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Guilt-trip Preaching by Nobody: 3:08am On Apr 20, 2013
God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it" (John 3:17 -Living)

When we preach God’s Word, we must NOT preach it in such a way that we make God’s people feel guilty and condemned.

The Bible tells us to "ENCOURAGE one another" - and to do it "DAILY", if we want to save God's people from "being HARDENED through the DECEITFULNESS of sin" (Heb.3:13). That means that EVERY day, in EVERY message we preach we must ENCOURAGE the believers we preach to. Only thus will we be able to save them from sin. But Satan deceives us into thinking that we can make believers more holy and more devoted to God by making them feel guilty through our preaching. That is a lie.

The Holy Spirit does indeed convict God's children through the preaching of the Word. But He encourages them at the same time too. As we just read, God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world but to save the world. And God did not send His Spirit into the church to condemn believers but to encourage them. God is a God of encouragement. He always lifts up our spirits and gives us HOPE (See Rom.15:5; and 2 Cor.1:3,4). A ministry of condemnation is "an old covenant ministry" that will only lead people to spiritual death (See 2 Cor.3:7-9). The new covenant ministry however is a ministry of life that will lead them to godliness.

It is easy to fall into the trap of exposing sin in such a way in our preaching, that believers feel condemned and guilty. Then we have FAILED in our ministry and sent people on a "guilt trip". Such man-induced guilt can become a prison from which people will find it very difficult to extricate themselves.

It is a common technique among preachers (especially when they are young, inexperienced and insecure, or when they feel inferior and want to impress people) that they preach a high, unrealistic standard of holiness and thus make everyone (except themselves!!) feel guilty. The level of life they preach will be something that is impossible to achieve. It will be a level that even Jesus and the apostles did not preach or ask others to live by. These preachers themselves do not live by the standards they preach. But weak-minded believers hear their sermons and feel condemned and guilty – and get discouraged.

Most of the challenges given to believers in Christian circles, to enter into "full-time" Christian service or missionary work are based on this "guilt-trip" method. The need in various parts of the world is stressed by the preacher to such an extent that the listeners feel guilty and some of them end up quitting their jobs in order to go out as missionaries. But Jesus and the apostles never used such techniques to send anyone into the harvest field of the world. Jesus told His apostles to go to every nation in the world and to make disciples. But He did not send them out by making them feel guilty by comparing their comfortable life in Israel with the poverty in other parts of the world. It is because of such "guilt-trip" methods adopted by preachers that there is so much of shallowness among most Christian workers today. Most of them went forth to “serve the Lord” because they felt guilty about remaining in their secular jobs, after hearing a missionary challenge. God had never called them to His service. But they went forth, propelled by feelings of guilt. Full-time Christian work is such a sacred task that we have no right to engage in it, if God Himself did not call us to it.

Most of the teaching on tithing and giving in Christendom today also follows this guilt-trip method. Believers are made to feel terribly guilty for not giving money for “God's work”. Thus they end up giving thousands of rupees of their hard-earned savings to covetous preachers for their "ministry". This is one of the worst evils being perpetrated by preachers today, on poor believers – and it is all being done "in the Name of Christ". We never find Jesus using such high-pressure methods at any time. His word was, "If you love me, keep my commandments" (John 14:15). He told Peter, "If you love Me more than everything else, then take care of my sheep and feed them" (John 21:15-17). God loves only those who obey Him cheerfully (2 Cor.9:7).

This is God's way in the new covenant - the way of free, voluntary, joyful service, without any soulish pressure being applied by any preacher. We must learn to distinguish between the soulish pressure that clever preachers put upon us and the gentle leading of the Holy Spirit. When demons possess people they take away their freedom of choice and control them totally. The Holy Spirit, on the other hand, never possesses people. He fills them. The difference is that He never takes away their freedom of choice but gives them total freedom, even after He has filled them. The Holy Spirit will never take away our free will, nor will He pressurize us – as Satan and many preachers seek to do.

We must discern "guilt-trip" sermons immediately - and reject them in our minds at once, if we want to walk in the freedom of the Spirit.

In my younger days, when I did not understand what it was to be a new-covenant servant, I too did a lot of legalistic, “guilt-trip” preaching. But I repented of it and gave it up long ago. "When I was a child, I thought like a child and spoke like a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things" (1 Cor.13:11). The "guilt-trip" method of preaching will only bring people into bondage – whereas Jesus and the Holy Spirit have come to set people free.

