edie_mafio: ,[size=14pt]I have never heard that in Nigeria a man brought a woman into d matrimonial home and locked the wife away or that a man locked his wife away,[/size]my heart is so bitter because one of my clients and very gud naija friend has just been sentenced over his deceased wife's madness.

er some people can lie to justify their claims enh! You must have been hearing tales of naija in wonderland

But really,wah are you saying? I dont get!!

ITbomb: If you work in an establishment that has a woman as a head , you will hate women . Given power they always try so hard to show you how powerful they are and in everything , they overdo
80% of them though

quivah:
er some people can lie to jistify their claim enh! You must have been hearing tales of naija in wonderland

But really,wah are you saying? I dont get!!

edie_mafio:

Dear,this was not a lie,it was fully investigated and i was part of his defence team.Just that under the data protection Act,i owe him a duty of confidentiality,else i wud av given d name and u can google it.As unbelievable as these things sound,they are happening at an alarming rate,especially in U.K..
Did u know that U.K has a higher number of severe domestic violence than Nigeria? and many other European countries?google 'UK man Murders wife' and c how man stories u'll find and d reasons for such heartles behaviours,then u'll c where i am coming from

edie_mafio:

Dear,this was not a lie,it was fully investigated and i was part of his defence team.Just that under the data protection Act,i owe him a duty of confidentiality,else i wud av given d name and u can google it.As unbelievable as these things sound,they are happening at an alarming rate,especially in U.K..
Did u know that U.K has a higher number of severe domestic violence than Nigeria? and many other European countries?google 'UK man Murders wife' and c how man stories u'll find and d reasons for such heartles behaviours,then u'll c where i am coming from

edie_mafio: [size=14pt]I have never heard that in Nigeria a man brought a woman into d matrimonial home and locked the wife away or that a man locked his wife away[/size],my heart is so bitter because one of my clients and very gud naija friend has just been sentenced over his deceased wife's madness.

crackhaus: Here we go with another 'round argument' session today...
OP, you're right that women can be abusive and then some more. It is also known that men are abusive as well.

Now after all your talk, I was expecting you offer up some preventive and/or pro-active measures that can curb the endless cycle of abuse being perpetrated by both men and women...but you didn't do that!
What you're really doing here is warming up the stage for another battle of the sexes today where endless arguments, insults and counter-insults will be thrown around with no points or solutions being made.

You can start by telling the rest of us what you think should be done about women who abuse their wards and/or spouses, then we can have a decent discussion without choosing sides based on gender.

I'll be back in a few to see if what I think you're going to say is what you're really going to say.

crackhaus: Here we go with another 'round argument' session today...
OP, you're right that women can be abusive and then some more. It is also known that men are abusive as well.

Now after all your talk, I was expecting you offer up some preventive and/or pro-active measures that can curb the endless cycle of abuse being perpetrated by both men and women...but you didn't do that!
What you're really doing here is warming up the stage for another battle of the sexes today where endless arguments, insults and counter-insults will be thrown around with no points or solutions being made.

You can start by telling the rest of us what you think should be done about women who abuse their wards and/or spouses, then we can have a decent discussion without choosing sides based on gender.

I'll be back in a few to see if what I think you're going to say is what you're really going to say.

edie_mafio:
The only solution is to strip women of certain unnecessary privileges/power that would'nt affect their human rights. Since nature is already on their side n they r so intoxicated with power.if a woman doesnt have d ability to enforce her irrational behaviour, trust mw, homes will last longer..

crackhaus:
Okay, valid point! But you do realize from the bolded that you can't sepatate stripping a person's privileges/powers without trampling on their human rights/

ITbomb: If you work in an establishment that has a woman as a head , you will hate women . Given power they always try so hard to show you how powerful they are and in everything , they overdo
80% of them though

crackhaus: Here we go with another 'round argument' session today...
OP, you're right that women can be abusive and then some more. It is also known that men are abusive as well.

Now after all your talk, I was expecting you offer up some preventive and/or pro-active measures that can curb the endless cycle of abuse being perpetrated by both men and women...but you didn't do that!
What you're really doing here is warming up the stage for another battle of the sexes today where endless arguments, insults and counter-insults will be thrown around with no points or solutions being made.

You can start by telling the rest of us what you think should be done about women who abuse their wards and/or spouses, then we can have a decent discussion without choosing sides based on gender.

