that would be the joke of the century! who will listen to her.
but then on the other hand it also protects rich men's children because after a divorce if there's a pre-nup it makes provision for the children to continue to live in the manner to which they are accustomed.
many a time a rich man in naija divorces his first wife and she and her children get almost nothing!!! . its hard to believe but they just have the name and the status but live almost in penury. he frolicks off with the new nubile wife while the ex and kids (especially if very young) barely exist.

In the Nigerian context, a pre-up still does not protect the children. Unless the woman insists the man inserts a clause that guarantees the children a certain fixed amount for a certain period of time. Even then will that pre-nup be enforceable in the courts?

Whether the ex-wife and the kids get a penny is left to the man to decide.

usually pre-nup agreements put into consideration children born during the course of a marriage. it also considers if the woman (or man) is allowed to work and earn a living.
But at the end of the day, nigeria is a different kind of place where nothing works! going to court would be a laugh.

I know that divorces that had prenups are generally less messier than where there was none. both parties usually(but not always) TRY and stick to the agreement that they signed.
but where there's none, i need not describe to you the mayhem that erupts!

Rather than orgasm over a pre-nup, can we all work harder at making our marriages work?
It's not really rocket science o.

Rather than orgasm over a pre-nup

@davidylan
didnt know people orgasmed over prenups!
funny

@ spoilt,

all things are possible to those who at least try.

@davidylan
i haven't stopped laughed!
i dont even know how that is possible. how does one try?
during negotiations or signing or when?
take your time oh!

@ davidylan
meant to say that i havent stopped laughing!

Come for a trial signing. Seeing is believing, being an active participant is even better.

@ davidylan
naughty! naughty!

Just trying to help a sister understand a point better.

@davidylan
i see. what a good and considerate teacher thou art!

prenup my ass.make one person come carry half of my hard earned money in the name of love.if the person no go marry me make im no marry me.

having a pre-nup doesnt mean you don't love your spouse. ive also seen women walk away with half a man's wealth for doing nothing. these bimbos just walk in and out of the marriage casually without adding value to the man and then take away his hard earned cash. inasmuch as we may be in love, we should be smart in love. 

being smart in love entails being VERY picky in your choice of marital spouse. Never marry a woman you havent dated for at least 12-24 months, watch for subtle signs that she may not be the woman for you. We all see the signs but "love" closes our eyes until it is too late.
Taking precautions and above all committing the choice into God's hands is a sure way of knowing that once you go into that marriage, it is for life. You wont be needing a prenup in that case. At least i know i wont.

we see marriages ending after 15 to 20 years. i guess you can never really really know a person. its just very bizarre. i guess for us average mortals its not too bad. having or not having one really doesnt make a difference.

but to those who have a lot of money, its difficult to know who really loves you or loves your wallet. people will be humble and true during courtship only to grow horns later. it just seems like a sensible thing to do especially for those who have a lot. if only for the sake of the children. gold diggers shouldnt be able to reap where they didnt sow for chrissakes. why would anyone enable them?

the case of Sir Paul Mccartney and Heather Mills is a good case in point. Married just a few yrs and now she wants out with half of the fortune (200million pounds) he started making when she was not even born!

She wants child support to enable their only child continue to live the "luxury lifestyle" she's been used to including expensive schools. I guess that automatically means she gets to continue living a luxury lifestyle too without doing a stroke of work. Oh no the one legged gold digger claims to be working for charity!
Plus she's demanding for a mansion too! All these earned for marrying a man for 2 yrs??

I guess u're right. If i have billions, sure i will think seriously about making sure no one goes off with a single penny they did not earn. All that nonsense that she stayed home taking care of the children when i was making the gold does not hold water. Even poor families have children too!

a one legged gold digger davidylan?

anyway i would advice all rich people to sign a pre nup. when the marriage goes awry the if - i - had- knowns start .
im still waiting for the kobe bryant scandal to happen. he was sure he was in love and didnt make vanessa sign one. he must be behaving exta extra good now. he better.

Oh you didnt know she had only one leg? She met Sir Paul when she was down in the dumps, now that he's picked her up, rehabilitated her and improved her net worth she suddenly realises she's no longer in love.

Makes you take more than a second look at that loveydovey girl who kowtows to ur every demands at least until she has sunk her teeth into ur bank account.

i blame the guys sometimes. really rich men have a bad knack for marrying real thrashy women. im sorry but they never seem to marry women with good heads on their shoulders. somehow they've been around groupies for so long that they no longer know what a virtous woman looks or sounds like.
heather used to be a topless model and word has it she used to be a high class escort when she was much younger. everyone knew that. what do you expect?

this is the kind of nonsense i expect:

Heather Mills may get #25m settlement from Macca

London, Apr 30 : Former model and landmines activist, Heather Mills, is reportedly expecting 25 million pounds as her divorce settlement in the contentious legal battle with estranged hubby Beatles' legend Sir Paul McCartney.