Every preacher who adopts the guilt-trip method of preaching is a legalist. But he does not know this. The worst legalists are those who preach from the New Testament Scriptures, in the spirit of the old covenant. They imagine that they are preaching the new covenant, but they have been deceived by Satan to preach the letter of the new covenant without entering into the spirit of the new covenant. The new covenant is not a gospel of the letter but of the spirit. The words that Jesus spoke were "spirit and life" (John 6:63). The ministry of the Spirit is never one of compulsion or condemnation, but always one of encouragement and hope. God is the "lifter of our heads" (Psa.3:3), NOT the "lowerer of our heads". He never tries to shame us into obeying Him. School-teachers may try to shame their students into obedience. But loving fathers will never do that. They get their children to obey them cheerfully, by encouraging them (See 1 Cor.4:14,15). It is by our attitude to our flock in this area that we can discover whether we are teachers or fathers. Our churches do not need teachers. We need more fathers.

We need to distinguish between the conviction of the Holy Spirit and the condemnation of the Law. Guilt-trip preaching leads people to be discouraged and to condemn themselves. Therefore, they cannot come into a life of freedom in the Spirit and become overcomers.

Whenever a preacher adopts this guilt-trip method, it indicates that he does not really know the Lord, or the ways of the Holy Spirit. It proves that his knowledge of the Bible is poor. And he is also dishonest - for he cannot possibly be living by the standards he preaches. Jesus DID first and THEN taught (Acts 1:1). But these preachers, like the Pharisees of old, "load you with impossible demands that they themselves don't even try to keep" (Matt.23:3,4-Living).

It is impossible to have genuine fellowship with a guilt-trip preacher, for he is not poor in spirit. "The poor in spirit’ are defined in the Amplified Bible as "those who rate themselves as insignificant" (Matt.5:3). I have met very few preachers in my life who would consider themselves as insignificant. The airs with which most preachers preach proclaims to everyone that they rate themselves as "very, very important people" compared to the ordinary believers in their congregations!! I always switch off inwardly, when listening to such men, for I know that I cannot receive anything of eternal value from such proud people. Such preachers are infected by the spirit of the Accuser and that is why their "guilt-trip" preaching consists mainly of accusing others of not measuring up to God’s standards. They imagine themselves to be "prophets", but they lack the compassion of genuine prophets. Such arrogant preachers cannot possess the kingdom of heaven (Matt.5:3). And so they cannot lead others into the freedom of the Spirit (that characterises the kingdom of heaven). Such preachers will never be able to build a brotherhood or a local expression of the Body of Christ anywhere. They will only be able to build congregations of their own "admirers". May God save us all from such a calamity.

I have noticed that it is usually young men who indulge in "guilt-trip preaching". But I have also seen that if such young men do not judge themselves and seek to grow in grace, they will remain unchanged even when they are old men and become elders of churches.

Let us therefore ensure that we NEVER use the "guilt-trip" method in our preaching to try and convict others of their failure to obey God. Let us never allow any preacher to send us on a guilt trip, through his preaching. Let us repent of being legalistic teachers and seek to be fathers instead. The glory of our Lord was seen in the fullness of GRACE and TRUTH that was manifested in His life and in His words - throughout His earthly days (John 1:14). May that glory be manifested through us too. Amen and Amen.


By Brother ZAC Pooen.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Goshen360(m): 4:44am On Apr 20, 2013
Condemnation and conviction are two different things. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus but conviction. If we preach and call out the who.res, fornicators, adulterers, robbers & thieves, liars, lesbians, homos etc, if someone hears such message and he/she is none of the above, why should he/she feel condemned? It's only someone who does any of the above that should be convicted and repent.

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Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by bolaino(m): 8:12am On Apr 20, 2013
Brother goshen, and brother frosbel, I've been meaning to ask, do u guys own churches, irrespectively?
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by enilove(m): 8:48am On Apr 20, 2013
What can you say concerning John the Baptist mode of preaching in Matt 3:7.
"But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism,HE SAID UNTO THEM,OGENERATION OF VIPERS,WHO HATH WARNED YOU TO FLEE THE WRATH OF GOD TO COME?"
Can John be accused of a "guilt trip "preaching?

Is our Lord Jesus Christ not guilty of the same offence,if we consider what he said in Matt 11:21-24" Woe unto thee Chorazin! woe unto thwe,Bethsaida !for if the mighty works which were done in you had been done in Tyre and Sidon,they would have repented long ago in sachcloth and ashes.But I say unto you,it shall be more tolerable for Tyre and Sidon at the day of judgemeny,than for you."

Even in schools they do inform students of the advantages and disadvantages of a things.