I'll be back in a few to see if what I think you're going to say is what you're really going to say.

edie_mafio:
The only solution is to strip women of certain unnecessary privileges/power that would'nt affect their human rights. Since nature is already on their side n they r so intoxicated with power.if a woman doesnt have d ability to enforce her irrational behaviour, trust mw, homes will last longer..

edie_mafio:
Actually not bro.in nig. every body has rights,if u get divorced,a man is usually expected to support the kids financially,he will be fully involved in the children's everyday life,the mother cannot make very serious decisions about the kids without the father's consent,everybody is just carried along,i dont see how this trample's on women's rights.On the other hand,In U.K for eg,did you know that there is no such thing as parental right in English law,ppl often mistake parental responsiblity to parental right,what this means when intepreted is that,the father of the child does not necessarily have rights over the child,He has a responsibility to contribute financially but that does not necessarily give him rights to see or make decisions for the child,infact,women who re-marry are now going to court to give their kids the surname of their new husband,citing that it affects them psychologically when children in one house hold bear different surnames..The list is endless bro.

crackhaus:
Okay, valid point! But you do realize from the bolded that you can't sepatate stripping a person's privileges/powers without trampling on their human rights/

troy20:
your arguments are disapointing.peharps if you were married or had more experience with women you would be objective.and you wont make comments here just to impress the females and earn a few likes.

crackhaus:
You again, with the same gaddem accusations.
Listen dude, don't hound me by making sentimental claims...you know nothing about me, dig it?

Just listen to yourself preach on about objectivity when you're clearly the one who stated your opinions based on the subjectivity of being male, and you got the nerve to say I'm not objective...are you dense?

Okay now that we all know you got the most experience with 'abusive' women to be the 'objective' one, have you ever tried to understand why you're abused by these your so-called plenty women?

Do you think a man with a sense of himself and worth, with confidence and esteem gets mentally/emotionally affected by his wife's/gf's emotional abuse?
Do you think I haven't being in relationships where my girl throws insults around and tries to raise her voice to the point of giving me a nervous breakdown?
Yea well, I have...and I didn't get physical in retaliation.

If you justify hitting a woman because she abused you emotionally or whatever, then you're a wimp...and if you 'Mr-i-am-experienced' do not still know how to handle your women without getting physical, then I wonder what this your experience has taught you so far/

Please don't make assumptions about me again, be cool.

edie_mafio:
Actually not bro.in nig. every body has rights,if u get divorced,a man is usually expected to support the kids financially,he will be fully involved in the children's everyday life,the mother cannot make very serious decisions about the kids without the father's consent,everybody is just carried along,i dont see how this trample's on women's rights.On the other hand,In U.K for eg,did you know that there is no such thing as parental right in English law,ppl often mistake parental responsiblity to parental right,what this means when intepreted is that,the father of the child does not necessarily have rights over the child,He has a responsibility to contribute financially but that does not necessarily give him rights to see or make decisions for the child,infact,women who re-marry are now going to court to give their kids the surname of their new husband,citing that it affects them psychologically when children in one house hold bear different surnames..The list is endless bro.

troy20:
buddy why are you getting all aggressive and defensive.your angry comment has testosteron all over it.did you ever see anywhere i supported physical abuse?why do you make me feel like i'm responding to an abusive lady? Well you may be one but take it easy ok? there are alot of bi-polar people like you too.be gentle.i apologize if my earliar comment was too blunt ok?

edie_mafio:
Actually not bro.in nig. every body has rights,if u get divorced,a man is usually expected to support the kids financially,he will be fully involved in the children's everyday life,the mother cannot make very serious decisions about the kids without the father's consent,everybody is just carried along,i dont see how this trample's on women's rights.On the other hand,In U.K for eg,did you know that there is no such thing as parental right in English law,ppl often mistake parental responsiblity to parental right,what this means when intepreted is that,the father of the child does not necessarily have rights over the child,He has a responsibility to contribute financially but that does not necessarily give him rights to see or make decisions for the child,infact,women who re-marry are now going to court to give their kids the surname of their new husband,citing that it affects them psychologically when children in one house hold bear different sutrnames..The list is endless bro.

crackhaus:
Guy man, that's not aggression/

You previously quoted me on Lorretta's thread the other day saying nearly the exact same thing you said in the original post where you quoted me here again. I ignored you then, and I wasn't about to do that again here since it's clear that you have a problem with my opinions on this issue of marital/spousal abuse.

Now that you're trying to be cool again, why don't you state exactly what your stand is on abuse (whether by male or female), although your aversion to my opinion already tells me where you stand.

okpanachil:
Now my question is this?Since we all talk bout protecting women and all who protects us men from women of this kind?

okpanachil:
Now my question is this?Since we all talk bout protecting women and all who protects us men from women of this kind?