I really can't understand why a guy would find it so hard to settle down with a lady dat has a kid b4 they met....but if d guy happens 2 b d one wearing d shoe he'd expect nothing less dan total commitment to him nd d kid frm d lady... Why shud dis be?

Most guys don't want to clean up someone else's shit. When u still find it hard to commit to a lady that has no issue, why will u in ur right senses go for someone else's vomit?

Arkhin: Most guys don't want to clean up someone else's shit. When u still find it hard to commit to a lady that has no issue, why will u in ur right senses go for someone else's vomit?

So the child is someone else's vomit? Chei! See how people reason!

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Arkhin: Most guys don't want to clean up someone else's shit. When u still find it hard to commit to a lady that has no issue, why will u in ur right senses go for someone else's vomit?

but d guy wud expect a lady 2 care for his if he was d one in da shoe..abi?

bbeckky: I really can't understand why a guy would find it so hard to settle down with a lady dat has a kid b4 they met....but if d guy happens 2 b d one wearing d shoe he'd expect nothing less dan total commitment to him nd d kid frm d lady... Why shud dis be?

well it depends on what society you find urself. Personally I wouldn't do that; settle for a leftover. No pun intended. It's just the reality of the matter

dick hardener: well it depends on what society you find urself. Personally I wouldn't do that; settle for a leftover. No pun intended. It's just the reality of the matter

Wow!!! A leftover

bbeckky: Wow!!! A leftover

Dont worry, there is someone for everyone. Your child does not make you a left over. Just take your time and dont be desperate. Get to know people and tell them you have a child FIRST, then study them. If they dont want, let them go. If they do, take your time to make sure they are not there because they feel you are desperate. Always put your child first when making the decision of a new spouse. He must be willing to love and accept your child. And your child must like him too. Also BEWARE of child molesters. They see single mothers as good targets for their crazy activities. Take your time and prepare yourself for who you want to attract. Goodluck.

bbeckky: Wow!!! A leftover

I did not mean to sound rash but personally my preference would be having my offspring fIrst in that womb and not some other dude blasting that womb and va***a. But like baby 123 said there's definitely some man who wouldn't mind fathering another mans kid. Goodluck

baby_123:

Dont worry, there is someone for everyone. Your child does not make you a left over. Just take your time and dont be desperate. Get to know people and tell them you have a child FIRST, then study them. If they dont want, let them go. If they do, take your time to make sure they are not there because they feel you are desperate. Always put your child first when making the decision of a new spouse. He must be willing to love and accept your child. And your child must like him too. Also BEWARE of child molesters. They see single mothers as good targets for their crazy activities. Take your time and prepare yourself for who you want to attract. Goodluck.

Well said

I personally will not do that, taking another guy child in my home chai... You know is kind of irritating and it got nothing to do with jealousy, but some how.

But it all depends on the girl in question, maybe if she does something pricely for me and how we met and if i indeed love her, i might consider her, but before that i will check the conditions that result to the child birth and the father in general i still have to look those area. Before i consider the girl but definatly not the child.

Also there are evidence that she might go back to the father of the child later, and she can not love me and my children without loving the another child and the father this can cause family problem in the home in future, you see its ricky and dengerious act to do. I would not advice it

@op, ur assertion/assumption is wrong. I've seen many single mums happily married.

If a guy/man runs away from a lady with issue, I don't think its solely because of her child, there is more to it.

I can marry a single mum provided she has what I want and am satisfied with the circumstances surrounding her child bearing.

In conclusion, having issue is not a red card in d field of play. What matters is ur character. And for ladies, if u are bless with a child, be 100%+ proud of her/him. Always let any guy dat is interested in u know u have a child. If he doesn't want child/children, let him park well.

@OP. So many reason e.g, The issue of disciplining the child would be tricky, the step-father cant go hard cause the child ain't his and the mother would be protective. This might bring about an unruly adolescent and put a big strain on the union later.
The ex husband might still have some sort of hold over the woman, this could bring all sorts of issues and he just might seduce her to bed again just to spite the new husband.
There are several reasons, the new man would be vulnerable in so many ways.

If you are in Nigeria, or you intend to marry a Nigerian, you are better of targeting a divorced man or a widower with one or more kids.

All na naija mentality monkey see monkey do but monkey never travel out before oo on a more serious note, Nigerians are too family oriented and inter-connected eg in Nigeria I love my cousins my cousins love me; every aunts and uncle loves us because from beginning na one papa and mama the family knew, imagine there's now one random kid that a man can't account for no one will accept neither of them he will be a side person the family will just be looking at you. Even in chemistry the free radical and semi lone pair know they fit enter levels however, in this day each pikin they hold him mama breast nobody has time for anybody anymore it's strictly mind your business so I say marry that lady and her strange child if you love her

Hmm...dos r selected few. On a scale of 1-10, u'll only get 2 for "happily married single mums" Datz d truth

amtheone: @op, ur assertion/assumption is wrong. I've seen many single mums happily married.

If a guy/man runs away from a lady with issue, I don't think its solely because of her child, there is more to it.

I can marry a single mum provided she has what I want and am satisfied with the circumstances surrounding her child bearing.

In conclusion, having issue is not a red card in d field of play. What matters is ur character. And for ladies, if u are bless with a child, be 100%+ proud of her/him. Always let any guy dat is interested in u know u have a child. If he doesn't want child/children, let him park well.

Hmm....dats quite understandable.

chucky101: @OP. So many reason e.g, The issue of disciplining the child would be tricky, the step-father cant go hard cause the child ain't his and the mother would be protective. This might bring about an unruly adolescent and put a big strain on the union later.
The ex husband might still have some sort of hold over the woman, this could bring all sorts of issues and he just might seduce her to bed again just to spite the new husband.
There are several reasons, the new man would be vulnerable in so many ways.

Can't say I blame 'em. . .I WILL NOT MARRY A MAN WITH A CHILD EITHER. . .SINGLE, DIE-VORCED OR WIDOWED!

Reason: DAMAGED GOOD! WAS NEVER SHORT OF CLEAN, UNATTACHED SUITORS. . . NO BAGGAGE LIKE MOI!!!!

I only do freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh! SOMEONE LIKE ME. . . .

LEVELS SHOULD STICK WITH LEVELS. . .IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN. . .HOOK UP WITH WOMEN THAT HAVE CHILDREN. . . SIMPLE!!!


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