EMOTION

Psychologists have said overtime that emotion remain the strongest force on earth to be tamed entirely. While some believe it is difficult to handle, a handful of others have unianimously generated a belief that man was born to act or behave the way he does. The question remains: what is emotion? how does it control human mind? What really stimulates its functions and what could be done to put it under check? Well, in as much as we are poised to believing a particular notion or the other, it is however worthy of note to really understand the real concept of emotion and how they operate. Emotion is seen or said to be a STRONG FEELING, such as joy, anger, or sadness. It could also be said to be an instinctive or intuitive FEELING as distinguished from reasoning or knowledge. While the first thought showcased the general overview of what emotion fully represents the second definition got my attention to a great degree. Feeling also inundates an emotional state or reaction. Feeling are also emotional responses or tendencies to respond to a belief or an opinion. One striking thing about emotion and feeling is that they are based on assumptions. They are not as exact as the term ''REASONING''. When someone is under the reasoning function or thinking state, options of actions are scrutinized to ensure there is no regret at the end of action exerted.
Quite unfortunately, man knows these basic info to the books and not to the experiences. We keep making the same errs and still anticipate another result to show up. I would like to relate these factors to relationship which is where these errors are made mostly. Especially in the house of God. As people of God we shouldn't be the ones being led by our emotions; rather we should be the ones to tame our emotion. When members of the opposite sex starts coming together in a mere relationship it is very easy for emotions to fly. Why? This is because of the swaying nature of emotion due to assumptions. Cutting across the two sexes, the females are noted to express emotions more than the males; no wonder the bible calls them the ''...weaker vessels...'' This however means that as males we ought to note these factors and mind the way we relate with them especially in the house of God. I keep saying this, brothers mind what you discuss with the sisters especially when you are fully aware in your spirit that you are not ready to settle down. Mind the languages you use on them. Don't call a lady ''MY LOVE'' or anyname that resembles it for any reason (whether by ignorance or by choice) when you are not ready to bear the responsibilities that come with it. Words frame emotions and words could erect emotions. Think about this...what makes someone sad when spoken in a manner he or she does not like? What makes someone jump up in utter happiness when talked happily to? This shows you that words are the ultimate pilots of emotions. Also the senses of touch, sight, hearing, smell,etc could trigger off emotions. So mind the kind of picture you paint to them. To the ladies, due to the nature of your emotion it is highly expedient you know yourself and come to terms to what is your weakness and work towards taming it; because the more you allow it stay the more it gains dominion over you. When you start coming close to someone that is the time you should be careful. A lot of actions could trigger emotion at that time so you have to be careful and watch it. May be the guy is smooth-talker, he may have a good sense of humour, he may be handsome and rich, he may be an achiever, he may be sensitive to your needs, she may be beautiful, she may be very intelligent, name them! When any of these are your flare and you see it in the person you are getting closer to that is the time YOU HAVE TO PAUSE! YESSSS!!! That is the time to take it easy. Your emotions would pump aloud to go deeper with the person! That is when you should employ the ''RESONING FACULTY'' But the media has shown us something very different. Look at the Shakesparean dramma ''Romeo and Juliet'' Romeo saw Juliet that night and feel in love with her that same night; the same with Juliet and they became so attached to themselves that they had to commit suicide for their love. As touching as this could be, it is a huge lie! I have heard in many songs we listen to and most of the magazines we read everyday that ''...when you see something you love GO FOR IT...'' Only 2% out of such attractions last into marriage or something infinte! No wonder our lives has been heading to the wrong directions. When you see something you love the next thing to do is to consider the option and find out truly if it actually fits your specifications. By the time you finish you would be shocked ans notice that what was pumping in you then was just a mere feeling which is extremely fickle. That the girl spoke to you like an angel doesn't mean you should consider her your final bus top. That the brother is a spiritual brother in church and at the sametime fond of you does not is any way mean that he is your man. NOOOOOOOO!!! You don't assume anything and please don't try to assume the position of the man. Some sisters could be very funny... If he has not officially announced his intentions to you do not feel that is what he has in mind. If he has not given you a corresponding action to his ''I LOVE YOU'' then let him roast with it. Love is not a FEELING, love is a CHOICE! God did not feel like loving the whole world; he chose to love the world. That was the samething that happened to Samuel when he went to annoint the king in the house of Jesse. But the Lord gave him the greatest shock of his life!
Finally, emotion is not a bad thing though. It was placed in us by God himself. He placed it in us for a good reason. Let me put it this way, it is not wrong to feel the anger emotion, but it is wrong when the anger emotion overcomes you to the extent that you take on the next individual. It is not wrong to feel the sexual emotion, it however becomes a problem when you take a corresponding action to gratify the sexual urge. What this mean is that you should not be too emotional over issues concerning your welfare and at the same time you should not be emotionless over issues concerning you. You are expected to exercise dominance over it that is what God means by SELF-CONTROL! Remember, this is where the activity of the Holy Ghost is required because he has a huge role to play in this part of your life. Emotion is not love and should not be used to run the love affair. Any relationship flight emotion is its pilot is bound to crash on the shores of regrets, anger, embitterness and gross despondency. SELAH
- Cyude Charlie Oyakhilome