Marriage is the dream of every woman,
and every man. Finding a good partner, for
life, is like finding your divine blessing,
that can last you for a lifetime.
In this part of the world, we are more
idealists than realists. If we face setbacks in
our businesses, we are always comfortable
with reciting the famous words: “it is well”. If
rain soaks you on the way to the office, it’s
“showers of blessings” and a promotion is
probably on the way. If our right palm itches,
it means some long lost relative will send
cash soon.
It is no wonder that for many ladies,
marriage seems to be the escape route from
society’s pressures. Many of us fantasize,
dream or even start planning a wedding
before meeting “the right one”. Worse still,
the romantic movies of heroes falling in love
with less than perfect women and sweeping
them off their feet in a proposal at the
airport, add fuel to our flame of fantasy.
The truth is: idealism is great, but the idealist
never knows what to do when the real
situation hits hard like a deadly punch from a
wrestler’s fist.
The Most Glamorous Part Of A Marriage Is
The Wedding
A gorgeous cake, fresh flowers, wedding
gown by Vera Wang, the exotic honeymoon,
the paparazzi – all these come into play at
the wedding. From the moment the bride
wakes up on her wedding day to the moment
she spends her first official night as a
married woman, she feels on top of the
world. Too bad, the party can’t last forever.
When you see an elderly couple retaking their
marriage vows, with tears in their eyes,
please note that those tears are not just tears
of happiness; there are tears of a story well
told – of joy, pain, courage, sadness and
victory against all odds. If you’re not ready to
deal with these, it’s not a sin to wait a little.
Marriage is hard work and sacrifice.
The Word ‘Sacrifice’ Will Suddenly Come Up
More Often In Your Dictionary
This word, we all dread – sacrifice. From the
first day, you would find out that you may
have to place the needs of others before
yours, and if you are blessed with children,
get ready for more sacrifices.
Will there be times you wish you were single?
Yes! Will there be times you wish for one
minute to yourself? Definitely! If given the
opportunity, would you do it all over again?
For most people, YES – especially if you are
with the right person.
Marriage Is Not For Pretenses Or Show-Off
Whether you cook with diamonds in your
Egusi soup, or look like a goddess, or even
know a thousand styles in bed, a man always
knows to whom his heart belongs. The
meaning is simple: Be yourself before
marriage, and don’t try to portray what you
are not.
Let him fall in love with the essence of you,
not with an image you have created. It’s
difficult to fall out of such love, except either
of you change sometime during the marriage.
You Never Really Know A Man/Woman
Until You Get Married Forget that you two
lived in the same house for a few years
before marriage, as far as there is no
contract binding the two of you together in
matrimony, you have not started.
People tend to let down their hair when they
are married, and like an onion, the real us
we have kept to ourselves start to unravel.
The only thing to do is adjust and move on –
you’re in it for real this time.
Marriage Is Team Work
Like a job, if you like team work, this role is
for you. Just kidding. What I am saying here
is that if you don’t work together as a team,
you are heading for a major disaster. The
unfortunate thing is that you can’t control the
other person’s mind, and vice versa.
So, one just has to respect the other person’s
boundaries, and it’s difficult if both of you
are always bent on having your way.
Like A Rollercoaster, There Are Ups And
Downs
Don’t think that in marriage, every day will
be a holiday. You are kidding yourself. In
fact, the most ecstatic moments in marriage
come after a low period. Like every good
story, you will be faced with challenges and
tests.
Even if you fail one, life will give you an
opportunity to repeat the test. But when you
pass one, the rewards are priceless.
Marriage Is The Ultimate Gamble
Sometimes, marriage leads to happily ever
after. Sometimes, it doesn’t. All is fair in love
and war. If it doesn’t, dust your feet, learn
from past mistakes, and start painting a rosy
future without giving in to society’s pressures.
Many times, society looks down on divorced
women. We are quick to point fingers that it
is a woman’s fault that things did not work
out. The fact is, it could be anybody’s fault.
Either man or woman.
In the end, marriage is about two selfless
people living together to achieve each other’s
goals. If you find the right person to make
that sacrifice with you, you are extremely
lucky.

Nice!

Numbering your points wouldn't hurt