An adopted child as many of us know is a child (orphaned, abandoned, etc.) that is taken into one's family legally and treated as one's own child. This is usually done by parents who can not bear children or those who just have natural love for children.

My question to you all is;
1. Do you think an adopted child should be told that he or she was adopted?
a. if yes, at what age and why that age?
b. if no, why do u think so?

First of all, I'm not a married man, buh love kids. So my answer is soley from my own POV.

If I happen to have an adopted child, I'd wish not to tell him/her (especially if we become nicely bonded).
Buh the truth, they say, is like smoke. No matter how hard you try to conceal it, it must find an escape route. Same scenario can definitely play out here, especially as bad~belle people would want to pull your family down by poisoning the child's mind. You know what I mean right?

So to avoid unhealth surprises, I will tell the child, buh at an age when the bond between us is strong enough and more especially in his/her teen age.

You should never hide such facts from children.
When people start calling them 'bastards' in the future. . .they would learn to say things like:

"Glad to be one. . . At least I never knew my biological parents. . .so what happened to you wey bastard better pass? TWO FATHERS(GOD THE FATHER AND GOD THE HOLY GHOST), ABANDONED BY BOTH!!!

Or: "BABY ABIOLA. . . .HAVE YOU LOOKED AT YOUR DNA TEST LATELY?"

I would teach them how to REPLY. . . .PREPARE THEM FOR THE WORLD'S CRUELTY. . .ADOPTION IS NOT A CRIME!

yeah.. beautiful answers above..


as for me, i will prefer not to tell d child dat he/she was adopted.. i feel telling d child will bring nothing but 'discomfort' in d home.. the child begins to see everything u do to him/her to be because u r not d child's biological parent..

as for the child getting to hear from outsiders, why would anyone know dat u adopted a child? who u wan tell before?..

sagytarius™:
First of all, I'm not a married man, buh love kids. So my answer is soley from my own POV.

If I happen to have an adopted child, I'd wish not to tell him/her (especially if we become nicely bonded).
Buh the truth, they say, is like smoke. No matter how hard you try to conceal it, it must find an escape route. Same scenario can definitely play out here, especially as bad~belle people would want to pull your family down by poisoning the child's mind. You know what I mean right?

So to avoid unhealth surprises, I will tell the child, buh at an age when the bond between us is strong enough and more especially in his/her teen age.

i know what u mean.. but don't u think telling d child during the child's teen years will affect him greatly coupled with d hormonal phase in teenage years?

When the child is 18 - 20? And emotionally old enough to handle that piece of information?

Efemena_xy: When the child is 18 - 20? And emotionally old enough to handle that piece of information?

what is ur reason for wanting to tell d child about the child's adoption status?

chaircover: I would tell the child straightaway. The earlier the better. . . I dont want him/her hearing stories outside.

as early as what age?

yorettyna: what is ur reason for wanting to tell d child about the child's adoption status?

~ Because it's only fair they know the circumstances surrounding their birth.

~ For situations where knowledge of their medical history is required e.g: Any known genetic disorders, emergency situations where blood transfusions for example might be needed, knowledge on the child's genotype, etc

I will not tell the child until the child is older say 18/20.
i think when you tell them early, they feel certain things you do were done because you are not their biological mom/parents.

I will tell him when he is married.

At that age and period, he's already thinking like a parent and he will handle it maturedly.

Same applies if she's a female too.

@moshoodn^^^ that z just perfect.. that way, there will b no hatred n all dat