u might want 2 check if he has bin playin football bet.. Dat myt b d cause of his addiction. Pharps he wants 2 know more about Each team to predict d outcome of upcomin games.

Anyways sha.. It is normal 4 a guy to like football & mix it wit gamin(damn dis tin is addictive). Sooner or later he wil outgrow it. Rod wont correct anytin, violence neva solves anytin except u want 2 av a renegade on ur hands & totally push him out of d house. Ur problem wil just douuble fold.

Talk to him though.. Make him see d harm in bin addicted to football & gamin while neglectin oda tins.
Or beta stil channel his passion into positivity. He cud b a sport writer, presenter or football player if he can take d passion to d field.

All in all sha b tankful dat it is football he loves... Most piple ar addicted to drugs, alcohol & sex @ dis age.

He may bcum d next great futbal manager lyk maurinho

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He's almost lyk me.... A gamer and football watchin freak... Anyway at sch I jst watch Manchester United play (hardly miss any United game) n games only wen am tired of readin'.
FYI: U cant stp him

@Op, Relax my own addiction to games cannot be compared to dat of your brother"""' my own days it was family cons, I slept, ate and drank family cons. Was so addicted to it that i could leave not eating for a whole cos of super Mario just to finish world 8.I graduated to sega to Nitendo and later ps.. But now i don't think i can even play games again even play@ a free tym, I now see em as child play.. Thus b/4 i forget my dad as used the Rod on me but dat didnot change me instead it made my addiction to grow even more.. So @op let him be good thing he is not addicted to porn... But football"""" Hope he can play football?

OP@ he will drop or reduce the habit has he grows older. I was once like him and my cousins (bros) too. We all out grew the gaming habit and now we laugh over it. One of my cousin in that age bracket can be compared to your bro too. I don't want to delve much into to issue cuz am typing with a phone but there is one thing I can assure you the best you guys can do is to pray for him. You can send me a pm so we can talk about it better.

@op......If he is yet to start with football manager then you are in luck......whatever you do keep him away from manager.......you think he is obsessed now....wait till he handles football manager

Addiction naturally dies when there are alternatives.IMHO he might just be studying a course in the university he has little or no interest in(i.e not challenged). Why don't you guys ask him if he would like to be a football coach or be in the football biz in the future.You can either use this to lure him to get his degree first or just encourage him in a new career path. It pays to have combine career with passion.

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Seun: Send him to a football academy. Let him indulge this passion. He will either become a great person in football or lose interest in it completely.

Thank you Seun, you just spoke my mind. Thats how Oyibos train their kids in their different areas of interest and passion. They watch them closely, identify their passion and help them develop it. Our mentality here is our son must be a Doctor, Engineer, Lawyer or nothing else.

Fact is that guy wont be happy outside football. Thats where he belongs. Either he is going to make a great footballer or a great Manager not ruling out a soccer analyst or journalist

Dont worry hes gonna outgrow that phase,very soon hes gonna get tired and gradually distance himself,especially When he starts having Gf and studies start getting to him,funny lol he may even be an Arsenal fan like me cos we love following the team news alot,Am also a football lover and i still do play game on my lappy but its once in a blue moon Since i installed Pes 2013 in January i havent play it for once,just ignore him and pls get him a Laptop let him see how boring too much game can be

My dear I suggest you guys should ignore him. Its a phase just a matter of time. Most young people at his age usually get hooked to something, you should be glad he is not hooked to heroine or hanging around with kids of questionable character or gambling on football.

Big.game:
Op what is he currently studying? He might not be interested in what he is studying. Let him make a career out of his passion, you just need to nudge him in the right direction. It might be due to boredom tho, but most guys are inlove with video games and soccer.

hycode: Addiction naturally dies when there are alternatives.IMHO he might just be studying a course in the university he has little or no interest in(i.e not challenged). Why don't you guys ask him if he would like to be a football coach or be in the football biz in the future.You can either use this to lure him to get his degree first or just encourage him in a new career path. It pays to have combine career with passion.

He chose his course of study. He is an engineering student.

lol.you haven't seen anything..wait till i introduce your brother to online football betting nd he will be a gunner 4lyf..he won't even make it past 2nd year.by the way is he on whatsapp?

It's not an issue of outgrowing it. If it is an addiction, it's there to stay, like everyother form of addiction. And nothing good comes out of any addiction.
Again I say It's there to stay Except if something else takes that space. There has to be a deliberate fight against it.
I suggest you give him responsibilities, house chores, duties. Let him feel responsible for his time. Work him out on other things, even if it means paying him to do them.

I've always said this football thing is getting out of hand. Guys, let's be careful. The future of our children lies in our hands.

This makes me remember what football manager almost did to my life.... there is absolutely no remedy... he just have to outgrow it... maybe the family needs to be more strict with him... talking alone wont solve anything... Game addiction is hard to correct because the addicted person believes its not doing him any harm

slimyem: How Do We Curtail His Football Madness?

This might sound funny but it really is not and its disturbing. It's past obsession and addiction and if there's any deeper substitute name for those two words,it should be called just that.

He is 17 and in his first year in the university. He spent these last 6 months ASUU strike break doing nothing asides sleeping, playing PS ,watching super sports and browsing on everything that has to do with just football.

