Afam4eva:
Things you call minor, other people may not call minor. People have different levels of endurance. While some people will kill themselves because all the members of their families are dead, others may kill themselves because there's no more bread in the fridge.

I just read ur profile and I learnt u've spent 7 month,days and hours on Nairaland.
U have a bungalow here?

Tgirl4real:

I certain don't agree with this... lol

I see that we are not answering the questions directly.

That's an extreme case. I'm just trying to paint the fact that some people can kill themselves for reasons that an outsider will see as silly. We're all different and have our limits.

Depression + loneliness = suicidal thoughts;

People can be depressed about a lot of things, when they don't have people to talk to things about they begin to contemplate suicide.
As someone who dealt with suicidal thoughts in the past myself, I contemplated suicide because there was actually no one i could communicate my problems with. I felt so bad and so sad; it was a very dark phase in my life. My parents and siblings were willing to listen but i was so sure they couldn't understand my problems i didnt tell them anything
I smiled to the world and conceived the evil thoughts pulling at my heart

It was untili spoke to a counselor, Not a professional anyway, just picked a random pastor's no and called him. he called me back and we spoke at length, i kept on going to his place, he listened to me despite my anti-religious views.
After i had told him about all my inner fears, i felt the burden lifted away from my heart. Slowly but surely i solved my problems (still have a couple lingering though).

Now i can look forward to a clearer and happier future, the suicidal thoughts of yesterday now looked back upon as a thing of the past

Afam4eva:
Do you use BP internet connection?

BT afam.

adaobi123:

BT afam.

Ohh ok. lol

My contribution to the topic

A case of Economic recession or being a failure- Read a book titled ''The Joy of feeling good'' or '' Highfliers''. Also make the cliche ''Yes I can'' your watchword.

A case of Immorality and Abomination- Ask God for forgiveness and turn a new leave.

A case of emotional imbalances like Heartbreaks in relationship- The person that jilted you doesnt worth dying for. If you die, he/she will keep living and enjoying life. You just end up making your parents investment to go in vain.


Hope my contribution is meaningful?

DONT EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM A RELATIONSHIP

Afam4eva:
Things you call minor, other people may not call minor. People have different levels of endurance. While some people will kill themselves because all the members of their families are dead, others may kill themselves because there's no more bread in the fridge.

Soooo true

Afam4eva:
Do you use BP internet connection?

BT - yeah, but they stay ripping me off, tho.

Effing thieves!

[b] Well well well, a lot has been said about the possible causes of suicide. The thought of doing it could go through anybody's mind.
Instead of over-flogging the issue of the causes, I'll rather suggest some solutions if suicidal thoughts come to one's mind:

Seek the help of a Clinical Psychologist. Since Clinical Psychologists do not advertise their offices, most people do not know where to find them. The simplest way to find a Clinical Psychologist is to walk into any higher institution nearest to you (University, Polytechnic or College of Education). Ask of Psychology Department, look for their lecturers (the ones that majored in Clinical Psychology of course) and you are good to go!

Talk to your Pastor or Imam. Confide in him/her and pray with him/her.

Always talk to a trusted relation or friend whenever you are going through any difficult or threatening situation. Do not bolt it up. Locking up your emotions without confiding in someone could lead to suicide thoughts. A problem shared is a problem solved.

Learn to love your self, love your self sooooooooo much that you can never allow anything to make you kill yourself. Have you ever asked yourself why The Bible says you should love your neighbour as you love yourself? It's because God expects us to love ourselves and not to hate ourselves. Some people in this world hate themselves and feel so worthless and believe that they are good for nothing. I don't blame them though, because something must have happened to them which made them feel that way.
However, when you learn to love and appreciate yourself, whether rich or poor, tall or short, meeeehn! You'll realize that nothing on earth is worth killing yourself for!

May God help us all, Amen!!! [/b]

Hmmmmmm

We can help reduce suicide by loving and supporting each other, accepting people as they are- not forcing everyone to be like us. Tolerating one another..
The world can indeed be a better place.

