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yellowpawpaw: Yep,this reminds me of my visitors today.a guy and a babe.after eating,d gal went to d kitchen and started washing plates and co.I tried to get her out but she insisted and I let her be.that's a clear msg to me she want to impress us but I just didn't buy that.d guy didn't tell us anything(BIL) well,whatever that works for anybody,but I don't think I can do that.

@ boldened...it might not be so. She just might have been doing what she thought appropriate not necessarily because of any impression.

Wow!, very interesting thread!
Oh God, i came late, been very busy all through, God help women.




As for me, my own story be one kain o, i was a friend to him(hubby), i mean we were platonic in our friendship, but i never knew he liked to marry me, and also, was thinking i may not accept his proposal because of our closeness. He knew the guy i was hanging out with before, i use to confide in him of what happened between us, but the major problem i had with the guy is that , he tell lies too much, and when hes caught, he uses another lie to cover it up(and he claims to be a pastor o), so, i was fed up, i knew what i wanted, so, after much correction from my side, and his refusal to all, i decided to call the relationship off. I just told him straightaway, "please, since you know you dont want to change, and i cant spend my life with a perpetual liar, i will want us to quit this relationship". I said it, but it wasnt easy for me"(we've been together for more than 3 years). So immediately he left my place, i just went to my friend's place(now my hubby) and told him the decision i have made....lol, he answered..."fine, you deserve a better guy, and what you are looking for in sokoto is right in your sokoto". Initially, i didnt understand him, until one day he came to visit me and he met my pastor with me, so, he didnt stay long, after they left, my mum came to my place and told me she had a dream that me and that guy were under the same umbrella while rain was heavily falling, she said, the implication of that dream is that....."if he propose to me, i will not regret it if i accept, but that is if you like him o"
Well, we continued our friendship, without telling him anything, hoping that, if hes man enough, he will propose and the day he will do it, he just said......."how beautiful will it be, if we spend our lives together till the end of our lives, (not all this nollywood dramas o), he said it while we wese discussing, and he was sitting, well, as usual, i told him to let me pray about it, lol, after 5 days, he came to ask how far, i accepted, lol, and we got married exactly 2 years after.


Now, to your question, should i propose to him when he had not, well, to be sincere, i was too careful and too calculative for that, i dont think i can ever do it.

How do you know hes the one, my mum is "Joseph alala" virtually, all her dreams came to pass, plus, i have never heard about any bad report concerning this guy, we've been friends since primary school days.
Thank God, i have never regretted marrying him.

Gosh, sorry for long story.

#i will now go back to read the people's comment, i just hope my comment is on track.

^^over on track dey worry your post

chaircover: I have another question. If he doesnt propose, and deep inside of you, you feel that he is the one, then what do you do

one thing im sure of, is that i couldnt and cant propose to a guy, im very careful and calculative.
if he didnt propose after 6months of my mum's dream, im sure i will be bearing Mrs something else name by now, because, sincerely, so many suitors were begging out then........lol,

Connoisseur: ^^over on track dey worry your post

Don't mind her...that her post is just too on point! I only had one "like" but I wish I had 1000. Mr na sharp man...no dulling...


To my future wife: "Ohun to n wa lo Sokoto wa ni sokoto e oh! "

Connoisseur: ^^over on track dey worry your post

thanks, thanks.

sholay2011: Don't mind her...that her post is just too on point! I only had one "like" but I wish I had 1000. Mr na sharp man...no dulling...


To my future wife: "Ohun to n wa lo Sokoto wa ni sokoto e oh! "

thanks and thanks.


And you know what, i never for one day thought abut us getting married, because, we were damn too close as friends......lol

greatgod2012: one thing im sure of, is that i couldnt and cant propose to a guy, im very careful and calculative.
if he didnt propose after 6months of my mum's dream, im sure i will be bearing Mrs something else name by now, because, sincerely, so many suitors were begging out then........lol,

slimyem:

someone already wasted my time for more than 3 years and i should still wait for another one who may not be to waste my time again.
And you know what, when he said "what you are looking for in sokoto is in your sokoto", i never knew he was referring to himself, so, if he didnt propose, i would have concluded about my mum's dream that "ala go"

If he doesn't propose, you move on.

@ I'm sure Mr was. smdh-ing at both of you then... *Yimu* kilon she woman to n waste time ara e

Well it's easy to move on because you're confident, other men knew your worth because you didn't ridicule yourself with diff men. Or else hubby wouldn't look your way.

We dated for 6 years. He called me one day and said,'my people are coming to see your people on sunday'.. That was all the proposal I needed. We knew we would like to get married pretty early in the relationship,hence we strived to make it work.

We had talked about it all,planned and looked forward to our lives together as a married couple. I didn't get an engagement ring,till date I don't wear "double barrel" rings.

Its not always all about the "hollywood style" proposal.

greatgod2012: someone already wasted my time for more than 3 years and i should still wait for another one who may not be to waste my time again.
And you know what, when he said "what you are looking for in sokoto is in your sokoto", i never knew he was referring to himself, so, if he didnt propose, i would have concluded about my mum's dream that "ala go"

I understand you jare.
Infact, I think most women in this part of the world are like that. Proposal is for the man. If he won't ask,she won't either and will wait for one who will.

slimyem: I understand you jare.
Infact, I think most women in this part of the world are like that. Proposal is for the man. If he won't ask,she won't either and will wait for one who will.

and that is what the bible says......... He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and shall obtain favour from God" not....."she who find a husband"

Question: what would you do if he doesn't propose? Stop the test driving and playing wifey .

I told mine from the get go, I'm not in this to play or to be played. Get your act together sweety. if you are not ready for a serious relationship, let me face my books and get my boot and gun.

armyofone: Question: what would you do if he doesn't propose? Stop the test driving and playing wifey .

I told mine from the get go, I'm not in this to play or to be played. Get your act together sweety. if you are not ready for a serious relationship, let me face my books and get my boot and gun.

I like your style

Every sensible lady knows where the relationship is heading to.
We just like to hope too much and deceive ourselves sometimes.

Madam CC, this is a wonderful thread but you've not "gisted" us on how Mr CC located you... ....abi did u go to Sokoto before u realised d tin dey ur sokoto? Tell us.

Like my dad would always say-A MAN KNOWS IF HE WANTS TO MARRY A GIRL AFTER SPENDING A DAY WITH HER. I have never believed in long courtship anyways, except both of them are still very young. Put the ring on it after six months and be married a few months later.

Interesting but why can't the lady do the proposition and what is the big deal in proposing anyway?

people wait sometimes for reasons ranging from economic to social but I think once two people are ready , they font waste time

people wait sometimes for reasons ranging from economic to social but I think once two people are ready , they dont waste time

If he doesn't propose....Propose!

This thread is interesting...

Is simple, u kill him and kill ur self

I know I can't do the proposing but I definitely will ask questions.

I'm the type of girl who likes to define the relationship once I start feeling strongly for the person, well since I'm still in my early 20's and just getting to know what serious dating means, I'll do what I do best which is ask questions and observe, if its not going anywhere, trust me as a girl, you'll know.

what is proposal
never heard of the word

Then you ask him.

She can ask him. There is nothing wrong with a woman taking the reigns and doing it herself.