I am baby sitting two of my nieces whose parent travelled. One of them came to me an hour ago to showed me her stained pant, in frightened voice she ask me what's happenening. The first thing I did was to tell her to take her bath and then showed her how to use a pad.
It is now time for girls talk and I'm tempted to tell her the same thing her mother told me when I saw mine which is don't played with boys. Also she told me if anyboy touches me I would instantly be pregnant.
What should I tell her? Should I tell her the same thing?

Hi LVMJ, I laugh tire when I read this, my own mother told me no let man 'meet' you from now on since you don dey see your time.
I'm quite surprised she doesn't know what it is yet when my 3 year old here sef has an idea.
Just be truthful to her sha, what age is she? 9? 10? 12? Depending on d age, tell her once every month it happens like dis for a few days and shows she's grown up now. Give her a little sex education too while you are at it. Ask her what she already knows abt it, answer any questions and leave the rest for her mama, hope I helped.
Wonder how I'll tell my own daughter when she comes of age.

Tell her its part of growth and that now she can even have babies
But she shouldn't allow any uncle, brother or male friend in sch or at home to touch her chest and her privates else she will get PREG. Its often beta to tell them the truth. And if any man tries to touch her in the said areas she should SCREAM and run for her dear life.

repogirl: Hi LVMJ, I laugh tire when I read this, my own mother told me no let man 'meet' you from now on since you don dey see your time.
I'm quite surprised she doesn't know what it is yet when my 3 year old here sef has an idea.
Just be truthful to her sha, what age is she? 9? 10? 12? Depending on d age, tell her once every month it happens like dis for a few days and shows she's grown up now. Give her a little sex education too while you are at it. Ask her what she already knows abt it, answer any questions and leave the rest for her mama, hope I helped.
Wonder how I'll tell my own daughter when she comes of age.

Lol,Repo thanks, she will be 12yrs this july. She has an idea what it means. She was even arguing with me that is not mestrual but jedidi. Oversmart they do am that is why I have to talk to her.

aadetoyin: Tell her its part of growth and that now she can even have babies
But she shouldn't allow any uncle, brother or male friend in sch or at home to touch her chest and her privates else she will get PREG. Its often beta to tell them the truth. And if any man tries to touch her in the said areas she should SCREAM and run for her dear life.

Thanks, I just finished talking to her. Then she ask me a question that I am not in a position to answer but her mum.

You did very well when you showed her how to use a pad.
Tell her that it happens monthly and that it happens TO EVERY GIRL / WOMAN (all around the world )
Tell her what she can do to get rid of pain when she suffers from it.
Tell her that she also might suffer from premenstrual symptoms and give her tips on how to handle them.
Offer her to answer any questions she has or will have.

It's the time a girl needs the warm support of another experienced lady very much.

luvmijeje:
Thanks, I just finished talking to her. Then she ask me a question that I am not in a position to answer but her mum.

What question is dt?

carefreewannabe: You did very well when you showed her how to use a pad.
Tell her that it happens monthly and that it happens TO EVERY GIRL / WOMAN (all around the world )
Tell her what she can do to get rid of pain when she suffers from it.
Tell her that she also might suffer from premenstrual symptoms and give her tips on how to handle them.
Offer her to answer any questions she has or will have.

It's the time a girl needs the warm support of another experienced lady very much.

Wow thanks.

alutacontinua:

What question is dt?

She is very exuberant when it comes to greetings. One of the things we discussed was for her to limit the ways she greets i.e hugging and holding especially the male folks. Then she ask me including her dad? I no fit answer dat question o.

luvmijeje: Am baby sitting two of my nieces whose parent travelled. One of them came to me an hour ago to showed me her stained pant, in frightened voice she ask me what's happenening. The first thing I did was to tell her to take her bath and then showed her how to use a pad.
It is now time for girls talk and I'm tempted to tell her the same thing her mother told me when I saw mine which is don't played with boys. Also she told me if anyboy touches me I would instantly be pregnant.
What should I tell her? Should I tell her the same thing?

