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vivianc: I wouldn'T wait much, never had to wait. I keep my options open, very open. Until a man pays The bride price, my life would never revolve around him, no flaunTing and no playing wifey. We are noT exclusive until he earns it, and he would be aware of my stand.

wont pay a bride price if you are not a virgin and even if u were a virgin once the bride price is paid u become my posession, so dont put yrself on a pedestal,a woman is a posession

maclatunji: The Nairaland/Social Media effect? #LOL

Mos def. The one who proposed to me via text message argued that his father proposed to his mum through a handwritten letter mailed via NIPOST.

trolling: wont pay a bride price if you are not a virgin and even if u were a virgin once the bride price is paid u become my posession, so dont put yrself on a pedestal,a woman is a posession

You have got to be kidding me...

Ishilove:

You have got to be kidding me...

Don't bother yourself, his name is a dead giveaway of the kind of person he is, you know, the type that makes inflammatory comments so as to get attention which hardly comes their way in real life.

Am happy we re having dis talk, pls what in a situation were d guy really care abt u he love u & u no it, he is in good talking term with ur relations, call u like 5 to 6times a day, takes care of ur needs, he is concern abt u & ur future to an extent worry when u re sick ready to stand for u & with u in any condition, his people no u and ur people no him most of all he doesn't want u to date anyone else except him yet he tell u that u guys can't end up together cos u re not compatible. Pls I need someone to advice cos it confusing he cares he really do but......

omocheche: Am happy we re having dis talk, pls what in a situation were d guy really care abt u he love u & u no it, he is in good talking term with ur relations, call u like 5 to 6times a day, takes care of ur needs, he is concern abt u & ur future to an extent worry when u re sick ready to stand for u & with u in any condition, his people no u and ur people no him[b] most of all he doesn't want u to date anyone else except him yet he tell u that u guys can't end up together cos u re not compatible[/b]. Pls I need someone to advice cos it confusing he cares he really do but......

Is the bolded a fictitious story? He is a time waster, run very far away from him. For someone to openly declare that to you, and you still stick your neck around with him? I hope your eyes will clear when he wastes your time pass your prime.

You can keep dating him if you plan to end being a NUN.....
Now pick up your phone, give him a call and tell him its over between you two except the friendship and open your heart to a more serious people.

If the guy really cares like you described him, he will be after your lifetime happiness and fulfillment, why would he stop you from dating someone who will be interested in marrying you when he doesn't have such plans. Have you guys taken a secret oath? Please never ever let ANYBODY be a clog in your wheel. HE IS A TIME_WASTER

Thank u so much this really help.

bellong: Is the bolded a fictitious story? He is a time waster, run very far away from him. For someone to openly declare that to you, and you still stick your neck around with him? I hope your eyes will clear when he wastes your time pass your prime.

You can keep dating him if you plan to end being a NUN.....
Now pick up your phone, give him a call and tell him its over between you two except the friendship and open your heart to a more serious people.

If the guy really cares like you described him, he will be after your lifetime happiness and fulfillment, why would he stop you from dating someone who will be interested in marrying you when he doesn't have such plans. Have you guys taken a secret oath? Please never ever let ANYBODY be a clog in your wheel. HE IS A TIME_WASTER

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HotNaijaBabe: My heart beats went GBAM GBAM GBAM when i read this...I am guilty... #Bad Love.

Tell me something.
@omocheche, bellong nailed it. Take dt advice very seriously.

good topic, thank u chaircover and I hope will help those of us who's had their fair share of hurt

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oggy005: good topic, thank u chaircover and I hope will help those of us who's had their fair share of hurt

Why not share the hurt story, help can come your way, you never can tell

candygosh: Is he d only man on earth

If he doesn't propose move on to d more serious dude
Or better still can change d game like gabrielle union did to jeremy In d movie think like a man

If all else fails trust GOD

Why bring God at the end? while not involve Him from the begining?..that is the mistake alot of ladies make...

A very nice thread and lot of matured responses...

But i gat a question..

What if the situation was reversed, as in u tell d gal from the onset that u want to marry her that u have no time for games, and six months down the line she has not made up her mind yet.

and she still chew gum the guy as in dai are very very close.. when he tells her to define their relationship she begins to emotionally black mail him ( crying and all those girlish things) and he really really likes the gal

So, adults in the house what do u think he should do in a situation like dis

This matter is a very serious on ooo, those of you who have gone thru this wire, tell ur tales please, we wanna learn.

temi4fash: A very nice thread and lot of matured responses...

But i gat a question..

What if the situation was reversed, as in u tell d gal from the onset that u want to marry her that u have no time for games, and six months down the line she has not made up her mind yet.

and she still chew gum the guy as in dai are very very close.. when he tells her to define their relationship she begins to emotionally black mail him ( crying and all those girlish things) and he really really likes the gal

So, adults in the house what do u think he should do in a situation like dis

I have observed that most girls in that situation do not deeply like the person they are with, they are only passing time peradventure their desire will come around.

