zayhal: Good fences makes good neighbors. How come they clash all the time. I assume your sisters don't live with you?

You wife should be the closer one to you so I'd suggest you appeal to her to take things easy. She should try to be diplomatic to your sisters. Some sister-in-laws see their brothers' wives as kind of rivals or enemies. I don't know how they reason or where this is coming from.

I've got tough sister-in-laws too but I know how I handle them. Yorubas say 'mo wa fun oniwa lo nje ore dore'. Know everyone for whom they are and you'll have a good relationship with them. If you can and if she'll listen, tell your wife to stop flexing muscles with them. She should keep them at arms length and relate with them as diplomatically as she can during family gatherings.

It's unfortunate that things have degenerated to this level. Building up a good relationship back with them may not be an easy thing. But if good fences are made now, hopefully, time would erase the bad memories of the past relationship and they can be on platonic levels.

Mind you, my good fences there doesn't mean boycotting them o. It means to keep them at arms length.

I must commend you for showing concern and looking for solution to this. Some men will just pretend it doesn't affect them or they're not aware. Wish you peace all through.

biolabee: are you a man or a mouse

wetin concern ur wife with ur sisters

remove the source of interactions and you will have peace

you have to stay neutral

akoraye: Thanks for the piece of advise God will surely bless you but one thing that gives me concern is that there is no how the will not see eachother, you know what I mean our yoruba culture<, go for this occasion or the other. about staying with my sister no! but during all these family gathering! But I will still do more of what you advised God bless you!

biolabee: i understand yoruba customs wella and i still dont understand what u are saying

OK Let me put it to you in plain english

Forbid your wife from discussing anything with her inlawa
If she or they have anything to say to each other, it should go through you

if she comes for house cooking, once she is assigned her tasks (aso ebi, shell egusi or pund yam etc) she should do it with minimal fuss and move on
If you are upstate or out of town, use hotels

The matter simple
except they live with you

If na that one, move the younger sis back to the fathers house or help with an apartment
If you dont have peacem, how wll u deliver in the workplace

Mrs mansson:
What do you mean by their is no way they won't see each other.do they just meet and start quarelling.when your wife attends your family function she should create her own space,greet them with a smile whether they reciprocate back or not.my hubby's younger is very troublesome,she even insulted me on my wedding day and almost wanted to fight with me.since then I caught her off totally from my life like she doesn't exist.she is so scared of visiting because we have nothing to discuss.I can't remember the last time I called her sef.to me this is not an issue oh.let your wife mind her biz completely this is not enemity.

biolabee: i understand yoruba customs wella and i still dont understand what u are saying

OK Let me put it to you in plain english

Forbid your wife from discussing anything with her inlawa
If she or they have anything to say to each other, it should go through you

if she comes for house cooking, once she is assigned her tasks (aso ebi, shell egusi or pund yam etc) she should do it with minimal fuss and move on
If you are upstate or out of town, use hotels

The matter simple
except they live with you

If na that one, move the younger sis back to the fathers house or help with an apartment
If you dont have peacem, how wll u deliver in the workplace

akoraye: Thanks for the enlightenment! God less you!

akoraye: Thank you for that piece, I thank I have grabbed your point. God bless your home!

Mrs mansson:
Bless me not less me oh

Mrs mansson:
Bless me not less me oh

tellwisdom: Bring your other sis to me let me smooch her to ease your wife, this threat.

Meringe:
Why are u here kid?