Just like the popular adage that says "actions speaks louder than words" lets air our views on this life threatening issue.
To all the aspiring fathers and mothers in the house,the already established parents, single men and ladies,undergraduates and youths can you walk down the aisle with a lady whom is your potential wife but has no prospects of becoming a mother because she lost her womb in a surgery to save her life as it posed a huge risk to her survival. You both crazy about each other and believe in miracles and promise to stand by each other till death do you part. Whats your stand on this?

hmm...there re a lot of babies witout parents or care...it's not compulsory it must come from her womb.

Not so easy in this part of the world where people don't believe much in adoption.

Yemlizzy: Just like the popular adage that says "actions speaks louder than words" lets air our views on this life threatening issue.
To all the aspiring fathers and mothers in the house,the already established parents, single men and ladies,undergraduates and youths can you walk down the aisle with a lady whom is your potential wife but has no prospects of becoming a mother because she lost her womb in a surgery to save her life as it posed a huge risk to her survival. You both crazy about each other and believe in miracles and promise to stand by each other till death do you part. Whats your stand on this?

I see nothing wrong with it, it's actually pretty sweet. Except for the 'belief in miracles' part. There is no need wasting precious time and energies waiting for a miracle in this case. Either you don't have kids and don't sweat it or explore other means of getting kids instead of stressing the marriage with unnecessary tears in hopes for a miracle.

What was the question again?
Only the BLACK race would be confused on such matters for sure!

So it is a winch with 'womb' you go carry give my brother?

TUFIAKWA!!!! Of what use is a fertile WITCH, who can only lay more BROOMS?

Are you asking me to chose between a bloody womb and A LOVE OF MY LIFE?

Un-PHOCKING-believable!!!

Like I stated earlier. . . . . Only with primitive CHRISTIANS for sure!

MTCHEEEEEEEEEW!!!!

There are other ways of having kids . .

Adoption
Surrogacy
E.t.c

She musnt have a womb.

If I were a man, it won't stop me!

Talk is cheap.

Only if the lady is worth spending a whole life with

Only men with strong hearts will stick to such a lady. Its just so rare in Nigeria to be candid, for such a decision to made by a man. Love truly hurts,there are always other options to be taken,yes thats true, but how many men want to father a child that truly isn't theirs if one advises them to adopt a baby. Be sincere, what would you do if you find yourself in such a situation?

ileobatojo:

I see nothing wrong with it, it's actually pretty sweet. Except for the 'belief in miracles' part. There is no need wasting precious time and energies waiting for a miracle in this case. Either you don't have kids and don't sweat it or explore other means of getting kids instead of stressing the marriage with unnecessary tears in hopes for a miracle.

Exploring other means is always an option to consider. Its a tough decision though.

Honestly, the ace is with the man and woman. If the woman in future doesn't become too desperate to have a baby (knowing fully well she can't), spending all her time and resources at miracle centers and prayer houses to get one at all cost. On the other hand, if the man does not in future start fathering babies outside the marriage using this as a justification.

The marriage will surely face bigger challenges than an average marriage. However, start early to talk and agree on alternatives to having kids. I think the best and most natural option will be to fertilize the woman's egg with the man's sp*erm outside (IVF), and having a surrogate mom carry the baby. That way the baby is the couple's DNA. Off course the 2nd option is to adopt a week-old baby and induce the lady to breast-feed to create a mother-baby bond. Wudav been beta if the man already had kids from another woman b4 the marriage. Pls don't ever try the naija method of hiring a grown-up maid to seduce the man (nollywood thinz)...u'll regret it!

In any case it'll take the grace of God in future, when love dies out, as it does in most marriages. To answer ur question, honestly, I won't, if I want my own kids with her. The lady is better off with a man who already have a kid/ kids. There are many of them (due to divorce, widowed, or love-child). Let's be real, this will work better abroad in Yankee land, where there's less societal/ family pressure to have kids. Oprah is married but doesn't have kids by choice.

Ewuro707: Talk is cheap.

My Dear it is Very very Cheap

Yemlizzy: Only men with strong hearts will stick to such a lady. Its just so rare in Nigeria to be candid, for such a decision to made by a man. Love truly hurts,there are always other options to be taken,yes thats true, but how many men want to father a child that truly isn't theirs if one advises them to adopt a baby. Be sincere, what would you do if you find yourself in such a situation?

If it is Love, it is pure and does not hurt. There is no fear nor hurt in Love. He that is hurt or has fear is not made perfect in love.

In addition to all that has been said,we all know its only time that can decide the fate of things, if only such a couple will be so strong and stick to each other till the very end

I am not a man but it is just like asking women whether they will marry an impotent man. I will not unless the guy is really rich so I can adopt as much I want to give birth to ....to dull the pains of not having mine though I am fertile. For me love is just not enough.
Op, I am only expressing my thought.

Mrs Awesome: I am not a man but it is just like asking women whether they will marry an impotent man. I will not unless the guy is really rich so I can adopt as much I want to give birth to ....to dull the pains of not having mine though I am fertile. For me love is just not enough.
Op, I am only expressing my thought.

No offence my sister,besides its a free world and you are only airing your view.No wahala

Ujujoan: There are other ways of having kids . .

Adoption
Surrogacy
E.t.c

She musnt have a womb.

If I were a man, it won't stop me!

I dislike hypocrites. Would you marry a man who is impotent?

People dont reason alike,what is good to one person may be a disaster to another person. Besides people people are free to engage themselves in whatever they deem fit

This happens. My uncle has a friend who is almost 70 years of age now, he has been married to his wife for almost 40 years and they have no issue, they both went into that marriage knowing that the man could not father a child. And they have since stayed with each other.

You will really be surprised what 'true love' can accomplish and resolve to do. Just like what one person has said, adopt kids. if you do not want grown kids, there are babies that need so much love from people.

Even if you have been married for years and the doctors keep saying there is nothing wrong with you. What is stopping you from adopting a child and caring for one?. We should know that majority of opposition come about because of ignorance. Lets start taking steps to live the way we want to.

Toyinletstalk: This happens. My uncle has a friend who is almost 70 years of age now, he has been married to his wife for almost 40 years and they have no issue, they both went into that marriage knowing that the man could not father a child. And they have since stayed with each other.

You will really be surprised what 'true love' can accomplish and resolve to do. Just like what one person has said, adopt kids. if you do not want grown kids, there are babies that need so much love from people.

Even if you have been married for years and the doctors keep saying there is nothing wrong with you. What is stopping you from adopting a child and caring for one?. We should know that majority of opposition come about because of ignorance. Lets start taking steps to live the way we want to.

A very realistic one,thanks for sharing.