man as a competition rather than a complement is a dangerous person to marry. When a man has to contend with a woman every minute, when a man is always too conscious of what to say or to do to his wife, then there is a problem.
10. Those who cannot control their temper: hot tempered people are dangerous; they can utter anything in anger, and do things that they will regret for life. They can put you in trouble.
11. Those who cannot forgive: forgiveness makes us superhuman; there are those who cannot forgive no matter the situation. Not only can they not forgive, they cannot also forget, hence, revenge is what they usually think of.
12. Those who have not been weaned by their parents: age has little to do with marriage. These set of people make poor marriage partners. They are full of” “Mummy said”, “Daddy said”. They take every family discussion to their parents, they cannot do anything unless their parent approve. They allow their parents to run their home in the name of showing respects to their in-laws. They make marriage tasteless, a constant source of sadness and frustration.


In summary, marriage is not a bed of roses, there is nobody without some faults or idiosyncrasies. However, it is foolhardy to walk into landmines with one eyes open, praying and hoping that the explosives will not go off. To avoid heartaches, neither blind love nor desperation to get married should push anyone to jump into a marriage with someone that will cause nothing but pain, sadness and sorrow.
Happy New Year