Tell her its over between you and do not give in to the emotional blackmail. If she really wants to be with you, you will know afterwards.

bellong: I have observed that most girls in that situation do not deeply like the person they are with, they are only passing time peradventure their desire will come around.

Tell her its over between you and do not give in to the emotional blackmail. If she really wants to be with you, you will know afterwards.

not m jawe.. it ma Elder brother joor..

i have told him over and over again but he wont burge..

Seems over luv dai worry m....

temi4fash: not m jawe.. it ma Elder brother joor..

i have told him over and over again but he wont burge..

Seems over luv dai worry m....

Find a way of letting him control his emotions, that is what is beclouding his judgement. The girl in question has seen this and she is using the card to her advantage. As soon as she sees her desirable, your brother is a foregone conclusion.


Let your brother play the card first and see her reaction, it will be an eye opener.


Meanwhile, how old is the girl? Young age may also be her problem

bellong: Find a way of letting him control his emotions, that is what is beclouding his judgement. The girl in question has seen this and she is using the card to her advantage. As soon as she sees her desirable, your brother is a foregone conclusion.


Let your brother play the card first and see her reaction, it will be an eye opener.


Meanwhile, how old is the girl? Young age may also be her problem

thanks for ur help..

Ma bro is gonna be 30 next year and the girl is 24

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temi4fash: thanks for ur help..

Ma bro is gonna be 30 next year and the girl is 24

The age may be one of her problems. She believes she's still young. She doesn't want to be tied down- to use their language. She doesn't know what she wants and not yet ready for marriage.


If your brother has the time, he can wait for her to outgrow her childishness or follow the earlier advice

omocheche: Thank u so much this really help.

I was in a similar relationship years ago, thank God I fled when I did.

U luv a guy so much,and he know u rili luv him,he dos everytin 2 mak u apy,dos nt want 2 hurt u,u guys are stil madly inluv,cos it is stil fresh(abt 4months nw)he is wanting 2 see ur mumsi and odas,always distubin u abt seein her,bt you av neva seen his parents,he clams they live somwher very far(village)bt all he dos is introduce u 2 just his frds,neva his parents,bt he anxious 2 see mine,wat do I do?

temi4fash: A very nice thread and lot of matured responses...

But i gat a question..

What if the situation was reversed, as in u tell d gal from the onset that u want to marry her that u have no time for games, and six months down the line she has not made up her mind yet.

and she still chew gum the guy as in dai are very very close.. when he tells her to define their relationship she begins to emotionally black mail him ( crying and all those girlish things) and he really really likes the gal

So, adults in the house what do u think he should do in a situation like dis

If he really likes her, let him wait. Nothing wrong with waiting.

faithuak: U luv a guy so much,and he know u rili luv him,he dos everytin 2 mak u apy,dos nt want 2 hurt u,u guys are stil madly inluv,cos it is stil fresh(abt 4months nw)he is wanting 2 see ur mumsi and odas,always distubin u abt seein her,bt you av neva seen his parents,he clams they live somwher very far(village)bt all he dos is introduce u 2 just his frds,neva his parents,bt he anxious 2 see mine,wat do I do?

Ask him if he has any known relatives nearby. The village is in the country, you can tell him that you don't mind going that far to meet his parents. Meanwhile, don't go there with him alone, be in company of friends including male.

Tell him you want to meet his parents before meeting yours since meeting your own parent is easier.

faithuak: U luv a guy so much,and he know u rili luv him,he dos everytin 2 mak u apy,dos nt want 2 hurt u,u guys are stil madly inluv,cos it is stil fresh(abt 4months nw)he is wanting 2 see ur mumsi and odas,always distubin u abt seein her,bt you av neva seen his parents,he clams they live somwher very far(village)bt all he dos is introduce u 2 just his frds,neva his parents,bt he anxious 2 see mine,wat do I do?

100% insist on meeting his people. Surely, he must have relatives in the city he lives. Do your background check, it is essential.

slimyem: A lot of Nigerian men think like you.
Some might even throw it in your face later that "Shebi you were the one that asked for my hand in marriage"?

Ok....what is your view on that?..All I wanna know is if it is safe to give in to a lady who really shows it even in the public that she wants you.

nbright: Even the ladies say such words to their husbands when they argue.

Ok....what is your view on that?..All I wanna know is if it is safe to give in to a lady who really shows it even in the public that she wants you...Please no arguement.

wealthpos: Ok....what is your view on that?..All I wanna know is if it is safe to give in to a lady who really shows it even in the public that she wants you...Please no arguement.

If you like the lady and comfortable with her person to spend the rest of your life with her, there is nothing wrong in giving her a chance. There is a Yoruba adage that says "a man saw a snake, a woman killed it, it doesn't matter who killed it but what matter is the snake to die"

Give her a chance if you like her too.

wealthpos: Ok....what is your view on that?..All I wanna know is if it is safe to give in to a lady who really shows it even in the public that she wants you.

You answer the question.
Does a lady who wants you and shows that she does scare you?