Coincidentally, I am listening to a similar topic on the Radio
LBC Radio 97.3 http://ukrp.musicradio.com/lbc973/live

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Kindly desist from making negative comment on this thread. The topic is a sensitive one, hence what we say matters a lot.


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maclatunji:

Hello everyone,

It is becoming rather alarming the rate at which we have people on the verge of giving up on life and committing suicide come to the family section to post about their troubles. We also have more reports of cases of people committing suicide in the news. This creates great concern amongst well-meaning people and some of the questions that come-up are:

1. What are the causes of this increase in the number of suicides, attempted suicides and near-suicidal people?

2. What can be done to mitigate factors identified to be causal to (attempted) suicide?

3. Are there any signs to look out for that can indicate that a family member or friend is suicidal?

4. How does each individual manage stress such that it does not get to the point that he/she feels "life is no longer worth living" and suicide looks like a viable option?

5. Are there any professional centres you know-of that can handle such cases? What are their contact details (Address, Telephone, Website, Email)?

6. Is there any other thing the government, society or individuals should do to curb this problem?

Please Note: You do not need to answer all of these questions. Kindly pick any number you feel competent to answer.

Thank you for your interest, support and cooperation.

1.) Q: What are the causes of this increase in the number of suicides, attempted suicides and near-suicidal people?

A: Identification with 'form'.

Our contemporary society is massively materialistic. And if your sense of identity is strongly tied up in such things as how much money you have, or how beautiful your physical body is. You will experience intense grief or what the Easterners call suffering if you do not attain the ideal you seek or worse if something 'bad' happens to your money or looks or societal status.


2.) Q: What can be done to mitigate factors identified to be causal to (attempted) suicide?

A: We as a society need to place less emphasis on materialism.


3.) Q: Are there any signs to look out for that can indicate that a family member or friend is suicidal?

A: Depression. Reclusion.


4. Q: How does each individual manage stress such that it does not get to the point that he/she feels "life is no longer worth living" and suicide looks like a viable option?

A: We need to not take life too seriously. Everything that goes on here is a joke really. And we also need to realize on a very fundamental level that EVERYTHING in this temporal plane is IMPERMANENT.

Nothing here lasts for ever. Not your mansion, not your clothes, not your health, not your looks. Nothing.

From this fundamental depth, you can then treat everything with the levity that it really demands. Nothing is a matter of life and death.

Life is just happening and we should not try to 'control' it. All 'suffering' arises from our trying to make what is by it's very nature impermanent to be permanent.



5.) Q: Are there any signs to look out for that can indicate that a family member or friend is suicidal?

A: General hospitals usually have a Mental Health Ward that has specialist - psychiatrists.



6.) Q: Is there any other thing the government, society or individuals should do to curb this problem?

A: As I said earlier, less emphasis on materialism and then embracing spirituality.

Not spirituality like going to church or something...but seeking to understand the nature of things, and your place in the world.

I'd humbly recommend the Eckhart Tolle's 'The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment' & his 'A New Earth: Awakening To Your Life's Purpose'. He has lots of YouTube videos and audios too - and the books are also in PDF.

There's also another wonderful guy named Mooji (you'll love him). He has tons of free YouTube videos too - and mp3s. There's also another really cool guy named Alan Watts.

Best things that ever happened to me...

How can someone change his thoughts on suicide when the conditions or situation that caused him or her to feel suicidal remain the same?

manmustwac: How can someone change his thoughts on suicide when the conditions or situation that caused him or her to feel suicidal remain the same?

Interesting question. I would venture to suggest that a change in outlook would have to be orchestrated either from within the individual or external influences. You will be amazed at how much you can change things that seem unchangeable just by making a shift in your thought-process.

am 17yrs,and personally been a victim of such albite still undergoing therapy,i can say that most people are so naive and extremely mypoic to notice such.
From a personal perspective,i came from a disfunctional family,it is always abuse and neglect especially from dad. Am always so lonely,loliness is another diease that kills slowly buh surely.i don't ever see a reason to live,i secretly cry and see life as a super punishment and don't worth the emotional pains i go through everyday.
My advice is if you see people with suicide tendency,go to them,try so hard to gain their confidence albiet is so hard to,buh that's the no 1 solution to eat.anybody with suicide tendency hardly open up to people and don't trust anyway.

