Actress Chike Ike pens an open letter to her fans, opening up about the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of the man she called her husband for five years. Find her story below...
The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I've been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I've tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there's really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn't understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won't happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don't know my story,I guess that's why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that's how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

Wow sorry 4 your bitter experience, trust in God.....the best is on the way

Yeah she was actually a sweet person, I Rembr the first time in her house before marriage, I went there to see the brother, she was so accommodating .... I believe you

Davidbanky: Yeah she was actually a sweet person, I Rembr the first time in her house before marriage, I went there to see the brother, she was so accommodating .... I believe you

my guy why you dey lie like dis,..hahahahaha her house 4 where!

I have heard and read a lot of accusations
from ignorant people who don't know my
story,I guess that's why they are ignorant

I was one of the ignorant people! Thank GOD you came out of the marriage alive

Lordmiracle: my guy why you dey lie like dis,..hahahahaha her house 4 where!

Agodo Egbe ikotun Lagos, and why do u think I can't know her before fame ? That's why u Nigerians are like this and this country refuse to grow, what's the big deal about knowing her self ? Guy someone knew Obama before he became president no big deal so wake up mahn and grow ...

Dear Chika!

I won't believe you... Reasons are:

1. You only told us the parts that will favour you alone.

2. You were the only lady I saw who posed joyfully in the court whilst in the course of divorce.

3. You didn't tell us the things you always do or say that often made your ex husband to be vexed beat you.

4. I once saw a picture of yours smoking some things that a wife material shouldn't try.

5. There were stories that a thieving politician set up a boutique for you in the FCT whilst you were yet to get a divorce.

6. I'm so sure that he loved you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you. So, this issue of him beating you always is questionable because you must have done heart rendering things against him.

7. I don't like you... Maybe because of your charisma and your fake life that you run after.

ADVISE: All this bad character(s) of yours is making your big nose to show more. Lolzzzz If I may ask, are you a cousin to pinochio?

emmysenior: Dear Chika!

I won't believe you... Reasons are:

1. You only told us the parts that will favour you alone.

2. You were the only lady I saw who posed joyfully in the court whilst in the course of divorce.

3. You didn't tell us the things you always do or say that often made your ex husband to be vexed beat you.

4. I once saw a picture of yours smoking some things that a wife material shouldn't try.

5. There were stories that a thieving politician set up a boutique for you in the FCT whilst you were yet to get a divorce.

6. I'm so sure that he loved you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you. So, this issue of him beating you always is questionable because you must have done heart rendering things against him.

7. I don't like you... Maybe because of your charisma and your fake life that you run after.

ADVISE: All this bad character(s) of yours is making your big nose to show more. Lolzzzz If I may ask, are you a cousin to pinochio?

taa anufia ggbafuo, animal mtcheww.

If this is true, then I am happy she found the courage to walk away before it was too late.
Wife-beaters are no respecter of persons.

At what point do you beat a woman

My affirmative answer is never beat a woman, it shows weakness on the part of the man no matter the reason!

Violence has never resolved any problem without creating a bigger one.