I recently got married to my wife and we are getting to know each other well... But my major challenge with her is her inability to be time conscious doing "women stuff", i used to be a very organized and prompt person at occassions & church services but ever since i got married i find myself arriving late at occassions due to my wife's delays.

I tried some techniques like making sure she takes her bath on time & before me, reducing our expected time of arrival eg telling her 8am when the events actually starts by 9am...but havent made much progress.

I humbly requests for advice / tips from the married men in the house on how i can ensure i carry my wife along and attend functions/church services at the correct time without a quarrel.

leave her beind after some time she will adjust

Your initial solution is ok. Let her bath 2hours before you bath.

If the meeting starts at 8am,wake her up by 12 am to start preparing.
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sexybash: leave her beind after some time she will adjust

Pyramid, This is the best advice you have been given and would ever be given on this thread. Ignore every other one. This is the answer!!!

Is the babe in question the same one you requested proposal tips for ?
During courtship, did you not realise her African Timing Schedules? And if you did, you accepted her and it, for what it is/was ?

Lexusgs430: Is the babe in question the same one you requested proposal tips for ?
During courtship, did you not realise her African Timing Schedules? And if you did, you accepted her and it, for what it is/was ?

Acceptance does not mean she cant make improvements.

sexybash: leave her beind after some time she will adjust

Best Advice so far. Leave her behind and let her start coming afterwards. Na so 98% of women dey do.

SOME PEOPLE THINK IF THEY MARRY EVERY THING IS OVER NO, THAT IS WERE YOU START LIFE LIKE A DAY CHILD . SO MY BROTHER KEEP DOING WHAT U ARE DOING SO THAT UR WIFE WILL CHANGE DONT LIVE HER. PRAY OVER IT AND U WILL GET WHAT U WANT.

Oga, Calm down oh. My Parents are still having this fight till today. My poor Father after over 40 years of marriage still laments about being late.
My case is different, Mr. DB is when we go out he wants you to outline all the places you intend to go, Me kuma as the Spirit leads, so when he makes his plans and times it, me I scatter them, We don quarel taya, he don warn me taya.
I don't do it out of spite or to annoy him but I plan every minute of my life at work let me have freedom when am with Oga, why do I have to do per minute planning again?

But I am always on time for events, he on the other hand is the late one.
What to do poster? I no know oh, this is part of the wahala that comess with merging your life with another person

debrief08:
What to do poster? I no know oh, this is part of the wahala that comess with merging your life with another person

Exactly

andromida:

Acceptance does not mean she cant make improvements.

Very True

OP my opinion ; leave her behind.... we go to church in different rides cos I can't afford to miss the praise worship .... He's still looking for his purple cuff links and my kids are already packed in the vehicle.... off we go

Hmmmm -__-. This topic is like a slap in the face. . I think changing the time works. And if you are picking her up, when you are 15mins away, tell her you are outside. Leaving her once also will show seriousness and that you are not finding it funny. It is not easy to try to look good. These things take hours.

redcliff:

Pyramid, This is the best advice you have been given and would ever be given on this thread. Ignore every other one. This is the answer!!!

seconded

i tried it on my wife and it worked, having been gentle about and it was a very important event she could not afford to miss. well, she came on taxi with her own money and that was the end to the problem.

mind you, don't do this for unimportant event for her.

pyramid777: I recently got married to my wife and we are getting to know each other well... But my major challenge with her is her inability to be time conscious doing "women stuff", i used to be a very organized and prompt person at occassions & church services but ever since i got married i find myself arriving late at occassions due to my wife's delays.

I tried some techniques like making sure she takes her bath on time & before me, reducing our expected time of arrival eg telling her 8am when the events actually starts by 9am...but havent made much progress.

I humbly requests for advice / tips from the married men in the house on how i can ensure i carry my wife along and attend functions/church services at the correct time without a quarrel.

unfortunately, you cannot do anything about this.
i am certain there's a certain strand in a woman's DNA that prevents her from being time conscious. women would always take the piss with time. your wife is perfectly normal - ask your colleagues what they are going through as well, you would be pleasantly surprised is the same everywhere. the only way to it is getting prepared far earlier than schedule. if you want to get to a social function by 4pm, start preparing by 10am.

sexybash: leave her beind after some time she will adjust

Gbam
It works
My father did it to my mom quite a few times when we were kids and she shortened her dressing time by force
Sometimes he turned around to come pick her and sometimes he didn't
It made me sad though when we returned to see my mom sad for being left behind

Leave her behind, it works like magic. . .My step dad used to warn my mum sternly about her lateness(she was always late). . .There was a time he left her behind for a very important occasion because she wasted a lot of time, she never believe he was ever going to leave her behind but he did. . .After that he made it clear, get dressed on time or I will leave without you. . .Since then till today my mum tries her very best never to be late when ever they are going out. . .There was a time not long ago she was late and he left without her. . .My ex also had a habit of being late, she will try 3 different dresses on before finally choosing the one to wear sometimes. . .I tolerated her for a while, when I could bear it no longer I started leaving her behind and it stopped immediately. . I Left her behind 3 times and the lateness ended. . .

There are some women that You will leave behind and you will get the worst side of her at home.
@op, You alone knowS your wife's temperament. Check it what will happen if you leave her behind, if she will be remorseful abt her lateness then do it but if it will add salt to injury, then plan ya events ahead of time.

sexybash: leave her beind after some time she will adjust

You've said it all, @op dis will work magic, just try it

Thanks guyz / ladies....

Any other Opinions / tips ?

