maxwello.yg:
no, you are wrong, men are supposed to speak to ladies with a good amount of respect, but softer nd warmer than d way they speak to their fellow men. afterall they are our fellow humans aren't they ?

fellis: Not all Nigerian men are inconsiderate sexists
There are good ones. It's just unfortunate that majority of the men you have met are those men that think wife is another word for slave.
Talk to ya hubby and try to let him understand what you need from him.
Anyway the answer to the question in your last paragraph is that religions place men above women (although it doesn't teach them to be inconsiderate arseholes)and that is why a lot of men treat women as inferior beings.

mushona: Im married to a Nigerian who in the begining of the relationship assumed I would subscribe to his stupid sexist tendencies!!! but I soon fixed that. BUT as I read through Nairaland and interact with my male in- laws and other Nigerian men at church I begin to realise that that primitive attitude seems to be the norm for Nigerians. Really in this day and age women should not be viewed as possessions or mules. I was very pissed when one of my husbands uncles had a go at me for asking my mother in law to help me find a maid claiming it is my duty to do all the house work. Ive done all my own housework thus far but now wit a new baby due any minute, a child in school a business that I run (which contributes a large chunk to our lifestyle)I dont see why I shouldnt get help. I cant exactly just let my business die so i can sit at home with the baby. please dont answer me wit crap about washing machines, hoovers etc coz i have all that but a washing machine does not load itself and I cant leave the baby with a washing machine.

Anyway back to the point. I really want to understand why men think they are entitled to speak and behave to women as they please?

KateSpade: depends on the man. Ive dated guys from different cultures and a lot of them have this superiority complex. I believe its because nobody or not enough people have "checked" them. Got to start when they are young.

Genius100: If you no like am, go marry woman..

jidegirl12:

Self confident eh? You kinda need to instil that into kids .... sorry to disappoint you but 'checking' them will not change anything but make you angry more ..... if you can't deal waka pass.... they will find their type with same values. Superiority complex all the way

Genius100:

If you no like am, go marry woman..

Siena:

Your response to a very rampant issue speaks volumes. What you're saying in effect is, that is how men are meant to behave, and women must either accept it without question, or not get married to Nigerian men.

Smh.

chaircover: Why?

Because many women let them full stop!

because some of us do actually behave like possessions! Because some of us dont bring anything to the table! Because some of us are more concerned about trivial things than the important ones! Because some of us have low self esteem! Because some of us trade our respect for horse hair and blackberrys! Because some of us want to sport a ring on that finger by any means and so we choose anything wearing trousers even though he clearly has Mr Wrong boldly written across his forehead!

Yes there will be the ones who haven't been brought up well by their parents, but if women refuse to go out with them and marry them, then they will have no choice but to change their ways.

Genius100:

If you no like am, go marry woman..

Siena:

Your response to a very rampant issue speaks volumes. What you're saying in effect is, that is how men are meant to behave, and women must either accept it without question, or not get married to Nigerian men.

Smh.

chaircover: Why?

Because many women let them full stop!

because some of us do actually behave like possessions! Because some of us dont bring anything to the table! Because some of us are more concerned about trivial things than the important ones! Because some of us have low self esteem! Because some of us trade our respect for horse hair and blackberrys! Because some of us want to sport a ring on that finger by any means and so we choose anything wearing trousers even though he clearly has Mr Wrong boldly written across his forehead!

Yes there will be the ones who haven't been brought up well by their parents, but if women refuse to go out with them and marry them, then they will have no choice but to change their ways.

Daresh: My sister, hmmm, Nigerian men ehn! I just shake my head. My case is similar to yours, I have managed to drum out the sexism to an extent from my husband cos b4 we married he used to say and think the dumbest things. However his relatives? I shake my head. The day his uncle told me, pregnant women shd not wear trousers! Or "don't cross your legs in front of your husbands ppl! I just ignore him. When I told my husband, he was mad. See these ppl are so damn backward, just ignore them. I ALWAYS said my daughter will never marry a Nigerian man. I said it even b4 I had a daughter. I can't deal with their wahala for the poor girl. My husband has bn asking what is wrong with Nigerian men, I refer him to his relatives.

fellis:

So this is the reason some men sound so patronising when they talk to women.

chaircover: Why?

Because many women let them full stop!

because some of us do actually behave like possessions! Because some of us dont bring anything to the table! Because some of us are more concerned about trivial things than the important ones! Because some of us have low self esteem! Because some of us trade our respect for horse hair and blackberrys! Because some of us want to sport a ring on that finger by any means and so we choose anything wearing trousers even though he clearly has Mr Wrong boldly written across his forehead!

Yes there will be the ones who haven't been brought up well by their parents, but if women refuse to go out with them and marry them, then they will have no choice but to change their ways.

maxwello.yg:

men can marry anytime they want so you refusing can't taky anything away from them, keep refusing, by the time you clock 40 years old without getting married, you would start begging men to marry you.

maxwello.yg:


patronising? Are you all objects? As in, market wares?

mushona: please dont answer me wit crap about washing machines, hoovers etc coz i have all that but a washing machine does not load itself and I cant leave the baby with a washing machine.