What do say to our Lord Jesus Christ's and John's style of preachings.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Pygru: 9:19am On Apr 20, 2013
frosbel: God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it" ( John 3:17 -Living)

When we preach God’s Word, we must NOT preach it in such a way that we make God’s people feel guilty and condemned.
The Bible tells us to "ENCOURAGE one another" - and to do it "DAILY", if we want to save God's people from "being HARDENED through the DECEITFULNESS of sin" (Heb.3:13). That means that EVERY day, in EVERY message we preachwe must ENCOURAGE the believers we preach to. Only thus will we be able to save them from sin. But Satan deceives us into thinking that we can make believers more holy and more devoted to God by making them feel guilty through our preaching. That is a lie.
The Holy Spirit does indeed convict God's children through the preaching of the Word. But He encourages them atthe same time too. As we just read, Goddid not send His Son into the world to condemn the world but to save the world. And God did not send His Spirit into the church to condemn believers but to encourage them. God is a God of encouragement. He always lifts up our spirits and gives us HOPE (See Rom.15:5; and 2 Cor.1:3,4). A ministry of condemnation is "an old covenant ministry" that will only lead people to spiritual death (See 2 Cor.3:7-9). The new covenant ministry however is a ministry of life that will lead them to godliness.
It is easy to fall into the trap of exposing sin in such a way in our preaching, that believers feel condemned and guilty. Then we have FAILED in our ministry and sent people on a "guilt trip". Such man-induced guiltcan become a prison from which people will find it very difficult to extricate themselves.
It is a common technique among preachers (especially when they are young, inexperienced and insecure, or when they feel inferior and want to impress people) that they preach a high, unrealistic standard of holiness and thus make everyone (except themselves!!) feel guilty. The level of life they preach will be something that is impossible to achieve. It will be a level that even Jesus and the apostles did notpreach or ask others to live by. These preachers themselves do not live by the standards they preach. But weak-minded believers hear their sermons and feel condemned and guilty – and get discouraged.
Most of the challenges given to believers in Christian circles, to enter into "full-time" Christian service or missionary work are based on this"guilt-trip" method. The need in variousparts of the world is stressed by the preacher to such an extent that the listeners feel guilty and some of them end up quitting their jobs in order to go out as missionaries. But Jesus and the apostles never used such techniques to send anyone into the harvest field of the world. Jesus told His apostles to go to every nation in the world and to make disciples. But He did not send them out by making them feel guilty by comparing their comfortable life in Israel with the poverty in other parts of the world. It is because of such"guilt-trip" methods adopted by preachers that there is so much of shallowness among most Christian workers today. Most of them went forthto “serve the Lord” because they felt guilty about remaining in their secular jobs, after hearing a missionary challenge. God had never called them toHis service. But they went forth, propelled by feelings of guilt. Full-time Christian work is such a sacred task that we have no right to engage in it, if God Himself did not call us to it.
Most of the teaching on tithing and giving in Christendom today also follows this guilt-trip method. Believers are made to feel terribly guilty for not giving money for “God's work”. Thus they end up giving thousands of rupeesof their hard-earned savings to covetous preachers for their "ministry". This is one of the worst evils being perpetrated by preachers today, on poor believers – and it is all being done"in the Name of Christ". We never find Jesus using such high-pressure methods at any time.
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Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Nobody: 9:33am On Apr 20, 2013
enilove: What can you say concerning John the Baptist mode of preaching in Matt 3:7.
"But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism,HE SAID UNTO THEM,OGENERATION OF VIPERS,WHO HATH WARNED YOU TO FLEE THE WRATH OF GOD TO COME?"
Can John be accused of a "guilt trip "preaching?

Is our Lord Jesus Christ not guilty of the same offence,if we consider what he said in Matt 11:21-24" Woe unto thee Chorazin! woe unto thwe,Bethsaida !for if the mighty works which were done in you had been done in Tyre and Sidon,they would have repented long ago in sachcloth and ashes.But I say unto you,it shall be more tolerable for Tyre and Sidon at the day of judgemeny,than for you."

Even in schools they do inform students of the advantages and disadvantages of a things.

What do say to our Lord Jesus Christ's and John's style of preachings.

John and Jesus's harshest words were for the religious hypocrites not the sheep or sinners , for Jesus came to call sinners to repentance and to encourage and strengthen the brethren.

Jesus was very irate with the Pharisees , Sadducees and religious Jews, they were con men, lording it over the sheep , placing burdens on them etc.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by alexleo(m): 9:35am On Apr 20, 2013
Guilt-trip preaching and feel-good preaching are both dangerous. If op is saying we shouldn't say that sin is sin then I don't agree with him. I agree with him that some preachers are fund of condemning people in their messages. Infact some preachers present God as an angry man all the time. They present him as a man who is always seeking out whom to hit with a sleidge hammer at the slightest provocation. This is very wrong. For me I believe in encouragement. I also believe in scolding people when neccessary but encouragment works more. You can't encourage with a heart that lacks love. God is love and anyone who has God in him should possess the love to encourage. Honestly, some ministers of God and church leaders uses a lot of intimidating style to make members obey them but I ve always told such people that it is better for people to obey you out of love than out of fear. If people obey you out of love you ll enjoy your leadership/ministry and they ll enjoy too but in fear you only enjoy while they are tormented by fear. This amounts to selfishness on the part of the leader and selfishness is not a virtue.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Nobody: 9:37am On Apr 20, 2013
Goshen360: Condemnation and conviction are two different things. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus but conviction. If we preach and call out the who.res, fornicators, adulterers, robbers & thieves, liars, lesbians, homos etc, if someone hears such message and he/she is none of the above, why should he/she feel condemned? It's only someone who does any of the above that should be convicted and repent.


