younggirl: Hmmmm! SMH[b][/b]
@Op,combining marriage,school nd childbirth IS NOT EASY!!!!!
Hmm,my dear,from d depth of my heart I will tell u the truth! You are still very young,very very young! It takes a lot of guts,patience,sacrifice nd perseverance! Why not wait till ur final year?
Here's my story! I was a customer in JAMB,not because of failure but because I stubbornly insisted on going to a particular university! I ended up spending eight years at home when most of my secondary school mates had graduated nd doing their masters degree! I met my husband while I was still looking for admission in dat same sch! He encouraged me to do a diploma nd then apply for direct entry later which I did! We got married the following year nd I got admission dat same year! It wasn't easy,two years delay,finally took in but d pregnancy dealth wt me! I missed three of my exams due to hyperemesis gravidarum! Was always in d hospital,unfortunately I lost d pregnancy nd dat same week I was to start my exams. My dear,I had to write d exams o! I had no carry over but my GP was very low! After d exams,I took in again and was having severe morning sickness so I had to defer a session!
When I resumed the following year,anoda pregnancy enter. It was also very tough but I wasn't ready to defer anoda session,so I had to go to school wt d pregnancy o,but I missed two of my exams again dat session!
Hubby has been very very helpful if not I wud have quit school o! I was tired of everything! My low grades,taking care of children,stress of inlaws,stress of doing chores etc
So my dear,take a deep breath. Think of the pros nd cons and honestly ask urself if u're ready for this!

@Byvan,we seem to have a lot in common o! Lol

byvan: 36yrs old man ? ? ? Abeg with the rate of infertility among young men,ladies make una choose early,so you fit choose your size not the one wey don pass 30yrs

iebanehita: @Byvan.. You really are a strong lady. But don't compare yourself to the OP. She has not told us how sound she is academically and if she can combine academic and marital life.

From all what you have said. The ball is in the court of the OP to decide for herself, cz you have said it aLLLLLL.

Konnektions146:
have u looked at your 23year old sister?

bros lets be factual, at 23, over 65% of our girls are not mature enough emotionally and psychologically for that great union called marriage.

vicksbaba:


check dis out

www.babycenter.com/0_age-and-fertility-getting-pregnant-in-your-20s_1494692.bc

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-112136/The-female-fertility-clock-starts-ticking-27.html


LOL.......medical reference from........ Doctor?...... text book

sihom:

At 23 do you even know what a budget is? Or how to draw up one and live within it? I mean you no offence but there are certains things that will make sense to you only when you start working to earn a living for yourself. You need to obtain or acquire a certain level of financial independence for yourself.

Freiburger:
I'm sorry to dissagree, i started paying my rent at the age of 17, even when i had the opportunity to live in a free accomodation all that
prepared me for bigger challenges. That was the way i choosed and not the way that choosed me.

dasparrow: @Post

This is how you Nigerian women rush into marriage. Couple of years down the line, you begin to disturb our ears in the Nairaland family section about how the husband cheats on you, beats you, blah-blah-blah. A man who truly loves you will be considerate and wait for you to at least finish school. What's the rush? By the time you hit 50 years, he must have found himself another 21 year old lady with a tight vargina after your own vargina has slacked due to child bearing and years upon years of sex. Focus on your education because if the man were to change in attitude like the weather, you will be stuck in the union because you have no degree yet, probably no job and no income of your own. When he starts giving you slaps, don't come here asking us on what you should do about a situation that you decided to get yourself into.

sihom:

Well good for you and clap for yourself but this is not about you at all and how early you attained financial independence it's about the OP.

The issue is whether or not she knows and understands simple matters like this. It's not about every 23 year old either, it's always about the indivdual and mind you as men we are wired differently, we realize we have to hustle and don't sit around waiting for someone else to foot our bills.

dasparrow: @Post

This is how you Nigerian women rush into marriage. Couple of years down the line, you begin to disturb our ears in the Nairaland family section about how the husband cheats on you, beats you, blah-blah-blah.

lomaxx:

A man that wants to cheat will cheat even with the best woman in the world. The OP knows best.

Wu Zetian:
Minus maturity, she has her life to live. She hasn't even had time to gain independence, learn how to manage her own. Doesn't she have any career goals?

Freiburger:
I'm not also undermining the importannce of forsights and proper planing before going into marriage, what brought my attention to your post was the question you raised, if a 23yrs old person know what a budget is, and my answer is yes, infact a 23years old person should be able to plan for himsel fand possibly for others. I'm sorry for every other missunderstaning.

byvan: My divorced neighbor married at 34 and divorced at 35+,she was very financially independent. Did that stop her hubby from pounding and abusing the hell out of her?hell no ! one would think that at her age she should be wiser before getting into marriage but for what its worth,she wasn't. Qualifications or independence doesn't make one ready for marriage,it won't make it last, neither ll it produce the babies. It just takes two that wants it to work to make it work,marriage is not rocket science

byvan: The major factor you should consider is the type of man you are getting married to,what is his attitude towards education?is he a graduate?How important is education to you? It's most unlikely for a graduate to want a drop out as a wife,thus he ll be more supportive than one who has no regards for education.Do you intend to have babies before or after school?how brilliant are you academically?do you ace your courses effortlessly or are you struggling with them? Please think about these points before I comment further,am quite busy but your topic really caught my interest,i ve been there.......

bankiele: From my own experience, i got married in my 500 level and that was the best decision i made
After courting for 6yrs.I was 24 when i got married and we were also in different states , i travelled every weekend and my husband was very supportive.
@op the decision is left for u, mind u i studied medicine and surgery and i graduated with good grades(distinction inclusive)