Why are most people bent on the general idea that most suicidal people have to show depression or reclusion?
From experience,I've been suicidal twice,in my case,there was no option for me to show signs of depression.I couldn't even withdraw totally from people cause that would raise eyebrows.I manned up all through,and pretended everthing is ok.truthfully,I was hurting deep silently.I was real depressed on the inside but because of family reactions to the issue on ground,I had to pretend to be okay.
No one could have thought that I would go at suicide cause I still fit in to day-day interactions.

Hezron Lorraine: Why are most people bent on the general idea that most suicidal people have to show depression or reclusion?
From experience,I've been suicidal twice,in my case,there was no option for me to show signs of depression.I couldn't even withdraw totally from people cause that would raise eyebrows.I manned up all through,and pretended everthing is ok.truthfully,I was hurting deep silently.I was real depressed on the inside but because of family reactions to the issue on ground,I had to pretend to be okay.
No one could have thought that I would go at suicide cause I still fit in to day-day interactions.

hmmm... something to note.

Depression, Heartbreaks, Loneliness, Lack/Loss of self esteem....

Having someone to talk to helps a lot...

Tgirl4real:

hmmm... something to note.

Pple should go tru d stories of attempted suicide cases here and c d connection and check what they r posting.

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I still think the world is over-populated.

I salute whoever has the courage to give up their seat in this crazy world

Suicide is like someone choosing to board 1st Bus from Akure to Lagos.

Others may follow afternoon or night bus; the final destination remains Lagos.



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Its a miracle am alive today after a few suicidal attempts, the last of which I was hospitalize for taking over doze of a certain drug (won't want to mention).

My reason for speaking up is to help identify those already trailing that path.

1) Nothing seems to interest you anymore

2) Then you begin to withdraw from friends, loved ones, church as for me.

3) What makes things worse is that a victim does not want to be helped. Depression is the order of the day, life is just a living hell.

4) You become caught up in your own world. And if anybody had offended you , you wouldn't let go.

5) You then begin to seek a way out of your misery.

6) Then you begin to loose the fear for death.

7) Then all my friend I used to play with before began to think of me as insane. (I even once over heard when passing bye)

Note that it take a while before courage to commit suicide eventually come, (for me I heard nursed the idea for a few years before I start to attempt it)

But thank to God almighty, My mum and family members who showed me so much love.

Now I am 31 years old and can barely remembered I was once in that situation before (haven battled it for about eight years)

For me endless love and care was the key. I hope this will help someone.

ginas: Its a miracle am alive today after a few suicidal attempts, the last of which I was hospitalize for taking over doze of a certain drug (won't want to mention).

My reason for speaking up is to help identify those already trailing that path.

1) Nothing seems to interest you anymore

2) Then you begin to withdraw from friends, loved ones, church as for me.

3) What makes things worse is that a victim does not want to be helped. Depression is the order of the day, life is just a living hell.

4) You become caught up in your own world. And if anybody had offended you , you wouldn't let go.

5) You then begin to seek a way out of your misery.

6) Then you begin to loose the fear for death.

7) Then all my friend I used to play with before began to think of me as insane. (I even once over heard when passing bye)

Note that it take a while before courage to commit suicide eventually come, (for me I heard nursed the idea for a few years before I start to attempt it)

But thank to God almighty, My mum and family members who showed me so much love.

Now I am 31 years old and can barely remembered I was once in that situation before (haven battled it for about eight years)

For me endless love and care was the key. I hope this will help someone.

Thanks for sharing, very insightful.

I believe social assistance centres should be open in every LGA to rehabilitate and help people who are at risk of commiting suicide. It can range from people who just got unemployed to drug addicts to abuse victims. We really need a system that improves the social welfare of our citizens instead of lavishing billions of dollars on projects and committee's that are not needed. We need to empower the minds of our youths and citizens so that they can empower themselves.....That's all folks