I married to him 2007 when he told me dat he is no longer wt his first wife which he told me dat she has two children for him not until i got married to him dat i discover dat the woman has born five not two but because of d fear dat i may not marry him again if i get to know he said two.we move from a room apartment dat he rented to three bedroom flat dat we build after meeting him,he said dat pastor ask him to leave d first building he built for the formal woman when i realise dat d woman is still living

when i realise dat the woman is still living in his formal house nd when asked he told me dat he has given him d house. he brought his children wt us except d last born which is still wt their mother nd sometimes if we are coming home from church he will asked me to pls get down of d car at d juction of the formal wife house dat he wanted to quickly check on last since the law said not until d boy reach 6yrs dat his faher can take him away so i will not talk whenever he says he want to check d boy which

And..... go on....I'm all eyes ears

Na wah o, 5 pikin? Wetin the man still dey find?

Legit1: Na wah o, 5 pikin? Wetin the man still dey find?

Companion ... I beg your pardon

the boy is 5 now.since 2007 i met d woman once nd she doesn't know where am living not until easter monday dat i was inside the shop infront of my house dat i saw her on okada wt one man may be her family member she stop okada at the front of my shop nd d man wt him on d okada shout hello in other to create attention then she asked the okada man to move. Now after two days i decided to send text to her dat what does she really want from me,she text me back muddling insult nd curses on me

And.... go on... is that everything?

What are YOU doing with your own life? or you don't want a child? Or you already did in your previous marriage?

when he came from work i reported d issue to him nd said he should warn her for me dat she must not come to my place again nd if she think she can come for any violence i will abuse her to the
floor becos i have been silent all d while
what i want to note is dat i met dis man through one radio program, when my first marriage collapse due to inability to have child my first husband impregnate another lady nd send me packing, i dont want to leave him becos we were legally married but becos of d everyday .

we normally fight everyday nd he always beating me when i cannot condole this anymore i packed out of his house for peace to reign.
I thought marrying d 2nd man would give me rest of mind but opposite is d case.
I had already made decision in my mind dat i will not give any man my heart again since my previous life did not work out but when he came to me he explain dat he has been having problem all dis year dat he has married to his wife dat his wife wanted to kill him becos of his property that wherever

Okay.... No need to prove your rascality, your man will take care of her..... she's human too and thinks you snatched her husband and children and very soon the last born will join you.... It's a normal feeling for a divorced woman with children no matter how bitter and messy their divorce, she wouldn't let go .... but the harassment is not acceptable.

Let me ask you one question oh OP , do you actually think she would be totally cut off from y'all? You must be joking oh, 5 children, my sister, the earlier you meet in the middle with her the better oh. She ain't going anywhere. Speaking from experience I lived.


Take care.

Such is life and whoever ( among your friends) told you is bed of roses is deceiving you, we all have challenges one way or the other, life's too short for all these hullabaloo , owo ti mo ni ni mo ti ya e yen( my 2 cents).

I'm also sure you wouldn't want that man to drop dead suddenly cos trust me stress kills.

Reading your story brought back bad memories and I'm already stressed out.

wherever he goes then they will tell him his wife is behind the problem dat is why he is living her dat since she doesn't want progress for nd she is frustrating his life nd i asked if he has done dat legally he said he would do dat but he has not. since we have married he doesn't sleep outside,he take cares of the house he even gave me car to ride,
he is a responsible man only dat he is a difficult man in another way dat i wil be explaining later.
i dont know what d woman will do next.

No need to explain further.

All these diabolic lifestyle na waya!

So you're asobode ( hunter) awaiting havoc to happen.... what in the world is going on with people?

jidegirl12: No need to explain further.

All these diabolic lifestyle na waya!

So you're asobode ( hunter) awaiting havoc to happen.... what in the world is going on with people?

Yeye Oba.....you try small o, me i no too get head or tale of this gist. Make i go sleep wake up small.....lol.
ko gba agidi

Baba Oyo:
Yeye Oba.....you try small o, me i no too get head or tale of this gist. Make i go sleep wake up small.....lol.
ko gba agidi

Baba Oyo ko gba agidi atall, ile aye lasan lasan.

Pastor said this, baba said that, the thing dey cause upheaval for marriage no be small thing oh!

Instead for OP to live in peace with her found joy and happily share those kids with her man's ex, na head hunting dem dey do.

Go sleep Abeg, day's still young here

Jenny husband snatcher bawo( how) .... they've been together since '07 soo na the other one way leave her home and the liar husband you go blame oh! The thing tire me sef.

After spending half my morning trying to understand her, this is what I got out if it.

1. The man is still married to his first wife.

2. This silly poster gets dropped off at the "junction" whenever he wants to go visit his son in his first wife house, which could mean a lot if things but I will narrow it down to one.........he could still be sha..gging his first wife.

3. Men tell lies so also women, but this OP was so dumb and spent time listening to fairy tales of pastor said and did not say........ That she forgot to do her homework properly cos if she did, she would have known this man is still married and has 5 children not two.

4. Instead of her to face the deceitful b@stard she married for "deceiving her" into marriage, she is bent on painting the first wife red, the first wife who might also have been deceived into marriage to this man. She does not want him to progress yet she had 5 kids with him and allowed her kids stay with him.

5. This Steveade is sick, why would the first wife want to ruin the father of her kids? Knowing fully well that if she does that she is jeopardising her kids future?

All in all she married someone else's husband hence my first post on this thread.

