After my introduction my inlaw came 2 my house 2 talk about were d church wedding would take place nd my dad told dem it would be in my church but my father in law was rude 2 my parents sayin dat he had givin my my parents enough consention,dat it was his right nd my parent asked him 2 leave.now my father in law is insisting dat my father calls him 2 apologise or else d wedding would not take place.pls is it right 4 my dad 2 apologize 2 him cos he was rude 2 my parents

You guys are asking for his daughter...Eat humble pie and appologise.

Both parents were wrong to have lost their tempers. Your parents who were the hosts would have played a more mature role to calm down the situation. You are asking for someones daughter and had the audacity to walk the father out of your house, they acted as if they were doing your inlaw a favour.......If you were there you should have also intervened sharply. IF you have a sister imagine your father being walked out of his future inlaws house. Shame on you all. I smell class difference thus the audacity and rudeness.

Wish you good luck!!

I don't know is u are male or female but if u are female,then the wedding shld be in ur husband's church nd yes ur parents shld apologize to him for sending him out of the house.the trditional is done in the woman's place while the white is done in the man 's church.ur parents shld beg him for being rude.

Error, the church tinz is done in d bride's church, dat is d last service d wife will attend in her church
nd later join her husband in his church....... Thouh, dnt really knw about d arguement but both d family shud just beg each oda
to avoid enimity o. u r going into dere house, so let peace reign btw d familes o

There is more to what you have painted here. Before addressing where wedding should take place, I believe your dad should apologise to your father-in-law for walking him out. He should do it not because of the other guy's threat but because its the right thing to do. You don't walk out potential in-law out of your house like that over flimsy issue of where the wedding is taking place. Tell your dad to swallow his pride and apologize to the old man.

Venue for wedding depends on cultural practices of the people involved. for example, the church wedding is done at the bride's father's church for the Yoruba people. If you guys have cultural clash over the issue, its good you address it like adults and not kids fighting over an inconsequential stuff about where wedding should take place. If it is a cultural clash, its better you find balance on where appropriate and convenient to both families and invited guests.

I wish you and the family a successful resolution of this impasse. It is well with you.

Are you male or female??

Story is confusing!

Re u sayin dat if smone come 2 ur house 2 ask 4 ur sista hand nd was rude 2 ur parents u would sit down nd take it cos D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ re inlaws nd even wen my parents re far older dan d guys parents nd besides D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ didn't walk him out like dat wat D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ said was he shuldnt come back if he was goin 2 dictate ​‎​​H̶̲̥̅̊W̶̲̥̅̊. He wants d marriage to take place

I think there is something serious going here asides the church issue.
Seems like you're female and I think it should be done in your church.
However, church or no church is not enough reason for potential in-laws to start being rude to one another
What happened to the couple deciding where they want their wedding to take place?
op, what exactly is going on here cos the story does not add up...

karis23: After my introduction my inlaw came 2 my house 2 talk about were d church wedding would take place nd my dad told dem it would be in my church but my father in law was rude 2 my parents sayin dat he had givin my my parents enough consention,dat it was his right nd [b]my parent asked him 2 leave.[/b]now my father in law is insisting dat my father calls him 2 apologise or else d wedding would not take place.pls is it right 4 my dad 2 apologize 2 him cos he was rude 2 my parents

karis23: Re u sayin dat if smone come 2 ur house 2 ask 4 ur sista hand nd was rude 2 ur parents u would sit down nd take it cos D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ re inlaws nd even wen my parents re far older dan d guys parents nd besides D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ didn't walk him out like dat wat D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ said was he shuldnt come back if he was goin 2 dictate ​‎​​H̶̲̥̅̊W̶̲̥̅̊. He wants d marriage to take place

Well, it was you that said your dad told him to leave not me.... When next you narrate a story, do it well so people do not misinterprete your intention.

Though you still didn't answer your tribe and the cultural practices of both party so we have a balanced view. Between, if they can be rude to your parents, I fear for your sister oooo. Hope she has prayed very well about her intending husband? Going by the parents' action over venue of wedding, I wouldn't know if anger runs in the family.... You people should consider the union very well now that an opportunity presented itself.

