StateOfMind:


Don't sweat it bro. The marriage is over. No matter how hard you try to fix things, you'd never trust your wife again. It wasn't once, neither was it with a stranger.. Kai..She is a wicked wife and a heartless mother and she doesn't deserve you. I honestly can't wrap my head around sleeping with another man when you have a less than 1 year old baby and a husband at home.


But Er er ermmmmm....oga, please spare us the self control story. Why would you lay a finger on her in the first place? Your wife cheating on you is not an excuse to beat her. Send her back to her parent's house if you can not stand her. Shikena!

Nayoanalytical: let she go immediately,she is wicked.

phrancys001: Hav U considered a DNA test on d baby ? For starter.

cinder66: I realy feel for you, what more can kill a man faster than an infidel and ungrateful wife. Divorce her asap and take ur daughter far away from her reach. Now what is her gain cos am sure the cork did not stick in her punny for more than 30min. No wonder some men call us fish brains, if she no marry now, she go D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ cry foul. Mtcheeeeeeeeew

Tobiegal: Frankly, i feel really bad for you OP and would not wish your dilemma on my enemy.

That said.

I would not advise divorce for you... Just consider if it were the other way around... and you were the one caught...

Many of the NL guys are simply talking... something are bound to happen in marriage... cheating/infidelity is one of them... unfortunately, yours came from your wife.

When we see married folks of over 25years... do you really thing they didn't pass this phase of infidelity? Really? Yet, today, they have been able to work through it all and have been made stronger for it.

Many women/wives have endured and prayed and have made the marriages work, despite Infidelity by the husbands... many of them took your option of divorce...some chose to remain and work it out.

At the end of the day, Marriage is what i term " work-in -progress" and when we sign those dotted lines... We should know that these things happen.

Some men have cheated on their wives during pregnancy... Yet, there would always be clarion call for her to "forgive him"... "he was denied sex" and a lot of excuses...

Not to excuse your wife's behavior...

There's a lot more to Marriage than "bailing out" at the slightest issue... Yes! this is a serious Issue...

The choice of what to do largely depends on you... you don't even need to consider your innocent daughter... cos you have only tot about yourself when you stated "marriage should be enjoyed and not endured"... it has also shown your perception that what matters the most to you now is YOU.

biolabee: Seperate for a while
Sort out your feelings

May God Help Us All

buemene: I sincerely sympathize with you on this ugly development in your marriage. When the marital union falls apart, all partners including YOU the husband, and especially the innocent little child will face adverse consequences. Sad as it may be, and though you've got every legal and moral right to file a suit for divorce, My candid advice to you is that you DON'T file for a divorce just yet.

The most you should do is to have a separation and relocate from your current resident giving you the much needed fresh and new perspective to see the matter differently. This will also leave room for reunion should you heal in the process. Time has a way of helping us handle this matter more maturely.

Above all, Pray to your Grand Creator (Jehovah) for proper guidance in handling this issue.

jackbauersballs: Before I divorce the olosho, I would feign forgiveness.
Then secretely begin to destroy every thing she holds dear...


I would seduce her mom

Get her younger sister pregnant

Clean out her bank accounts

Arrange for her to get fired from work

make a sextape with her and post it on the internet

Then finally divorce her and take custody of the kid after revealing that it was ME who fcked her up...

I hate these gaddem oloshos mehn...

As for that 'friend'...he can expect broken ankles/elbows,and kneecaps