Couples of nairaland, pls share you experiences with me on this matter.
I visted my big cousin in their home and happen to notice a misunderstsnding btw her and the husband, I ask my cuz what d matter was , she started by telling me her husband has refused to rent her a shop, I ask y wuldnt he do so,because I kn he's capable she was not able to give an answer.
So I had a discussion wit the husband , he told me point blank he wuldnt because my cuz has forfited her chances , I didn't understand @ that point untill he told me my cuz got pregnant without his consent.he even said it to my face he's not accepting the baby. I was like WOW! Do these things really happen? He futher explained he's always using condom , or do d withdrawal method blah blah...
Note: they have 2 boys already
The question here is this .. Do you plan b4 plan you have ur kids... What if it comes without planning
Thanks

isn't that the essence of family planning or have you been living under a rock for the past 100 yrs?

Ofcourse, it is all planned for, You cant expect me not to make adequate preparation for my baby and also give him/her the best care he/she desires.

But in special cases where the unexpected happen, we will keep the pregnancy.

Yes o. Plan, Plan, and work hard. Kids deserve in come into an environment where they can be taken care of. God will not provide for a lazy couple without realistic plans. Dont be deceived.

Yes OP unexpected and unplanned pregnancies confounds everybody in the family even tho it's a joyous thing... some people feign blithely ,some don't...just like the husband in the story.

IMO it has to be planned.... you need a game plan especially when other kids are involved .... staying home for mat leave costs a whole lot , childcare and the list goes on ... but when it happens, well what's done is done.

jidegirl12: Yes OP unexpected and unplanned pregnancies confounds everybody in the family even tho it's a joyous thing... some people feign blithely ,some don't...just like the husband in the story.

IMO it has to be planned.... you need a game plan especially when other kids are involved .... staying home for mat leave costs a whole lot , childcare and the list goes on ... but when it happens, well what's done is done.

+100

I can't say it better.

Pregnancy by accident mostly precedes planning. Pregnancy is a probabily, sometimes u could plan 4 baby n it doesn't come

baby_123: Yes o. Plan, Plan, and work hard. Kids deserve in come into an environment where they can be taken care of. God will not provide for a lazy couple without realistic plans. Dont be deceived.

Planning for babies? That is ridiculous! You don't plan, dear u hope for babies, providing the right environment for pregnancy to occur, and pray that you are so blessed.with children,there are no absolutes.

coldgate: Planning for babies? That is ridiculous! You don't plan, dear u hope for babies, providing the right environment for pregnancy to occur, and pray that you are so blessed.with children,there are no absolutes.

You only hope for babies when you're waiting / searching? We're talking about when other kids are involved ...., so she's right... you have to plan it.

Oh yes o!
You have to be emotionally and financially ready!
Or you can wait on the 'lord' to provide!

coldgate:
Planning for babies? That is ridiculous! You don't plan, dear u hope for babies, providing the right environment for pregnancy to occur, and pray that you are so blessed.with children,there are no absolutes.

people do plan for babies, particularly if they want the babies to be born in a particular month.

for example, conceiving this month will give you a baby anytime from september onwards (maybe before).


etc etc, all things being equal of course, and barring any unforeseen circumstances.


in addition, women do calculate their ovulation periods, etc.