There is a difference between God's conviction which leads gently to repentance and man's guilt trips which in many cases sounds more like accusation than encouragement.

And, when we are preaching to others about sin, we should also make sure we are living holy lives ourselves.

My 2 cents.

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Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Nobody: 9:44am On Apr 20, 2013
alexleo: Guilt-trip preaching and feel-good preaching are both dangerous. If op is saying we shouldn't say that sin is sin then I don't agree with him. I agree with him that some preachers are fund of condemning people in their messages. Infact some preachers present God as an angry man all the time. They present him as a man who is always seeking out whom to hit with a sleidge hammer at the slightest provocation. This is very wrong. For me I believe in encouragement. I also believe in scolding people when neccessary but encouragment works more. You can't encourage with a heart that lacks love. God is love and anyone who has God in him should possess the love to encourage. Honestly, some ministers of God and church leaders uses a lot of intimidating style to make members obey them but I ve always told such people that it is better for people to obey you out of love than out of fear. If people obey you out of love you ll enjoy your leadership/ministry and they ll enjoy too but in fear you only enjoy while they are tormented by fear. This amounts to selfishness on the part of the leader and selfishness is not a virtue.

I agree with you mostly , but a small point of correction, I am not ,have not and will never encourage sin, however when preaching to sinners or backsliders, I will not approach them with a holier than thou approach.

1 Peter 4:8
New International Version (NIV)
8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.


Matthew 12:20
a bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not quench, until he brings justice to victory;

Galatians 6:1
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.


thanks.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Goshen360(m): 11:25am On Apr 20, 2013
bolaino: Brother goshen, and brother frosbel, I've been meaning to ask, do u guys own churches, irrespectively?

Christ OWNS the church and I or we, including you, are the church of Christ. Frosbel & I are ONE in Christ. Well, as for me, I do hope to work with someone in a teaching ministry or operate one, depending on God guidance, if our Lord tarries. A church cannot own a church, someone will have to own a church and that is Christ.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by Goshen360(m): 11:32am On Apr 20, 2013
@ Bro Frosbel,

We do understand your message. You have balanced both sides. God bless you.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by alexleo(m): 12:34pm On Apr 20, 2013
frosbel:

I agree with you mostly , but a small point of correction, I am not ,have not and will never encourage sin, however when preaching to sinners or backsliders, I will not approach them with a holier than thou approach.

1 Peter 4:8
New International Version (NIV)
8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.


Matthew 12:20
a bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not quench, until he brings justice to victory;

Galatians 6:1
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.


thanks.

You ve spoken well now. Some brethren treat sinners and backsliders as people who are already doomed to die the next minute. In their preaching they speak as people who are so holy and can never fall. Wrong. For me,I know that without the grace of God,I can't live a holy life so what's the need boasting. Our salvation comes by grace through faith, not of works. But some brethren behave as if their salvation is of works that's why they boast with their so called holy life. I ve always said to such christians that, starting the heavenly journey is not the best of the story rather ending it in heaven.
Re: Guilt-trip Preaching by shdemidemi(m): 1:08pm On Apr 20, 2013
no one seem to be 100% in agreement with this fantastic post of grace.
no matter how righteous a man is, without Jesus He is unrighteous before God and no matter how bad a man is with christ He is righteous through Christ before God.

You can try to be righteous before God which in itself is good but that does not make you righteous before God cos all our righteousness are like filthy rags before Him.

The bible says the heart is deceitful above ALL things, and desperately wicked. Man has a sin nature that He cannot do without except He leaves this flesh.

The only way man can be saved is through the blood of Christ which is for the propitiation of our sins and not how holy we can be.

e.g on the day God plagued the land of Egypt by killing all the firstborn He told His chosen people to kill a lamb and put the blood on the doorposts and lintels of their houses. if pharaoh and his family was to go into a house that has the
blood they would have been saved.

that is the same way the blood of Christ works, you just need to be under the grace to be saved.

of course you are not encouraged to go on a sinning spree but to be humbled by the the love and unmerited favor that has been presented.

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