However, according to Mills' former bodyguard, Sean Ghent, the 39-year-old is seeking for 200 million pounds settlement.

Ghent said that Mills' side believe that getting a substantial chunk of Macca's fortune would be a total 'walkover'.

Ghent also insisted that Mills deserves that amount because she helped Sir Paul cope with the death of his wife Linda, and pull himself together emotionally.

"Heather's side predict a walkover. She spent seven years with him [McCartney], in which she picked him up, got him back on his feet after Linda's death and rebuilt him emotionally," the Daily Mail quoted Ghent, as telling the Sunday Mirror.

I didnt know we now had to pay women for "pulling us together emotionally", one wonders what marriage was all about in the first place. At #200million, that is a steep price to pay.

Perhaps those of us who eye the big bucks later in life should just adopt children and live alone in peace. At least our kids wont demand half of our fortune for rebuilding us emotionally.

well to really rich guys. its not always about youth and beauty. dig deeper for a woman with real substance. and do marry someone who has a real career and her own dough. the whole prince marrying the slave girl thing and making her a princess is old and unrealistic.

spoilt:

well to really rich guys. its not always about youth and beauty. dig deeper for a woman with real substance. and do marry someone who has a real career and her own dough. the whole prince marrying the slave girl thing and making her a princess is old and unrealistic.

that used to happen in the old days before the advent of divorce laws. In the days before women adopted a new vocation, marriage for the sole purpose of reaping where we did not sow by divorce.

Its quite ironic, that while American women would be aghast at the idea of bride price in Africa, comparing it to 'purchasing' a commodity in the market, they are in the same vein, during divorce, requesting that the property should be shared equally. Their reason? While the man was busy bringing home the bacon, they were home preparing it, for family meals. This was really played out during the split of one famous top shot in the country, Gary Wendt. Honestly gold diggers need liberation too. Let them better themselves, instead of relying solely on a man to cater for them.

In the beginning God made them male and female and he said what God has joined together let no man put asunder including things.
Marriage from the beginning has always been forever, so we should reject everything that
will dishonour it's purpose and i really don't think we are wiser than our mothers who stood
by their husbands in all and had so much believe in the institution.
our knowledge and exposure should only add colour to the institution and not mar it.
And we should not be selfish to destroy the future of the generations to come.
it is time we go back to the book and ask the maker how he intended it to be and the grace
will be made available to us.
there is nothing has beautiful and inspiring as seeing a marriage where the man is the leader as God intended and the woman is giving loving support in submission.
you only need to look at all the great marriages around,because if you want to succeed, you don't go looking at failures.
we still have great examples ,you only need to ask God to show you a role model.


glory's opinion .

Totally agree with prenupt Yea i do. (my Opinion)

The idea behind prenup in Nigeria is for the protection of women, in the event of the marriage crashing, over the years women in Nig have been on the receiving end of marriage break ups. Though it shows lack in believe of lifetime span, it helps to see that women dont get throw out with nothing, It makes her aware of legal protection she can cover herself with.

Personally, i wont do a prenup, but i wont dismiss it altogether, it jus might help a woman get a soft landing, if things get really rough!

Itse:

The idea behind prenup in Nigeria is for the protection of women, in the event of the marriage crashing, over the years women in Nig have been on the receiving end of marriage break ups. Though it shows lack in believe of lifetime span, it helps to see that women don't get throw out with nothing, It makes her aware of legal protection she can cover herself with.

Personally, i wont do a prenup, but i wont dismiss it altogether, it jus might help a woman get a soft landing, if things get really rough!

i kinda agree. having a pre-nup doesnt mean madam wont get something when the marriage ends. she should be well covered since it's likely the woman gets to keep the kids anyway. it just prevents her from walking away with a huge chunk of his wealth.

but then again if majority of the wealth was earned during the marriage i think she should get a huge chunk. especially if it was a long term marriage.

im only angered when the bimbos like heather who only stay in a marriage 3 to 4 years expect half.

@ Spoilt
it sure can be annoying, sometimes that's just the way life goes!

I have extremely strong reservations about pre-nups.
But its just so funny to read through loads of urealistic comments. Id have love to make reference,(cos i did a few checks) but i dont want to appear as if i'm targeting any one personally. But if some claim it is childish, stupid (like some said) to take back the cars/properties you bought your ex,
How come they want pre-nup?
How come they dont see relationship as a risk anymore?
How come its no longer childish to let her part with the house/cars?

In asmuch as two people are together, wheather or not they eventually get married, should thier coming together be a justification for gold diging?

Some things can't work in Nigeria and this is one of them.

Where love has gone. . .