would you start a relationship based on lust , or would love rule your heart .

hmmmmmmmmmm. . . . . neither. on friendship, yes

become friends first and every other falls in place.

ifyalways:

become friends first and every other falls in place.

abi o

lust is better if you don't lust you wont find _{it is called flirting}

On a serious note. Most people are ignorance of what it mean to love. At times, I laughs when I hear people defining lust as if it is evil. To the contrary, there is no love without lust. That is the basic fact most people ignored. Lust, therefore is the basic ingredient needed for love to grow. What is lust?

It means a "violent desire to possess sth".

And love means: "strong affection and tender feeling to or for sth".

Therefore, to love, you must strongly(violently if possible) desire that person. If there is no desire, the love won't ever come in. That is logical.

Love grows from lust. That is when we strongly desire somebody or someone after the first contact. The contact can be physical, or emotional. It could also be result of communication. This contact, stimulates the brain, stirs it and create lust in the body through the nervous systems which promptly relay the stimuli to the sense organs. The eyes, ears, and your phallus. One or all of these pick up the signal causing accelerated heartbeat.

The individual may or may not be aware of these effect. If he follow the impulse then come the second stage-COMMITMENT. It is at this stage that the victims of lust decides to "get together" and relate. At that point, the knowledge they gather from knowing one another would be pivotal to development of REAL LOVE. That is when affection and tenderness come in.

Love grows from commitment. Real love occur ONLY when you know your partner well. And at that stage, you can literarily dies for him or her!

Real Love often leads to marriage or very painful seperation.

Ironically, most of the so-called heartbreaks were never from real love. Most people, spend years lusting after one another and call it love! Most marriage that break easily were founded upon lust and NOT love!

From my experience, it takes a wise man to recognize true love. Love, true love, is always based on knowledge of the opposite sex.

And that for any real love to occur, it must have graduated from LUST to COMMITMENT. And it is always true. Real love can't hurt you!

What then causes heartbreaks? Why would lovers cheat on one another? What do lovebirds ended up breaking up?

These questions have straight answers.

Everyone notice the silence evil: INFATUATION. That is the culprit and not lust. Lust that is driven by greed, insincerity and and desires for physical gratification with not intention for commitment, is INFATUATION. Identifying infatuation is quite simple but requires alot of will power and self-control. Unfortunately, that is what most people lack.

INFATUATION NEVER LEAD TO COMMITMENT.
It can play on for years undetected.
It can leads to marriage. But the marriage will either lose steam after the consumation or the culprit would cheat on partner.

After lust driven by infatuation had been gratified, the culprit start losing interest in the affair. A wise partner should cut it off or await heartbreak.

In conclusion, commitment stage is the most important stage everyone should look for. That is when you would know whether the LUST is driven by LOVE or INFATUATION.

It is instructive to note that time interval between the stages varies. Depending on individual and their ability to have sincere communication.