i doubt, if at almost 12 yrs old, she doesnt have idea of what is happening to her body, at least, she must have been in secondary school now, and they must have been taught in their basic science and home economics subjects, so, i believe she was just pulling your legs.
Meanwhile, having been taught does not mean they dont need s. ex education at and from home, because she will be freer to ask any question at home than from any other place, including the school. Now to what you will tell her.........pls, when telling her, use the real words, dont try to be diplomatic about it at all, call every part its name...........tell her......
-shes now a lady, no more a girl.
-what happened to her is a sign that shes now a lady, and the sign will be coming every month, and its called monthly period.
-she shouldnt feel ashamed about it, all ladies and women pass thru the same thing.
-guys will want to be around her now, therefore, she should be careful and very observant with them, because they can lure her into s..ex now, which can lead to her getting pregnant when shes not ready for it, which may put an obstacle to her future dreams, and unfortunately, shes the only one who will suffer for it, because it doesnt affect the boys, they will continue their education, while you will be at home nurturing pregnancy and baby, and that only a few ladies get second chance and she might not be that fortunate then, therefore, she should be extra-careful with guys.
-her body will start to develop rapidly now, including her bwests, and she will start to have hair in some part of the body like armpit and v..agina, she should always take care of those places very well and shouldnt for any reason allow anyone to touch her in those places, be it man or woman.
-during the time of her periods, she might experience pain, she shouldnt be afraid, almost all women experience it, its called PMS(premenstrual syndrome).
-a lady carries herself with dignity, therefore, she should limit all the girls and boys play,because shes now a lady, she should carry herself well like a lady.
@op, very many points here, give her total sex education.
Its our duty to let these young ones be educated sexually, having been educated, they guard their lions with it.
May God help us all.

luvmijeje:
She is very exuberant when it comes to greetings. One of the things we discussed was for her to limit the ways she greets i.e hugging and holding especially the male folks. Then she ask me including her dad? I no fit answer dat question o.

why cant you answer that, tell her she can hug, kiss, hold her dad, but the day dad start saying, "you are now a big girl o, and trying to touch your bwests or trying to do something funny with her, she should inform mum straightaway, before things go beyond imagination, so many wierld things are happening now, so, not keeping quiet is one of the preventive measures one can take, when her mum comes back, tell her what you told her daughter when she was away.
May God help us all.

greatgod2012:


i doubt, if at almost 12 yrs old, she doesnt have idea of what is happening to her body, at least, she must have been in secondary school now, and they must have been taught in their basic science and home economics subjects, so, i believe she was just pulling your legs.
Meanwhile, having been taught does not mean they dont need s. ex education at and from home, because she will be freer to ask any question at home than from any other place, including the school. Now to what you will tell her.........pls, when telling her, use the real words, dont try to be diplomatic about it at all, call every part its name...........tell her......
-shes now a lady, no more a girl.
-what happened to her is a sign that shes now a lady, and the sign will be coming every month, and its called monthly period.
-she shouldnt feel ashamed about it, all ladies and women pass thru the same thing.
-guys will want to be around her now, therefore, she should be careful and very observant with them, because they can lure her into s..ex now, which can lead to her getting pregnant when shes not ready for it, which may put an obstacle to her future dreams, and unfortunately, shes the only one who will suffer for it, because it doesnt affect the boys, they will continue their education, while you will be at home nurturing pregnancy and baby, and that only a few ladies get second chance and she might not be that fortunate then, therefore, she should be extra-careful with guys.
-her body will start to develop rapidly now, including her bwests, and she will start to have hair in some part of the body like armpit and v..agina, she should always take care of those places very well and shouldnt for any reason allow anyone to touch her in those places, be it man or woman.
-during the time of her periods, she might experience pain, she shouldnt be afraid, almost all women experience it, its called PMS(premenstrual syndrome).
-a lady carries herself with dignity, therefore, she should limit all the girls and boys play,because shes now a lady, she should carry herself well like a lady.
@op, very many points here, give her total sex education.
Its our duty to let these young ones be educated sexually, having been educated, they guard their lions with it.
May God help us all.