1. Give her at least 2 hrs advance time. E.g if the meeting is for 2, tell her it's 12.
2. Get ready yourself, go outside and start the Car . . . keep it running. It'll give her the impression that you are about to leave her and make her hurry up.
3. Help he with things. E.g . . pick out her clothes, help her get the baby ready (if you have one), help her do some chores while she dresses. Some men just wake up and get dressed while wifey runs around the house trying to get everything and herself ready on time.
4. Try telling her calmly how her attitude annoys you.

I honestly don't know why people make it a habit f being late. I'm a woman myself and (not to boast) I always get ready on time. Most times I get ready before my hubby cos I wake up earlier knowing I have the baby to get ready as well!

I think it all boils down to discipline . . .

It's all about organization.

@poster, get your wife...no, you do this for her...set her watch 1 hour early.

Might work

Ujujoan: 1. Give her at least 2 hrs advance time. E.g if the meeting is for 2, tell her it's 12.
2. Get ready yourself, go outside and start the Car . . . keep it running. It'll give her the impression that you are about to leave her and make her hurry up.
3. Help he with things. E.g . . pick out her clothes, help her get the baby ready (if you have one), help her do some chores while she dresses. Some men just wake up and get dressed while wifey runs around the house trying to get everything and herself ready on time.
4. Try telling her calmly how her attitude annoys you.

I honestly don't know why people make it a habit f being late. I'm a woman myself and (not to boast) I always get ready on time. Most times I get ready before my hubby cos I wake up earlier knowing I have the baby to get ready as well!

I think it all boils down to discipline . . .

i put it to you that you are lying......
the average nigerian woman spends 45 mins in the bathroom, 30 mins to get dressed and another 40 mins to make-up. my pet peeve is that horrible pencil they use to line the eyes. you people have turned to plastic surgeons in your bid to look good. men don't really pay attention to all these nonsense. they are only interested in the "other features". women, stop wasting "our" time!!!

coogar:

i put it to you that you are lying......
the average nigerian woman spends 45 mins in the bathroom, 30 mins to get dressed and another 40 mins to make-up. my pet peeve is that horrible pencil they use to line the eyes. you people have turned to surgeons in your bid to look good. men don't really pay attention to all these nonsense. they are only interested in the "other features". women, stop wasting "our" time!!!

Well, you can believe what you want.
I'm definitely not a make up person. My husband likes it when I make up so most of my make up is done on the go, in the car. It consists of light brown powder, lipstick/gloss and sometimes eye shadow. No drawing of looong eye pencil of anything funny!
I don't tie gele to church, I don't tie wrapper or wear really difficult attires.
I can get ready in 20 mins or less once I have my closet picked out (which I always do waaaay ahead of time).
Even if I'm going for a 'special' occasion, one that requires all the props, I always start getting dressed waaaaaay ahead of time.
Like I said, it's all about discipline. I grew up in a house where going late was a taboo. If you don't get ready for school run, you'll be trekking to school that day. My dad was an early bird so I was ALWAYS the first to get to school. If anyone manages to come before me, my whole day will be ruined.
I'm sorry to break your heart honey, but not all women are late birds!

I can't believe people are sugeesting leaving her behind!
She's his wife, not some 10-year old!

"You've seen how your mom and I leave over the years, use the differences you may have to your advantage and always show love". That was my dad's advice when he visited us 7yrs ago before our honeymoon. My advice to you will be, show her lots of love and respect in whatever way you strategise this, it works like margic. Anger does not work, it just greats tension. I know its a cultural thing but, helping a little around the house is not a sign of weakness,in that way, she'll get lots of rest and I wish you well.

coogar:

i put it to you that you are lying......
the average nigerian woman spends 45 mins in the bathroom, 30 mins to get dressed and another 40 mins to make-up. my pet peeve is that horrible pencil they use to line the eyes. you people have turned to plastic surgeons in your bid to look good. men don't really pay attention to all these nonsense. they are only interested in the "other features". women, stop wasting "our" time!!!

You don't like eye pencil ?? Your pet peeve ?

Go for events separately

BABE!:

You don't like eye pencil ?? Your pet peeve ?

i hate it more than i hate satan!

Leave her behind jare.

coogar:

i hate it more than i hate satan!

You lie!! You can't even say that with a straight face. You love it more than sèx!

Ujujoan: 1. Give her at least 2 hrs advance time. E.g if the meeting is for 2, tell her it's 12.
2. Get ready yourself, go outside and start the Car . . . keep it running. It'll give her the impression that you are about to leave her and make her hurry up.
3. Help he with things. E.g . . pick out her clothes, help her get the baby ready (if you have one), help her do some chores while she dresses. Some men just wake up and get dressed while wifey runs around the house trying to get everything and herself ready on time.
4. Try telling her calmly how her attitude annoys you.

I honestly don't know why people make it a habit f being late. I'm a woman myself and (not to boast) I always get ready on time. Most times I get ready before my hubby cos I wake up earlier knowing I have the baby to get ready as well!

I think it all boils down to discipline . . .

Please don't take any advice from this post.

Women are usually very horrible at giving advice concerning other women. The behaviour persists because it is rewarded.

Leave her at home a few times and she'll 'get with the program'. Women are just like little babies and need a little 'iron hand' from time to time.

Richfella:

Please don't take any advice from this post.

Women are usually very horrible at giving advice concerning other women. The behaviour persists because it is rewarded.

Leave her at home a few times and she'll 'get with the program'. Women are just like little babies and need a little 'iron hand' from time to time.

Exactly one of my favourite quote is "Never reward bad behaviour".