How important is it to you that your partner finds you physically attractive, gorgeous, sexy, irresistible etc... ?

What if you find someone who loves you deeply yet you weren't his/her 'type' to begin with, but he/she fell in love with who you are.

Me? I think it's a beautiful thing to fall in love with the mind, but I want my man to look at me like what he sees. Women need to feel beautiful and to be told they are so.

No greater times in a woman's life does she need to have the reassurance of her husband especially after having children.

What do you think?

lol itz beta d person falls for who u r than to fall for u juz cos of ur physical looks, but before someone will fall for u with the mind, the person has to at least b attracted to u physically

Both are equally important and very hard to weight whilst having an overview look.
Technically, one needs to be attracted before compatability question even comes into reckoning.
However, depending on the stage i'm in career and life, i'd like to think compatibility becomes the single most important thing.
Of what use is me being attracted to someone i intend spending the rest of my life with if we aren't compatible. This i can overlook if i'm looking to play around or better still need the occasional fix.

daisyella: lol itz beta d person falls for who u r than to fall for u juz cos of ur physical looks, but before someone will fall for u with the mind, the person has to at least b attracted to u physically

I second your opinion,
'What the eyes doesn't like, the heart doesn't desire'
is an old saying.

I definitely agree if you find someone who loves you for you and your heart that you've got something very special.


Actually Jay! Can you move this to the family section? because I want to talk more about after having children and the importance of a woman feeling attractive etc would maybe like to talk to my fellow mums

They are all important to me. I have to love you, be compatible with you and insanely attracted to you.

I love you, and i'm compatible with you but not attracted to you. Or i'm attracted to you, love you but not compatible with you. Or i'm attracted to you, and i'm compatible with you but don't love you...........

None of these conditions would work for me.

vivianc: They are all important to me. I have to love you, be compatible with you and insanely attracted to you.

I love you, and i'm compatible with you but not attracted to you. Or i'm attracted to you, love you but not compatible with you. Or i'm attracted to you, and i'm compatible with you but don't love you...........

None of these conditions would work for me.

I totally agree. But would you settle for anything less?

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I totally agree. But would you settle for anything less?

Nah, I won't.

But you have to know its not easy to stick to what you believe in, especially when there are family/friends putting pressure on you, b.i..tching about how you are too picky and all.

Just know what you want, and don't settle for less.

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How important is it to you that your partner finds you physically attractive, gorgeous, sexy, irresistible etc... ?

What if you find someone who loves you deeply yet you weren't his/her 'type' to begin with, but he/she fell in love with who you are.

Me? I think it's a beautiful thing to fall in love with the mind, but I want my man to look at me like what he sees. Women need to feel beautiful and to be told they are so.

No greater times in a woman's life does she need to have the reassurance of her husband especially after having children.

What do you think?

I think it works both ways. Both partners finding themselves physically attracted to each other is a starting point. Then the next step is determining whether or not it's worthwhile building up the relationship - this is where you get to 'scratch beyond the surface' to see if you're both compatible and if you can live / tolerate each other's differences.