biolabee: No....its a normal maternal instinct

You have to be diligent in identifying schools/creches that will be faithful in their care

Na god dey look after pikin

biolabee: Girls are double assignment

One has to emphasize good communication that her private area is private n no one shd tell her notto talk

Better shes talkative that even helps with identifying mood changes

Sadly, pervs dey town

Audrey I: Hi,

It scares me silly to leave my child in other people's care regardless of who they are because I just feel like no one can take care of her as well as I do. Even when dh forces me to let her go on play dates I spend the whole time she's away freaking out, and asking myself a million 'what ifs'

Here's a little incident: i was forced to leave her in the care of a neighbourto go get something in an area where a bit of road construction was going on(I considered the area unsafe for her)When I returned about fifteen minutes later, this neighbour had allowed my daughter to go out with another neighbour and her kids. I freaked out, and was jittery until they returned about 40minutes later.

So guys, am I going overboard with my concerns for her safety, or am I well within reasonable limits? I'd love to hear from parents especially.

kulyie: sadly our former neighbour who sells food for police men and miscreants had a 12 year old daughter that those her mothers customers used to hit her buts and be raising her breasts up in a mischevious manner whenever the mother is not around,along the line she got preggy at 14,the mother took her for abortion and when i went to buy some things in our former house, 2 years later,i passed by her and we exchanged pleasanteries,i said victoria nko and the way she responded i knew something was wrong,i called her and asked her why she responded to me like that she said victoria ti di ashewo o.i was like what nonsense are you saying,what were you looking at that she degenerated to that level,asewo at 16,she said yes,that she has begged her severally her friends will chase her out of the brothel where she stays and when they were touching her bom bom and breast you will keep quiet and say oro aje ni,now victoria don go haywire,she said i should help her talk to victoria,i said emike? The highest i can do is talk to her whenever we jam but to enter the brothel where she stays,eledami ko.she was like ok o.bottomline is that some under aged girls that are prostitutes today started from their mothers carelessness to their kids

biolabee: Kuly... u no fit enter ayilara square..
I think say u be hard babe naaaau

kulyie: heheheh emike,with all the ehona wey dey there.olorun maje.if we be more than one na,ok,but to go alone satani deyin leyin mi o

juman: I think you have just one child now, by the time you have more child/children you go relax a bit.

biolabee:

ooo ti e le/// ase enu nikan lo ni

I will go with u...

I go run sha if dem pour water on top me ooo
i no know the kain water

kulyie: thank you o.the 2 places where i have vowed never to go is police station and brothels.eledami ko

Audrey I: Thanks all. @Uju and greatgod, I am not a stay at home mum. She goes to school and the school also provides after school care till I pick her up. I have no problem with that and I am actually quite comfortable with the school.

I also teach her to be careful, stay away from strangers, accept nothing from strangers and the like. It helps that she is highly intelligent.

But for some reasons, I just cant trust her with neighbours and relatives. I know it is God who protects, still I feel like most people don't really pay as much attention as they should, especially to feamale children.

One of my neighbours for instance leaves her child of same age at different people/neighbour's home practically all day. So, I really dont fancy leaving my daughter with her cos I imagine she'll do the same. She also tried to persuade me to leave my daughter in the care of her twenty something yr old brother.

Oh well, I'll just chalk it up to being paranoid cos she's the only one for now. I hope I do relax after the second one like you guys say.

@Kulyie: your first post had me laughing.

Audrey I: Thanks all. @ Madam CC, Biolabee and Damiso: Great insight as always. Most of the problem I have is with holidays. But I did get some helpful hints on here, so thanks guys. May God bless your homes.

Audrey I: Thanks all. @ Madam CC, Biolabee and Damiso: Great insight as always. Most of the problem I have is with holidays. But I did get some helpful hints on here, so thanks guys. May God bless your homes.

Audrey I: @Kulyie: so sorry about the omission. wasn't intentional. no vex. your comments were really appreciated.

Audrey I: Thanks all. @Uju and greatgod, I am not a stay at home mum. She goes to school and the school also provides after school care till I pick her up. I have no problem with that and I am actually quite comfortable with the school.

I also teach her to be careful, stay away from strangers, accept nothing from strangers and the like. It helps that she is highly intelligent.

But for some reasons, I just cant trust her with neighbours and relatives. I know it is God who protects, still I feel like most people don't really pay as much attention as they should, especially to feamale children.

One of my neighbours for instance leaves her child of same age at different people/neighbour's home practically all day. So, I really dont fancy leaving my daughter with her cos I imagine she'll do the same. She also tried to persuade me to leave my daughter in the care of her twenty something yr old brother.

Oh well, I'll just chalk it up to being paranoid cos she's the only one for now. I hope I do relax after the second one like you guys say.

@Kulyie: your first post had me laughing.