debrief08: This is part of growing up, you will learn that you can't have everything you want no matter how much you "claim" it.
Churches have taught people wrongly that God is there to be our personal messages, the ignore "ALL Things work togather for good" or twist it.
All things meaning; sad times, sickness, death, failures and whatever we face are meant to work for good, good may not be physical manifestation good may be the growing lessons you pick: How could this have been better, what lessons did I pick, or in future that experience may be used to help someone else, eg, most of us who have tasted hurt, extreme pain and disappointment easily understand what people are saying when they face similar situations hence God will use us to help that person pass through his/ her own phase.
What you do now is realise that you can't always have everything, and this is a phase that will pass and pick the lessons you can from it.
Also realise that continous sulking and whinning will push your partner away hence you will have double loss.
When I am faced with hard times as I am currently I reflect and thank God for finding me worthy to be tested, I thank God for all the previous things I have faced and how He helped me overcome them. I also ask God to help me learn what he needs me to learn, then I ask for Grace to go through the current phase.
Nothing lasts forever including good times.
When you learn that lesson you have conquered half of the problem

My Vicky:
Thanks a lot for the message. It is well appreciated.

obowunmi: If you're suffering from depression try to seek medical help.

My Vicky: I really need to know how you can handle your unhappiness personally without hurting your partner.
There is this very big opportunity I have been hoping for like my life depended on it and I suddenly realized I missed it and unhappiness, sadness and gloominess took over. My partner is someone who wants me to be happy always and someone who becomes sad whenever I am unhappy. I do not want my sadness to be a source of unhapiness for my partner but I don't know how to handle it.

Please, what can I do?

Thank you.

debrief08: This is part of growing up, you will learn that you can't have everything you want no matter how much you "claim" it.
Churches have taught people wrongly that God is there to be our personal messages, the ignore "ALL Things work togather for good" or twist it.
All things meaning; sad times, sickness, death, failures and whatever we face are meant to work for good, good may not be physical manifestation good may be the growing lessons you pick: How could this have been better, what lessons did I pick, or in future that experience may be used to help someone else, eg, most of us who have tasted hurt, extreme pain and disappointment easily understand what people are saying when they face similar situations hence God will use us to help that person pass through his/ her own phase.
What you do now is realise that you can't always have everything, and this is a phase that will pass and pick the lessons you can from it.
Also realise that continous sulking and whinning will push your partner away hence you will have double loss.
When I am faced with hard times as I am currently I reflect and thank God for finding me worthy to be tested, I thank God for all the previous things I have faced and how He helped me overcome them. I also ask God to help me learn what he needs me to learn, then I ask for Grace to go through the current phase.
Nothing lasts forever including good times.
When you learn that lesson you have conquered half of the problem

mgbeketoto: You are here worrying about making your 'husband unhappy'. . . .While he is getting on with his life. . . happy or not!

What else can cause people to be unhappy if not DEPRESSION? DID YOU CREATE YOURSELF?

There are many things that can make one UNHAPPY in life, not just marriage!
I can NEVER be an unhappy person. . . in marriage or not.
It is up to you. . . .to find out what maketh thee unhappy.
If it is your 'insecurities'. . . . THEN YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE!

In this short life?
I don't kia what it is o. . . . MAN OR NO MAN. . .YOU ALONE CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!
No one can do it for you. . .not even GOD OR JESUS!

Gba be!


In the arms of my loving mother. . .I really can't be bothered with ANY man right now. . . .Time to gist with my mom. Just got back from vacation. . . I OVER PHOCKED. . .the children are fine! I am soooooooooooooooo happy right now.

Why do WOMEN think a man IS THE BEGINNING AND END OF THIS WORLD?
Not my portion o! Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
Time to do some more shopping with my darling mom!

My mama name na ANWUL(JOLLIFICATION). . . My Igbo name na KANWULIA(MAKE WE DEY JOLLY). . . . .Depression and unhappiness is not in my genes o!
Man ko. . . children ni! Friends ko. . . Relations ni! Family ko. . . .finances ni!
Shiooooooooooooooooooor!!!!

OP. . . there is a reason why OYINBO peeps prescribe anti-psychotics for the mentally DOWN. . . You might need some help!

mgbeketoto: You are here worrying about making your 'husband unhappy'. . . .While he is getting on with his life. . . happy or not!

What else can cause people to be unhappy if not DEPRESSION? DID YOU CREATE YOURSELF?

There are many things that can make one UNHAPPY in life, not just marriage!
I can NEVER be an unhappy person. . . in marriage or not.
It is up to you. . . .to find out what maketh thee unhappy.
If it is your 'insecurities'. . . . THEN YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE!

In this short life?
I don't kia what it is o. . . . MAN OR NO MAN. . .YOU ALONE CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!
Tk.
No one can do it for you. . .not even GOD OR JESUS!

Gba be!


In the arms of my loving mother. . .I really can't be bothered with ANY man right now. . . .Time to gist with my mom. Just got back from vacation. . . I OVER PHOCKED. . .the children are fine! I am soooooooooooooooo happy right now.

Why do WOMEN think a man IS THE BEGINNING AND END OF THIS WORLD?
Not my portion o! Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
Time to do some more shopping with my darling mom!

My mama name na ANWUL(JOLLIFICATION). . . My Igbo name na KANWULIA(MAKE WE DEY JOLLY). . . . .Depression and unhappiness is not in my genes o!
Man ko. . . children ni! Friends ko. . . Relations ni! Family ko. . . .finances ni!
Shiooooooooooooooooooor!!!!

OP. . . there is a reason why OYINBO peeps prescribe anti-psychotics for the mentally DOWN. . . You might need some help!

chaircover: That is one of the reasons why we go into relationships . . COMPANIONSHIP!!!

You go through good and bad times together. You laugh together and you cry together. That is why he/she is your other half

He should not only be there when there are good times. If you feel sad/down/disappointed/unhappy, then let him know. He should be able to lift you up and you too will do the same for him when he too needs your support.

This is one of the beauties of having someone to call your own. Use it!!!

My Vicky:
Thank you madam.

My Vicky: I really need to know how you can handle your unhappiness personally without hurting your partner.
There is this very big opportunity I have been hoping for like my life depended on it and I suddenly realized I missed it and unhappiness, sadness and gloominess took over. My partner is someone who wants me to be happy always and someone who becomes sad whenever I am unhappy. I do not want my sadness to be a source of unhapiness for my partner but I don't know how to handle it.

Please, what can I do?

Thank you.

sammy_ademola:

Not a problem

baby_123: Dude, with you it is one issue or the other. I dont think anyone of us here is qualified to help you. Please seek professional help.

My Vicky:
Lolz.

baby_123:

Its not an insult. It is a genuine advice. So dont feel insulted or ashamed. I just dont think any of us here can help you like you may need it.