Ayo left Nigeria for better life. He got a job as a security man standing in front of a Chemist Store. Watching that no one steals. He stands in the cold weather, even on bitterly cold days, for eery little money, al least it meets his needs.

That money he has to pay; Car Insurance, Home Insurance, Health Insurance, Road Tax, Income Tax, Property/Mortgage Tax, Rent Bill, Gas Bill, Phone Bill, Feed Children & Education, buy Clothes etc.

Mama rings from Nigeria.. (with Yoruba accent) "Ayo, you have forgotten your mother... I think it is your wife that is telling you not to send me money"

Baba rings... (Yoruba accent) "Ayo, when are you going to build a house? All your mates are building up and down"

Brother rings, "Uncle Ayo, you have forgotten me, we are roasting here oo.. Please send something na"

Sister rings, "Brother Ayo, I just got admission to university, please I need school fees"

Phone rings "Ayo de Ayo!!!... Do you remember me, it's me Tunde, we use to live in Ketu together in "face me I face you"... Please anything at all for me?"

Phone rings, Ayo, it's me, your Father's Brother's Sister's, Grandmother's, Daughter's Son.. "My Mother's, sister's, senior brother's wife died... Please I am looking for money for burial.... I have tried everyone in Lagos and Ibadan with no success... You are my only hope. Please help me... I beg you in the name of God"

gidjah: ds no big deall, for most of us here in nig,we even go tru worst case scenarioes, but we just kip praying God in his infinite mercies meet us all at d point of our needs.we mst care for our aged parents, d poor will neva cease frm d land
BUT PLS LETS CUT OUR GUYS OVA THERE SOME SLACKS, life aint rosy for foreigners over there, lets allow dem to grow

i_laugh: just one story and you conclude this is what Nigerians face with families and friends?

TayoT: Stop posting fake pictures on instagram to mislead your Naija peepu. And fake accent too.

bigdiva: this is a fictional story when I went for abroad my own.
Mama rings from Nigeria : Diva, this is ur mum. Have you called your Aunt Stella, she wants to spoil you in London this wekend
Baba rings : Diva , have you called your Aunt Catherine? she says she wants to see you
phone rings : Diva this is Coco, you roomie in secondary school, Can we hook up this weekend? we'll paint the town red!
phone rings : Diva, this is Michael, I've been chyking you on facebook, keep this weekend open for me, since you're in my city.
I just vex run come back, wetin? !! how I want take pass my masters with all these distractions?
Moral of the story :- It depends on what kinda of family you come from.

St_Black: Brimmie , You are damn right men!!

Though I for one has never in my lifetime crossed the forewalls of this country, Im still trying to phantom how I continue to hold onto this feeling of "no place like home". But at the same time, that doesnt stop me of a possible adventure outside the country in the nearest future....In fact, as im saying these to you right now, there are plans for travelling immediately Im done with my MSc.

However, I wish to contribute on this issue. One thing is, your disposition towards family matters IS a major player that will determine how much you & families members will relate once you are absent in the country.

For a guy who doesnt have time going up & down greeting & socializing with family members here & there, I CAN BET YOU there will be a SUBSTANTIAL LIMIT to how much pressure family members will present to you !!. This is something practical & realistic. Its up to you the individual to be able to know when to play the Compromise & 'I Dont Care' game with them. .......Worse that can occur is for one of them (family members) to table the matter through your Dad & Mum to help them get to you !

And as you know, the above will be the opposite for guys who socialize much with his family members. You cant just leave those who you eat with, drink with, play with, etc several times in the country & expect them not to feel they have someone to be kind with them when he/she is away from home. Its a Two-way thing bro. .....And once you all of a sudden turn a new leaf bro, then you have yourself to blame !!. (I think you get a glimpse of what im saying here)

I for one has been critized by many members for my lack of social presence in the family, both on Mum & Dad's family sides. As im telling you, some of them have developed this sort of despise towards me, but dont care to know why i make myself unavailable for the most part. ....Though Im annoyed with some of them, i still go to their homes & even play with them.


...To cut short my point, Ayo's (as used in your example) responses to friends & family members , especially outside of the nuclear family, depends on the strenght of his relationship with them ALL.

BUT ALL IN ALL, dont stray TOO FAR away from family members, 'cos You dont know Who will be Who in the nearest future.
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My 2 cents!!

Ayo left Nigeria for better life. He got a job as a security man standing in front of a Chemist Store. Watching that no one steals. He stands in the cold weather, even on bitterly cold days, for eery little money, al least it meets his needs.

That money he has to pay; Car Insurance, Home Insurance, Health Insurance, Road Tax, Income Tax, Property/Mortgage Tax, Rent Bill, Gas Bill, Phone Bill, Feed Children & Education, buy Clothes etc.

Mama rings from Nigeria.. (with Yoruba accent) "Ayo, you have forgotten your mother... I think it is your wife that is telling you not to send me money"

Baba rings... (Yoruba accent) "Ayo, when are you going to build a house? All your mates are building up and down"

Brother rings, "Uncle Ayo, you have forgotten me, we are roasting here oo.. Please send something na"

Sister rings, "Brother Ayo, I just got admission to university, please I need school fees"

Phone rings "Ayo de Ayo!!!... Do you remember me, it's me Tunde, we use to live in Ketu together in "face me I face you"... Please anything at all for me?"

Phone rings, Ayo, it's me, your Father's Brother's Sister's, Grandmother's, Daughter's Son.. "My Mother's, sister's, senior brother's wife died... Please I am looking for money for burial.... I have tried everyone in Lagos and Ibadan with no success... You are my only hope. Please help me... I beg you in the name of God"

bigdiva: this is a fictional story when I went for abroad my own.
Mama rings from Nigeria : Diva, this is ur mum. Have you called your Aunt Stella, she wants to spoil you in London this wekend
Baba rings : Diva , have you called your Aunt Catherine? she says she wants to see you
phone rings : Diva this is Coco, you roomie in secondary school, Can we hook up this weekend? we'll paint the town red!
phone rings : Diva, this is Michael, I've been chyking you on facebook, keep this weekend open for me, since you're in my city.
I just vex run come back, wetin? !! how I want take pass my masters with all these distractions?
Moral of the story :- It depends on what kinda of family you come from.

clapham: Am a typical mushin guy priviledge to be where i am today by God, my contribution is straight, help people when you can because you are in land of plenty today but you dont know what tomorrow holds.
As per giving, loads of friend back then changed their number the moment they secure job but the family the were affording then was the same family they ran to in time of trouble.
Give when you can because their prayer goes a long way.

Experience is the best teacher


Shikena
NDI IGBO KWENU

Fhemmmy:

I am not sure you understand the scenario painted in the OP's message . . . The dude is yet to be able to afford anything, but like you said, if one can afford it, sure, but what if the man cant afford it just yet?.

Magic Bishop: The real question should be:

Did Ayo share the same thought process before going abroad that the streets will be paved with gold?

If yes, then Ayo should Man-up and rob the chemist

Osama10:

The guy cannot understand until he gets the experience.

Magic Bishop: The real question should be:

Did Ayo share the same thought process before going abroad that the streets will be paved with gold?

If yes, then Ayo should Man-up and rob the chemist