chaircover: I just read your post again, and saw the daddy bit.

So you have parents?! You have somewhere you can run to?! So what are you waiting for? What is your excuse? [b]You like being married to a big man? You like your jeep and your big house? You like your front seat in church because you are married to a big man. You like the way they call you madam everywhere you go . . . . [/b]I am very sorry for you, because if God forbid you die, your children will be glorified house helps in their fathers house when he remarries.

You have never heard that peace is better than all the money in the world? You have not heard of rich people committing suicide?

You better run to your fathers house before you become another statistic. You can sew and you have am machine, so which hunger wants to knack you? I dont know what the Nigeria police will do for you! How will an undertaken written on paper stop his crazy anger when it descends on him and him beating you? Anyway When you are ready, you know what to do so dont let me carry on writing epistles. I wish you all the best

debrief08: All I can say is better not write one of those annoying letters from the grave.
You have made your own adult choices to die in the hands of someone who doesn't care.
You refuse to tell your family because they are sane people who will drag you of your suicide mission.
You are the one who can help yourself, my own sha, don't write any annoyning letter from the grave.
Goodluck

sstartony:
I don't know if i'm making a right decision. I'm really scared because his family(10 in number) are psyco there is a lawyer among them and they always have each others back either right or wrong.
Nevertheless my family has little knowledge of all this. If my dad should get a clue, he will just end the marriage straight away, he is a man of action.
Pls help me good nigerian, i want to stay married but i want my freedom.

baby_123: Madam, if you are telling the truth. You and your husband both have mental problems. May be it is a fetish you both have between each other. I have heard that some women like to be beaten to show you love them. Are you one of those? If you are not, when he goes to work. Gather yourself and off to your father's house. Or call your father and a lot of men in your family, let them break whatever lock is keeping you in the house. And sit down to await the guy with a serious meeting. Have your load packed so that you can leave with them for a bit. Also change churches to a pastor who is not a hypocrite. I think you are a script person though. I wouldn't be coming back here.