Did she say she texted his first wife after they said hello on one okada? Did she also say that she would insult the woman to the floor if she messed with her

This is sounding more childish than i thought it would, I cannot believe my charitable self is here.

J to the K! Take am easy with the OP abeg.
@Jide: Its clear she isn't well educated, you sef tone down to the basics with your grammar if you want her to comprehend.
Her writing and choice of words got me laughing real hard. but its clear she is a disturbed woman.

@topic: Stevade, how could your husband be legally married to you and still be married to the other one.
2. If the baby with the mama is 5yrs and you already had stuff going on with your man in 2007, then he still had sex with the other wife when you guys were already together. Thats cheating on his part.

3. That a man gave you a car to ride doesnt mean he loves you. If he does, he would ensure your total happiness. In this case, divorce properly the other woman.

How old are the four other children with you?

Ah ah.. Okay..... Never thought of it that way tho ... I be yaba left specialist no be Phsyc
: Response to Jenny's

OP come clarify yourself oh!

Odunnu:

OMG! she even reincarnated!

Leave me oooo

stevade: when he came from work i reported d issue to him nd said he should warn her for me dat she must not come to my place again nd if she think she can come for any violence i will abuse her to the
floor becos i have been silent all d while
what i want to note is dat i met dis man through one radio program, when my first marriage collapse due to inability to have child my first husband impregnate another lady nd send me packing, i dont want to leave him becos we were legally married but becos of d everyday .

See your mouth like you will abuse her to the floor. What has abuse got to do with the floor? I don't pity you, I pity the first wife who has to endure the hurt of knowing her husband has another wife.

Yeye dey smell

Odunnu:
@Jide: Its clear she isn't well educated, you sef tone down to the basics with your grammar if you want her to comprehend.
Her writing and choice of words got me laughing real hard. but its clear she is a disturbed woman.

Okay oh.... Make she speak her dialect then, we have all tribe full ground.

She is indeed very disturbed.( no insult intended)

Odunnu: @topic: Stevade, how could your husband be legally married to you and still be married to the other one.
2. If the baby with the mama is 5yrs and you already had stuff going on with your man in 2007, then he still had sex with the other wife when you guys were already together. Thats cheating on his part.

Some Men!

Odunnu: 3. That a man gave you a car to ride doesnt mean he loves you. If he does, he would ensure your total happiness. In this case, divorce properly the other woman.

And the ex rides okada, could have been worse

Odunnu: How old are the four other children with you?

Was gonna ask that too but does it really matter?

jennykadry:

Leave me oooo



See your mouth like you will abuse her to the floor. What has abuse got to do with the floor? I don't pity you, I pity the first wife who has to endure the hurt of knowing her husband has another wife.

Yeye dey smell

No be small thing oh.... 5 children,

There should be a thread ;

Would you stick through your unpleasant Marriage for the sake of your Children? Do they really worth the pain and sh it?

jidegirl12:

No be small thing oh.... 5 children,

There should be a thread ;

Would you stick through your unpleasant Marriage for the sake of your Children? Do they really worth the pain and sh it?

The first wife should push for divorce joo and divorce the yeye man. He is already a left over expired goods and no woman (except stevade of course) should share a bed with an expired product.

*edit*

people will catch feelings if they see what i typed.

sensitive topic!

Lol @ Thread...

Make I sleep small before my little madam wakes up .

Interesting topic,

OP, I dey come, makeo rest small, e go better!

I simply pity this poster that has endured the unhappiness of a fruitless marriage only to dabble into another deep sea of coming in between couples that are going through dificulties in their marriage.
Poster you should have asked questions and even done your investigation, how can you marry a person that never showed you his divorce certificate or that you don't know the extent of his separation? You are better off on your own than being in that sizzling frying pan which can overturn on you any moment. Are you waiting for acid to be poured on you? Your life is at a risk there. The best thing should be a meeting for all parties involved in this in order to broker peace. If during the meeting you realize that they were never separated, apologise to the first wife and leave them in peace. Better hear from the two of them, know where you stand and if you realize that there is no room for you there run for your life-o-o. Your husband is partly to blame for luring you into it all without being very truthful to you.

Ummm,which kind push? For where? no story first wife's already a goner, and OP got the man all sentiments aside... I'll repeat again 5 children is no joke oh! ... I know I know I'm a cry baby over spilled milk.

Odunnu you crack me up.... You wonder how those already married Naija guys seeking Shenghen ( eu countries) papers still manage to bring oyinbo wife come Naija and do court wedding again , alongside with their Naija wife as bridesmaid! They can marry as many women as they please in Naija oh! Somebody come tell me say I dey lie?

Things dey happen for Naija oh!

Anyways, OP please for the sake of those children, no vex oh!

And come to think of it ... How's the Topic relevant to your ordeal?

Are you on the right side? Which side would you rather be?

I'm going to bed.... another crazy day tomorrow as always!

stevade: I married to him 2007 when he told me dat he is no longer wt his first wife which he told me dat she has two children for him not until i got married to him dat i discover dat the woman has born five not two but because of d fear dat i may not marry him again if i get to know he said two.we move from a room apartment dat he rented to three bedroom flat dat we build after meeting him,he said dat pastor ask him to leave d first building he built for the formal woman when i realise dat d woman is still living

My dear, stop making excuses for your husband.
So many wrong things in the foundation of this relationship. He is deceiving you and taking advantage of your vulnerability. How could he make u believe his living wife was dead? Thats the major thing troubling me in this post.

@Jide, eziokwu, many wrong things happening in this country. How can one be allowed to marry twice?