Thanks. She was indeed pulling my leg cos on my way to office this morning I was about to teach her how to make use of the calender, she exclaimed, that the company producing always came to their school twice to talked and also gave them a booklet that also contains calender.
When I get home today, all what you adviced, she is going to hear it from me.
Infact she will hear it everyday till her parents come back.

greatgod2012:

why cant you answer that, tell her she can hug, kiss, hold her dad, but the day dad start saying, "you are now a big girl o, and trying to touch your bwests or trying to do something funny with her, she should inform mum straightaway, before things go beyond imagination, so many wierld things are happening now, so, not keeping quiet is one of the preventive measures one can take, when her mum comes back, tell her what you told her daughter when she was away.
May God help us all.

GBAM! straight to the point answer.
Don't bore her with the talks too much, saying it everyday till her parents come might become boring. There's one kind of irritability that comes with that age/time that things get to piss you off easily. Besides, I can bet it with you that she already knows all what you're telling her, she's just pulling your legs. At 12 years old nowadays, do you know how many people in her class are already in the business Trust me, just say your part and be a good big sister, that's all there is to it. Send my congratulations to her and tell her to be a good woman!

alutacontinua:

GBAM! straight to the point answer.
Don't bore her with the talks too much, saying it everyday till her parents come might become boring. There's one kind of irritability that comes with that age/time that things get to piss you off easily. Besides, I can bet it with you that she already knows all what you're telling her, she's just pulling your legs. At 12 years old nowadays, do you know how many people in her class are already in the business Trust me, just say your part and be a good big sister, that's all there is to it. Send my congratulations to her and tell her to be a good woman!

I will definitely tell her.Thanks

I think mothers should start talking to their daughters early enough about this. My elder sister saw har own while we were playing outside. She thought she injured herself somewhere.
She was in primary six then. We hid it from our parents for two days meanwhile blood was still coming out . We were scared that our parents will kill us for playing rough. It was a long
Story.

^^I'm soo scared I will kill a cow that day(s )

jidegirl12: ^^I'm soo scared I will kill a cow that day(s )

what are you scared about?

And killing cow for what?

jidegirl12: ^^I'm soo scared I will kill a cow that day(s )

so u r still below 12?

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jidegirl12: ^^I'm soo scared I will kill a cow that day(s )

Don't be.
Be properly equipd and d earlier d better.
I've not been opportuned to have a young gal around me so I can tutor her.
Its a great privilege.

, that's why I love u, black and white is it.

Chai!!!God please spare me this awkward moments with daughters

byvan: Chai!!!God please spare me this awkward moments with daughters

R u planning for baby number ?

You did great.

i have had the opportunity of discussing this topic with a younger girl,and all the posters above bared my mind and please when discussing with her i advice you bring a chart.

yellowpawpaw:
R u planning for baby number ?

Number 3 ,by God's grace,it ll be a "He",so I won't have to give this menstruation lecture

greatgod2012:

what are you scared about?

And killing cow for what?

You don't know the tradition? You don turn oyinbo finish?

Sammy Hoe:
so u r still below 12?

Yeah still a V

yellowpawpaw:
Don't be.
Be properly equipd and d earlier d better.
I've not been opportuned to have a young gal around me so I can tutor her.
Its a great privilege.

, that's why I love u, black and white is it.

Thank you jare , don't wanna think bout it sef.

"Better enjoy this cus its gonna be this way till your teeth starts to fall off"

You did the right thing

I think personally it's good to start young and at age appropriate times, teach a little to your girls about their bodies and how they will change as they get older. Instead of waiting til they see blood it's good to prepare them to almost know what to expect.

My mother told me nothing and I eventually felt I couldn't go to her with anything. Thank God for my elder sister!!

My girls are 6 and 9 and when they ask questions I'm free with the answers and try to be as honest as possible.. to their comprehension of course.

I have taught them the underwear rule. The only person who has permission to touch the area covered by their under wear is themselves. That's their private space. Simple.