i don't think so,its just a thing of the mind

No.

Yes

^^ How so?

Do you feel inferior to them?

Efemena_xy: ^^ How so?

Do you feel inferior to them?

Lol Efe o!

Well to God be the glory I don't think I am considered 'poor' and I don't need to boast bout it.

Even a rich wants more not to speak of poor and we are talking about women here which even makes it worse !

Talk about undiluted inferiority !

Get real Efe ,

I would think so...Yes!!
...but i'd also think low self-esteem must have been a character trait of such women even before they were married...
It doesn't also help that the rich generally love to show off and with women it's usually worse..!
Whether you believe it or not,there's always a silent competition between women.
Only a woman who thinks highly of herself and is not affected by the generally accepted "usual" will not let the acquisition or not of material things/her husnand's status dictate her complex.

jidegirl12:

Lol Efe o!

Well to God be the glory I don't think I am considered 'poor' and I don't need to boast bout it.

Even a rich wants more not to speak of poor and we are talking about women here which even makes it worse !

Talk about undiluted inferiority !

Get real Efe ,

I am being real here.

Fact is, no matter how wealthy you are - unless you're the world's richest person, there would always be hundreds / thousands / millions of other people better off (financially) than you. So, are you going to feel inferior to all of them? I certainly do not and if that makes me different...oh well...

slimyem: I would think so...Yes!!
...but i'd also think low self-esteem must have been a character trait of such women even before they were married...
It doesn't also help that the rich generally love to show off and with women it's usually worse..!
Whether you believe it or not,there's always a silent competition between women.
Only a woman who thinks highly of herself and is not affected by the generally accepted "usual" will not let the acquisition or not of material things/her husnand's status dictate her complex.

Well, maybe those from the so-called "firewood" background might feel that way.

As per showing off, only ignorant Africans Nigerians sabi do I better pass my neighbour. That certainly isn't the case over here. No one gives a monkey about the size of your car, how often you change your designer wear, etc (unless of course you're a celebrity in the media spotlight). What's the gain in that, if I may ask?

Well Good for you for being okay with your status,

Efe but we are talking about poor people not an average person that should thank God for what he's got... You are already derailing ,

What's the point in what? Of course I'm gonna always want more till the rest of my life ....what are you talking about...who doesn't want to be partner with the Trump and say cos I'm not celebrity o, or world's richest o, I shouldn't want more....well of course if you don't have a goal in life then you settle for what you have.

The term 'Inferiority' we are talking about is for poor people which is always the case, they will always be unsecured and vulnerable period.

Define "poor" in this context...because to me, "poor-ness" is of the mind.

IMO; Poor means : Nothing....nada...not up to par....not enough , striving ( need more?)

Dictionary; having little or no money, goods, or other means of support: a poor family living on welfare.

Efemena_xy: Define "poor" in this context...because to me, "poor-ness" is of the mind.

Stop being ridiculous Efe; mind ko

I'm not.

Being poor goes beyond the non-acquisition of material wealth.

Efemena_xy:

I am being real here.

Fact is, no matter how wealthy you are - unless you're the world's richest person, there would always be hundreds / thousands / millions of other people better off (financially) than you. So, are you going to feel inferior to all of them? I certainly do not and if that makes me different...oh well...

i'm assuming here the op's is relating his question to women in a certain circle of friends not millions of other rich people in the world..

Well, maybe those from the so-called "firewood" background might feel that way.

As per showing off, only ignorant Africans Nigerians sabi do I better pass my neighbour. That certainly isn't the case over here. No one gives a monkey about the size of your car, how often you change your designer wear, etc (unless of course you're a celebrity in the media spotlight). What's the gain in that, if I may ask?

Sadly,that's what obtains here...
Everyone feels a need to show that he is superior to the other even with things as inconsequential as cellphones.There is a clear distinction between the rich and the poor.
...and No,its not just firewood background people...except you'd tell me all our leaders are that..
They are the main proponents/promoters of the margin between the rich and the poor..
They lead, we lots of Nigerians follow!

Efemena_xy: I'm not.

Being poor goes beyond the non-acquisition of material wealth.

Gosh Efe !! Okay then , Pls educate me?

I think it depends on the individual. People that see the need to compete with others have underlying issues. People that feel inferior to others over clothes, shoes or bags will still feel inferior even if they become overnight billionaires. There are some people that carry themselves with pride and grace, they are not the richest people either. That is what contentment brings you. Quite frankly I get turned off by people that try to compete with me, I work hard for my money and run my own race. I honestly don't value the friendships of such people. It is a very dangerous habit, and jealousy is a disease/demon all its own.

