Abel202: [b]My people, as far as am concerned, there is nothing wrong in adding a little more weight after marriage. Infact I love it. I and my wife have been married for 7 years now. Both of us have added a little more weight, and believe you me, we look so lovely like a happily married African-Nigerian couple should look. Adding too much weight would not be good for health and other reasons;Yes. But I definitely will not tolerate my wife looking like OGBONGE FISH because she wants to look slim-fit. I do not like skinny-slim-fit girls. I love ladies with curves. So as my wife has added a bit more weight after 3 issues, she is even more curvy, more mature and certainly more s²xy and more beautiful. And I love her the more for it. A married woman should look well-fed and respectable. There is nothing like village mentality in this. I have been arround the world, but I love us Africans more than any other race. So I don't buy the idea of someone trying to look like tooth-pick just to keep in shape. For what? But its also good for one to watch your weight and not become too fat or obesse. Bottom line is that every couple should decide what's best for them and go ahead to achieve it.Societal consideration and conformity is also important. If you live in Western Europe or America, you might do your best to give yourself a hell of exercise all the time to conform with their ogbonge-fish-looking preferred stature. But if you live in Naija, you should consider adding a bit more weight after marriage to look wellfed and trendy. Just make sure you deal with the tummy after childbirth. Nigerians are among the most beautiful people on planet earth.[/b]

adconline: The thing is that Nigerians still associate over eating and drinking with being rich.. ie. big man. That's why most rich folks and politicians have pot bellies. If you take a girl out, she will eat like there is no tomorrow. Most of our foods are full of carbs. It's hard to go to a restaurant/function and order naked fresh salad without salad cream or mayonnaise. If u want salad without anything , you will be looked at someone who is insane. It's collective ignorance and aloofnes

Michaeljones36: EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

If my girl gets obese after we get married, I'm getting a divorce straight away! That's just plain nasty. How selfish could you be? Having relations with an obese woman is not what anyone signs up for when they get married, unless the person was already obese beforehand.

This is why I plan on marrying an athlete, dancer, etc. I work out and keep my body in shape, so there's no excuse for you to ruin your body and just expect me to accept it.

This is why some men end up cheating on their spouses. Ridiculous!

byvan:


Yeah,cheating on their spouses with even uglier girls.People cheat because they want to,no excuses.

nbright: Most people cheat because they are forced to.... Either directly or indirectly..

byvan:

Cheating first starts in your mind, no one can force anyone to cheat. Most cheat because they ll get away with,if the penalty for cheating is amputation of both legs,no one will cheat,forced or not.

nbright: @bolded... Do you know that some women don't like s€x?, now if such a woman marry a s€xually active man and she's always complaining about the number of times he demands for it and she do deny it to him sometimes what do you think he will do?.... If he goes out to look for it isn't he forced to look outside?.

byvan:

Forced indeed,and he didn't know that before he married her?

nbright: When ladies are now clamouring for the "no sex till after marriage" thingy, how will a brother know those things?.

byvan:

Cheating first starts in your mind,no one can force anyone to cheat.Most cheat because they ll get away with,if the penalty for cheating is amputation of both legs,no one will cheat,forced or not.

byvan:


How many men are really married to women whom they never had sexual knowledge of prior to marriage?how many guys are really willing not to taste before purchasing?

dBard:

ermmm..Yes, they will.
There's HIV now n yet people still have unprotected sex.
Amputation or not, cheating will happen..

nbright: Because of the lies girls do tell... You will see a girl using alum on her privates just to deceive a brother that she's a virgin and all... I am an advocate of taste before buying/marriage... If she say she a virgin and you marry her then find out she lied to you, then that's cheating...

byvan:

What's hard in confirming virginity from a Gyno??There is no excuse for cheating.Why seeking a virgin while you aren't one??why will you cheat if your virgin turns out to be a log of wood in bed??we are derailing Jeffizy's thread abeg.

nbright: I have Never claimed to be a virgin, neither do I claim to be looking for one... Men cheat so also do the women..

byvan:


Yeah,cheating on their spouses with even uglier girls.People cheat because they want to,no excuses.

victorian: Av been Orobo from day 1,with big Bo..Obie's and that was one physical attributes that attracted my hubby ... Himself has a chiseled biceps, and and arms to bad... .... He had always love clothes , I wear and when it comes to my lingerie, he melts like butter ... He warned me,on no condition must I add extra weight to wat I av , and neither must I lost any pounds too....but maintain my shape... It's not easy, but with extra workloads on my hands .. ... Am on point....While his chest has become bigger and thick.. I melt anytime, I look at him... Thank God, he is disciplined . ... Have never felt attracted to slim guys at all...

idee.esperanza:

what about garri, fufu, mtn rice, beans?

Babe_101: All of you insulting women here, na wa for una o!
What time would she have for workout when she wakes up in the morning to prepare food for the family, bathe the kids and beg them to please drink tea and finish up their food when she's also running late for work at the same time? By the time she gets home in the evening, another set of chores starts again, then at nite oga deposits his s.p.e.r.m inside her? Why the woman no go fat? Make una take time for here o

nbright: Because of the lies girls do tell... You will see a girl using alum on her privates just to deceive a brother that she's a virgin and all... I am an advocate of taste before buying/marriage... If she say she a virgin and you marry her then find out she lied to you, then that's cheating...

InvertedHammer:

nbright:

Are you serious with the alum thing? I used to think it is a myth. So the alum gums the hymen back or constricts the hole or what?
Can you educate us more on this strange phenomenon?