If u r a female,poster, what is ur guy's stand on this? Is he seeing things ur way or his family's way? Have u talked with him?
Its still d two of u at d end of d day.
Its paramount that ur foundation shouldn't be shaky.
Please and please, this is marriage, I'm not going to support any party but do urself the favour of ironing it out peacefully before u tire d knots.

I will suggest u and ur spouse handle it carefully and even do the necessary begging if need be.
Wish u luck.
Our cake pls when it happens!

Why didnt the couple decide all these things before bringing parents face to face with each other? I don't know how things are done in your family but you should have done all the back and forth before this meeting. The meeting should just be to finalize what has been agreed. Both sets of parents should just take the high road and forget about what happened. It's about the children for Pete's sake, not about them.

Ure wrong! D wedding holds in d wife's church

nicky4lif: I don't know is u are male or female but if u are female,then the wedding shld be in ur husband's church nd yes ur parents shld apologize to him for sending him out of the house.the trditional is done in the woman's place while the white is done in the man 's church.ur parents shld beg him for being rude.

bellong: There is more to what you have painted here. Before addressing where wedding should take place, I believe your dad should apologise to your father-in-law for walking him out. He should do it not because of the other guy's threat but because its the right thing to do. You don't walk out potential in-law out of your house like that over flimsy issue of where the wedding is taking place. Tell your dad to swallow his pride and apologize to the old man.

Venue for wedding depends on cultural practices of the people involved. for example, the church wedding is done at the bride's father's church for the Yoruba people. If you guys have cultural clash over the issue, its good you address it like adults and not kids fighting over an inconsequential stuff about where wedding should take place. If it is a cultural clash, its better you find balance on where appropriate and convenient to both families and invited guests.

I wish you and the family a successful resolution of this impasse. It is well with you.

Hello. I'm a passive member of this section. I really like your views towards issues. God bless your home and more wisdom from above. Keep up the good work sir.

Its not a cultural tin its basicily a church tin d guy is catholic nd we re anglicans.the guys father sees other churches as inferior 2 d catholic church sayin dat d catholic church is senior 2 all churches because other churches broke away 4rm d catholic church

sholay2011:
Hello. I'm a passive member of this section. I really like your views towards issues. God bless your home and more wisdom from above. Keep up the good work sir.

Thanks bro.. God bless you too.

karis23: Its not a cultural tin its basicily a church tin d guy is catholic nd we re anglicans.the guys father sees other churches as inferior 2 d catholic church sayin dat d catholic church is senior 2 all churches because other churches broke away 4rm d catholic church

The catholic church is superior to other churches?See mindset!

I think your family is going to have issues with a man like your future FIL.

In the yoruba tribe and some other places,there's no issue about where the wedding will take place,it holds in the bride/bride father's church.
For the sake of peace,I think your father should apologise and you guys work something out as adults.

All this and the wedding has not even happened? It seems you are with your parents on this. I just think that's the wrong approach but then again it is my opinion. I think you and your future husbands should decide what you want. When both your parents start to misbehave you should tell them to go ahead and misbehave while you are watching and learning from them. It just seems that you are already "me against my in laws" and I am betting your fiance is also taking the same stance. It is not a good thing. I really don't think neither of you should take sides especially since you said both sides were rude to each other. Don't waste this opportunity. This is an opportunity to see how things could play out in the future with your husband and your families.

The problem caused by people's ego...

Go get belle and the issue would be resolved sharply

dayokanu: Go get belle and the issue would be resolved sharply

LMAO

Be at alert and beware of these early signs.This is a relative's experience: My guy's family once raised issue over their son's wedding to an Anglican on a Saturday. They are Adventists and want d wedding day fixed on a wk day. That was d opportunity I missed to call it quit. It had bn trouble after problem. They are now showing their true colour. They have also requested my parents to bring me to my father in law's house to apologise b4 we can continue. When there is an early sign my advise FLEE. Let us pray when there is unforseen circumstances not enter into hell with our eyes open. These pple are usually not religous as they claim, they are evil. FLEE.

They should both apologise,all i knw is dat d wedding takes place @ d bride's church then thanksgiving is done @ d husband's

I'm sorry. Even though your father is right. What does it take him or you to say I'm sorry.