OP,

If the women have the inferiority complex maybe they should make the money and make their family rich at least nothing stops such women too from making money and making their family richer so she wont have to feel inferior to the other family

dayokanu: OP,

If the women have the inferiority complex maybe they should make the money and make their family rich at least nothing stops such women too from making money and making their family richer so she wont have to feel inferior to the other family

PREACH IT DD

dayokanu: OP,

If the women have the inferiority complex maybe they should make the money and make their family rich at least nothing stops such women too from making money and making their family richer so she wont have to feel inferior to the other family

GBAM!!

Well said...but I thought this was the assumption anyway? i.e the woman doing it herself? Or maybe I'm just too independent.

For those ladies out there who feel "intimidated" by others success, there is pride in doing it YOURSELF.

I'm surperised that this thread is about husband's wealth. Why not the wife's wealth

Not saying husband's money doesn't matter, but I should think that if at all I'd feel inferior, it'll be because the lady in question is richer or better placed than me, not her husband than mine!

No i dont feel inferior, not one bit. Not because I'm average (like jidegirl will say) but because it's absolutely unnecessary!

People who have no value and esteem will always have complex, they define themselves by being loud and having the biggest everything.
I run my own race and find contentment in lifes little gifts, if I buy something I buy it because I want and need it not because someone else has it.
As my Priest will always say, if you must compete then compete in doing good works, acts of kindness and charity not in vain things that God won't count as acheievments for you.

Shouldn't be but in the current world that we live in where class is everything then i'm afraid that seems to be the case.
There is a reason why like classes be it poor/middle/rich folks flock together

Msteeeewww, Just noticed that this topic is about Rich Husbands self. Who has time to sit comparing husbands riches? Idle minds really satans workshop

Ujujoan: I'm surperised that this thread is about husband's wealth. Why not the wife's wealth

Not saying husband's money doesn't matter, but I should think that if at all I'd feel inferior, it'll be because the lady in question is richer or better placed than me, not her husband than mine!

No i dont feel inferior, not one bit. Not because I'm average (like jidegirl will say) but because it's absolutely unnecessary!

What's wrong with being average...we are talking about poor people here

In the Bible it says: my people die from lack of knowledge?!Do u not know that someone can be poor in different ways? Why do nigerians associate being poor with not having money? U can be poor( lack) in many ways. If a woman to a rich man has money but does not have children or a hubby who cheats on her.. Would she not feel inferior to the so called'financially disabled' woman next door, who has children,a loving husband and a good home. People should stop comparing eachothers life and learn how to be grateful.

@OP, YES , they do. Online theories and internet Nigerians can wait first, time to get real. And oh, I'm talking about those living in Nigeria.

They feel inferior to the whole family, not just the man but even wife and kids. the rich in the bid to satisfy their conscience comfort their souls by pretending its "respect" they are according them .

In the church, market, mall, women meetings,hospital, school, salons etc, you see poor women with their esteems crushed.
Direct or indirect oppression of the poor by the rich makes them feel inferior. POVERTY is a curse!

If the women feel inferior, then what you are dealing with is not a RICH-vs-POOR husband problem, but a psychological issue. Even when single, the same women most likely felt inferior to wealthier women or men. this question is more about inferiority complex than it is about marriage itself.

btw, with the society placing much emphasis on "class and status" , why won't they be?

1. Poor woman queues up in the bank, the rich woman waltzes in. Cashier spots her designers, calls her straight to the counter and serves her fast ignoring the poor woman that has been on the queue since God knows when.

2. Poor woman goes to church early to get a seat in the front pews. The rich comes in late and the over zealous usher asks her to vacate the seat cos its "reserved" hmmmn!

3. A poor woman enters a stall to buy panadol, a rich woman parks her SUV outside, calls out the attendant to give her a long grocery list, the poor woman is totally ignored while the woman chilling in her SUV is served.

It just goes on and on. Why won't such women feel inferior ?

Now you want us to conclude that ALL poor women in that society suffer low self-esteem? Isn't that a bit of a stretch?

I didn't say all. The educated but poor don't for sure. I've seen such ones challenge whoever that wants to bring them down. They might not win but they atleast make some noise.

The poor and uneducated?Yes, most them living in Nigeria feel and are made to feel inferior to the rich.