Mynd_44:
Stop derailing

brokoto: thank you! after na she go de hide our their posts and threaten to ban us them

Ujujoan: even the catholic church will grant divorce on these grounds!

idesignwebsite:
My candid advise,been impotent is a cross very difficult to carry,but not withstanding there should be a diplomatic way out. Even if you adopt children,it would be very difficult to stay without intimacy. My final verdict,is either he allows you walk out of the marriage with your love and his dignity or he allows you have a boyfriend outside marriage,which ever he feels ok. But stop telling everybody that he is impotent,and sincerely I find it difficult to believe you could hold body for six month,if it is a guy that says that I would believe.

Mynd_44:
You are looking for trouble abi?

brokoto: me? Wetin I do na

Mynd_44:
Dey look

brokoto: *tu face voice* nothing de happen!

blink182: He is not a pastor, he is a deceiver. Get out of that marriage.

maclatunji:

It's unfortunate but the woman has to leave. She doesn't have to broadcast the reason. The man is a disappointment.

brokoto: thank you! after na she go de hide our their posts and threaten to ban us them

lawrenzoo: I have been married for six months and I am in a very big dilemma especially so because I am a Christian. My husband is a pastor whiles I am a chorister.
On the night of our wedding, he insisted that, we pray and give thanks to God. We held long hours of prayer and to be honest with you I was very disappointed. The next day came and he told me that, he has a clear direction from God that, we need to wait for directions as to when we can start getting intimate. It's been one excuse after the other and it has been over six months.
He buys me gifts and makes sure I am comfortable but we have never had intimate relations in all the six months we've been married. I got infuriated and reported him to our counselor who spoke to us but things remained the same. This time round I went to the pastor in charge and upon questioning, my husband admitted that, he is totally impotent and cannot get his manhood up.
I was gripped with fear and shock. When asked how long he had had the problem, he said it's been about7 years. I asked why he did not tell me but lied to me. He said he took a wife by faith, believing that, taking that bold step and 'believing the things that be not as though they were” as the Bible puts it could bring him healing…
Bola, I was hurt and disappointed. I've kept this to myself and feel it is time to speak up. When asked what he wants me to do, he said he wants me to stand with him in prayers and fight the situation. Bola, I don't see myself doing this. I have been asked to be considerate and remember my vows that say “for better, for worse”. But I took these vows out of deception. How long will this last? His situation s I found out is very medically challenging.
Bola I am a very sad and confused person. What will I say is the reason I got out of the marriage? He will be a public ridicule if I ever give the right reasons. Already, ever since we met with the pastor, he finds it difficult to go to church. It is tough. I can tell he is embarrassed and broken but I can't put my own life on hold for him especially so considering the fact that he lied to me. Please ask your listeners to help me out of this. I would like to enjoy intimacy and have children.
Timeli

Cuddlemii:

At least I know when to draw the line.
You are a persistent and consistent derailer/law breaker
tgirl4real is aware of the information.

brokoto: Tgirl is aware of which info pls?

Mynd_44:
Yes she is

brokoto: she is aware of what? that i'm a constant and unrepentant derailer?

Mynd_44:
Yes na. You wan deny am?

brokoto: ehen na! no be you teach me? but wetin come concern tgirl for the matter

Mynd_44:
Cos she is the mod there na

brokoto: wait o, u mean i was reported to the diary section moderator? How can one derail in d diary section biko?

Mynd_44:
T-girl is also the mod of the family section. And this is the family section

brokoto: *runs way from thread* abeg tell them say you no see me

lawrenzoo: I have been married for six months and I am in a very big dilemma especially so because I am a Christian. My husband is a pastor whiles I am a chorister.
On the night of our wedding, he insisted that, we pray and give thanks to God. We held long hours of prayer and to be honest with you I was very disappointed. The next day came and he told me that, he has a clear direction from God that, we need to wait for directions as to when we can start getting intimate. It's been one excuse after the other and it has been over six months.
He buys me gifts and makes sure I am comfortable but we have never had intimate relations in all the six months we've been married. I got infuriated and reported him to our counselor who spoke to us but things remained the same. This time round I went to the pastor in charge and upon questioning, my husband admitted that, he is totally impotent and cannot get his manhood up.
I was gripped with fear and shock. When asked how long he had had the problem, he said it's been about7 years. I asked why he did not tell me but lied to me. He said he took a wife by faith, believing that, taking that bold step and 'believing the things that be not as though they were” as the Bible puts it could bring him healing…
Bola, I was hurt and disappointed. I've kept this to myself and feel it is time to speak up. When asked what he wants me to do, he said he wants me to stand with him in prayers and fight the situation. Bola, I don't see myself doing this. I have been asked to be considerate and remember my vows that say “for better, for worse”. But I took these vows out of deception. How long will this last? His situation s I found out is very medically challenging.
Bola I am a very sad and confused person. What will I say is the reason I got out of the marriage? He will be a public ridicule if I ever give the right reasons. Already, ever since we met with the pastor, he finds it difficult to go to church. It is tough. I can tell he is embarrassed and broken but I can't put my own life on hold for him especially so considering the fact that he lied to me. Please ask your listeners to help me out of this. I would like to enjoy intimacy and have children.
Timeli

Odunnu:
even in my next world, I must service my husband to be very very well before the big day. I dont believe in abstinence and I hate surprises. This is to avoid such 'stories that touch the heart'

ItsModella:
I had to unstrike this cos it makes too much sense.

Odunnu:
If you are quoting me, quote me completely.

Nah, I only quote stuff that I like

Odunnu:
If only you had tested this rod before 'I Do' and just like David, fall before God in repentance. God would have forgiven you and then you would have known the truth and never married this 'fele-fele'
As it is now, marriage is 'for better for worse' i'll advice you to learn the art of smooching with your man. Use all your body parts and buy from madam CC the external parts that he doesnt have and enjoy sex. Adopt a baby and remain happy.

[s]even in my next world, I must service my husband to be very very well before the big day. I dont believe in abstinence and I hate surprises. This is to avoid such 'stories that touch the heart'[/s]