Your call.

I doubt that either you or your fiance can compel your parents to do anything they don't want to do, so my advice is: you go and apologize to your in-laws and have your husband come to your house and apologize to your parents. Then you both come back to your homes and placate your own parents further. You and your husband-to-be need to be on the same page on this issue instead of taking the side of one set of parents over the other.

They said it all go nd decide wit ur husband 2 be,u guys nt kids anymore. Dis is ur wedin, u decide were u want it 2 hold nd dis wil let u knw d kind of man ur hubby is. Weda he is d type dat wilet his family decide 4 him

Dats wat hpns wen d 2 rich families ar involve, ego n pride sets in, the parents make the plan for their children, and of cos d couple-2-be takes side with their parents. Don't let ur paarents plan your wedding for you, make your plans and relate it τ̅☺ them afterwards. With things going this way at the early stage, Ȋ̝̊̅ see your parents running your matrimonial home for you when you guys are married. Put an end τ̅☺ it now!
@op, both parents should swallow their pride n apologise 2 each oda while u n ur spouse take a decision on where ur wedding should hold.

Wow I can't believe your father escorted your in laws out of the house. If that was my family they wouldn't even give you the chance to apologise there would be no wedding full stop! I'm shocked as to what else your family has in store because I really think they have high tempers and lack humbleness, that is such an embarrassing act to be a part of.

Even if your in-laws were rude to your parents. . .it was quite UNCOUTH to ask them to leave!
YOU ONLY DO SUCH THINGS AFTER THE MARRIAGE HAS TAKEN PLACE!
Your parents are NOT the ones getting married and HAVE NO RIGHT TO SPOIL THE HAPPY OR DOOMED DAYS OF THE YET TO BE MARRIED!

YES! YOUR PARENTS WERE EVEN MORE RUDE AND DESERVE TO APOLOGIZE!

Case CLOSED!

Kanwulia: Even if your in-laws were rude to your parents. . .it was quite UNCOUTH to ask them to leave!
YOU ONLY DO SUCH THINGS AFTER THE MARRIAGE HAS TAKEN PLACE!
Your parents are NOT the ones getting married and HAVE NO RIGHT TO SPOIL THE HAPPY OR DOOMED DAYS OF THE YET TO BE MARRIED!

YES! YOUR PARENTS WERE EVEN MORE RUDE AND DESERVE TO APOLOGIZE!

Case CLOSED!

I can't believe I am agreeing with Kanwulia but that't the truth. Both parents need to be flogged. Are they the ones getting married? Them wan use makosa spoil your blues, right? You should sit your own parents down and give them a good talking too. Same with your guy. Then you and your guy should decide where to get married though allbwedding wahala is usually done in the bride's family settings, your guy and yoursekf may have different plans. It's your plans that matter.

Me, I'll make arrangements and then invite my parents and in-laws......actually, that was what my Lady and I did.

Some comments here sound like they came out from the mouths of under-18 children, who havent gotten much experiences in life.

@Op, if you are a lady,
First of all, your parents should have handled iSsues diplomatically rather than walk your would be in laws out of their house.
Secondly, as long as the traditional wedding has been done at the bride's place, it is then proper that the white wedding takes place at the grooms church, all the weddings i have attended in the last 65years of my life have always followed this protocol, anybody saying it should be done in your church because that would be the last service you would attend is talking crap and is probably below 18years without any experience.

Thirdly, your parents are misunderstanding the issue of catholic church supremacy which triggered the crisis between them and your fiancee's parents, i dont think the guy's parents were deliberately stating that catholic church is supreme above other churches, but they were right in saying that other churches broke out from the catholic church, although i may not know their intent for raising that point, but lets hope it was not what your folks have in mind.

Finally, you are the one being married into that family, after all this gra gra from your parents, and the wedding still takes place, your parents would not move into your husband's house with you,rather you are going alone, so it is your duty to ensure that a proper and peaceful environment is created before and after the wedding.

Goodluck.

@Mobuch i dont think u av d right 2 call anyone's opinion crap,u r entitled 2 ur opinion so ar others