Sincerely, if I were you, I will have a very serious heart to heart with him. The earlier you nip the "mummy's boy" attitude in the bud, the better for you. If he is mature enough to get married, he should be mature enough to resolve his relationship issues without involving mama! Girl, this is the time to firmly show him and his family what you will or will not take in marriage.

Since you said he's not a bad person, do not break up, just postpone the wedding to sort things out. Just tell people that the wedding has been postponed and that you will get back to them later with the new date.

Trust me, the last thing you want as a married woman is your inlaws calling the shot in your own home! You will be so frustrated and unhappy. Sit him down and ask him why he feels the need to involve his mum in his relationship issues. Tell him point blank that you will not take it.

His mum can be his paddy for all I care, she just shouldn't call the shots in your relationship/marriage. Please take sometime to sort this out, if not, you will regret ever marrying him.

yellowpawpaw:

Easy gal, I can never be in ur shoe. It seems u r very comfy with the attitude so why crying awolf?
He and his family treats u d way u want them to treat u and like a wise old woman once said to me, what u can't endure, don't allow.u allow it, cos u can endure it. Full stop.
Its ur life, ur choice and I sincerely wish u d best.

YPP, you have said it all.

Where. Will you live post wedding

Im very close to my mum but i dictate what happens and not the other way round, being close to the mum is not the issue, the issue is the parents probably are responsible for all he has today, job, house and car, therefore he is their lackey and must agree to all they say.
Marry him if only u don't mind being trampled on by the family. BTW are they Yoruba's?
Anyway, run, run run if u want peace in ur marriage. I understand what u mean about telling people already. Just tell them that important family members are not available and so the marriage can't hold for now. People will talk for a while but soon they would forget. If u marry into a problematic home they will still talk, so why be afraid of what people will say? Move on sweetie.

Gaggi: Im very close to my mum but i dictate what happens and not the other way round, being close to the mum is not the issue, the issue is the parents probably are responsible for all he has today, job, house and car, therefore he is their lackey and must agree to all they say.
Marry him if only u don't mind being trampled on by the family. BTW are they Yoruba's?
Anyway, run, run run if u want peace in ur marriage. I understand what u mean about telling people already. Just tell them that important family members are not available and so the marriage can't hold for now. People will talk for a while but soon they would forget. If u marry into a problematic home they will still talk, so why be afraid of what people will say? Move on sweetie.

gbam.that is the summary of my tale

pickabeau1: Where. Will you live post wedding

where will I live as in?

Cosmass:


where will I live as in?

Does ur fiance. have a place of his own