7 Reasons You’re Not as Successful as
You Could Be

The difference between a successful person and
others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of
knowledge, but rather a lack in will.
–Vince Lombardi

Feeling down about your forward progress lately?
Do you feel like you’re running in place? Need some
motivation and tough love to help you reinvigorate
your success rate? Well, here you go – seven
reasons you’re not the great success story you could
be:


1. You do a lot of thinking without acting.
Too often we think without acting. We do nothing
with our ideas. Everyone who has ever taken a long,
hot shower has had many great ideas. I’m sure you
can relate. But you will only make a difference in
this world if you get out of the shower, dry off and do
something with them.
The only way to conquer your dreams and doubts is
with action. Wondering about them will not get
anything done. Avoiding challenges will only make
them grow bigger. If you wait until all conditions are
perfect, you will spend the rest of your life waiting.
Great achievements are made by starting from
exactly where you are right now with exactly what
you have right now. Stop wondering and start
doing. Once you’ve made a little progress you’ll
always know, without a doubt, that you can make
even more progress if you try.


2. Your creative mind is completely unfocused.
Constraints nurture productive side of the creative
mind. At first it might seem as though complete
freedom makes all creative ventures more
attainable, but this isn’t the truth. Complete
freedom makes the possibilities endless, but keeps
your efforts scattered and unfocused.
Often, self-imposed constraints, or boundaries, force
you to think differently about challenges, leading to
more practical ideas and innovations. Instead of
thinking ‘outside the box’ and looking in every
possible direction, get inside one box – a specific
problem that needs a resolution, a smaller space
where big changes can be made, etc. – and focus
your creative attention on making a difference.
These boundaries create the foundation from which
to launch a productive, creative effort. It’s like
pushing off from the ground when riding a
skateboard, or from the wall of the pool when you’re
swimming laps – having something solid to push
against allows you to move forward with greater
ease and more power. And over time, as you test
these boundaries by pushing against them, you
figure out which ones can be broken and expanded,
and which ones need to remain fixed in place.


3. You are focusing too much on fears and defeats.
Your problems are really your blessings if you use
them to grow stronger. Never quit just because you
feel temporarily defeated. You have not been beaten
– this is not a competition. Keep working to be the
best you can be. It doesn’t matter how slow you go
so long as you don’t give up on yourself.
In the long run, it usually isn’t what you have or
where you are or what you’ve been through that
makes or breaks you; it’s how you think about it all
and what you do next. Focus your conscious mind
on things you desire, not your fears and defeats.
Doing so brings dreams to life .


4. Your expectations are crushing you.
Drop the needless expectations. Appreciate what
is. It doesn’t matter if your glass is half empty or
half full. Just be thankful that you have a glass and
that there’s something in it. Choosing to be positive
and having an appreciative attitude influences
everything you do. The magnitude of your happiness
and success will be directly proportional to the
magnitude of your thoughts and how you choose to
think about things.
Nothing ever works out exactly the way you want it
to. Hope for the best, but expect less. Appreciate
reality, don’t fight it. Don’t let what you expected to
happen blind you from all the goodness happening
around. Even if it doesn’t work out at all, it’s still
worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it
taught you something new.


5. You have become distracted from your core goals.
People might tell you it’s impossible, but it’s not.
Though the challenges may be great, you can make
things happen. The odds may not seem to be in your
favor right now, but you can change the odds. When
something difficult you want to achieve connects
deeply with your purpose, it becomes possible.
When you are driven and committed and persistent,
you will get yourself there step by step.
So look within yourself and unearth the values and
goals that you most earnestly feel a deep connection
with. In the end, it’s the things that are genuinely
important to you that will power your greatest
achievements.


6. You are playing it too safe.
Pain is a pesky part of being human but it’s vitally
important. It strengthens the mind, heart and body.
You can’t grow strong, brave, or successful in this
world if you’ve only had good things happen to you
within the safe boundaries of your own little comfort
bubble. You need real life experiences, and nothing
ever becomes real until you experience it firsthand.
No matter how long you train yourself to be strong,
brave, or proficient at something, you never know if
you are or not until something real happens to you.
So get real, experience life and let it teach you what
you need to know to conquer your wildest dreams.


7. You have been resisting forgiveness.
Alexander Pope once said, “To err is human, to
forgive, divine.” Nothing could be closer to the
truth. Your willingness to forgive yourself and
others is the greatest sign of your emotional and
spiritual maturity. It’s a process of acceptance and
understanding that allows you to let go of a situation
that’s over so you can move on with your life.
The key is to be thankful for every experience –
positive or negative. It’s taking a step back and
saying, “ Thank you for the lesson.”
Take a moment and imagine if every person
(including yourself) who owed you an apology
apologized today, and imagine if you accepted these
apologies. What a weight lifted. Now imagine if
everyone, everywhere did this. How many problems
in the world would evaporate?

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