He can spend the whole day in front of a screen playing football. He doesn't mind skipping breakfast or lunch just to punch pads all day. If he has to listen to news,its sports news. If he picks up a newspaper,its just straight to the sports section. Every other aspect of the news or every other page of the newspaper does not count to him.

I understand its okay to have hobbies the same way I understand one should be able to create a balance between that and lots of other things that make up life.
What makes it the more scary is that he has no knowledge of anything outside football and his field of study. Not even other sports,basic current affairs and even lots of basic general knowledge. You would be amazed at the simplest of questions he cannot answer for his age and level.
He has no views
or opinions about anything outside football nor can he contribute to or discuss any topic that's not football.

The other day I caught him mumbling the words "Is it a penalty?" in his SLEEP!!
...and before,you say talk to him, counsel him,give him other ideas of fun that would be beneficial,be sure that we(his parents inclusive) have done all that.
He doesn't have a personal laptop at the moment and the only reason he doesn't is everyone has fears that 90 percent of what he'll do with it is football.

How can one's life be that streamlined? Is it healthy?
Are we worrying unnecessarily? Will he grow out of it?
Its worrisome.
Your inputs would be appreciated.

Sometimes the only way to tackle an addiction is to introduce another less harmful but beneficial one......my advice.......get him a girl

slimyem: How Do We Curtail His Football Madness?

This might sound funny but it really is not and its disturbing. It's past obsession and addiction and if there's any deeper substitute name for those two words,it should be called just that.

He is 17 and in his first year in the university. He spent these last 6 months ASUU strike break doing nothing asides sleeping, playing PS ,watching super sports and browsing on everything that has to do with just football.

He can spend the whole day in front of a screen playing football. He doesn't mind skipping breakfast or lunch just to punch pads all day. If he has to listen to news,its sports news. If he picks up a newspaper,its just straight to the sports section. Every other aspect of the news or every other page of the newspaper does not count to him.

I understand its okay to have hobbies the same way I understand one should be able to create a balance between that and lots of other things that make up life.
What makes it the more scary is that he has no knowledge of anything outside football and his field of study. Not even other sports,basic current affairs and even lots of basic general knowledge. You would be amazed at the simplest of questions he cannot answer for his age and level.
He has no views
or opinions about anything outside football nor can he contribute to or discuss any topic that's not football.

The other day I caught him mumbling the words "Is it a penalty?" in his SLEEP!!
...and before,you say talk to him, counsel him,give him other ideas of fun that would be beneficial,be sure that we(his parents inclusive) have done all that.
He doesn't have a personal laptop at the moment and the only reason he doesn't is everyone has fears that 90 percent of what he'll do with it is football.

How can one's life be that streamlined? Is it healthy?
Are we worrying unnecessarily? Will he grow out of it?
Its worrisome.
Your inputs would be appreciated.

am so sorry abt dis big sis..but on the other hand if it was in the developed countries that guy shld be finding his way too the sports house either on jounelism or any side relating too sport ...I know u rly want him in school,since its like this now if u can fix him in any of dis radio station dats on sports like nigeria info..feymi nd the ghang if u can get too them explain it too them I blive somting can be done nd from he will find his way back too schl..I hope I tried..

Personally, I believe he would outgrow it but don't bet on it incase he doesn't

Most boys at some stage of their lives were like this (not excluding myself)

What I can advise you do now tho is set tasks or goals that'd require him to do leave football for him. For instance, 4.0 minimum CGPA (if you know he can) and use his PS or whatever as your bargaining tool. 3.89 means no TV or PS and put ur foot down too. This is just an example but things like that can help.

It's better this than him doing much worse things, just help him turn this passion for football to something more productive.

Tbh tho most boys usually come around by themselves but that doesn't mean you can't force his hand.

He'll outgrow dis stuff,he is a teenager... I had dis sort of trouble wen I was in Jss2,baerely 12 yrs old... I had a playstation 2 and I had only 3 games,Grand theft,God of war, and ANY kind of football game!!! I played all day,real football or da console...bt by da tym I hit 18,all da dream I had 4 playing 4 da u-17 vanished..I've lost interest in games(not entirely),bt da professional football stuff is yiielding dividends tho !!! Jst let da guy play!! Da fact he is in da university will mk him mature early sef!!! Gudluck!!!

I like d guy,jst like me...leave hm alone let him enjoy d strike while it last

Look Op, don't let people make light of it the issue. It is a serious problem. He is 17 for goodness sake. He's not a Jss1 or even ss1 secondary school student. He is in the university. And he's skipping meals to sit in front of the Tv playing game?

You better take them away from him. Give him responsibilities to occupy his mind with. You don't want him having a twisted life.

what? You rather he plays with dolls? He needs to do what boys do.let his dad take care of it.too bad there are terribly few men role models these days

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abegi. Who says trashing the hell outta the kid wont help. I myself was and still is a game lover. I remembered back then while i was younger, how i usually bought one sega after another. I and my brother would play it at every opportunity. But my popsy would scare the hell outta ME if he ever see us plaY IT. football is my hobby. I Play it. I watch it. I lived it. Bottom line is. Set boundaries, to minimise the time spent on playing and watching football. Let him realize that he can live for 1 month without doing both. Believe me, he will overcome the addiction. But you have to be consistent on him to achieve result.

FAILURE WILL OPEN HIS EYES ...some people need to hit rock bottom before they become wise. Get him "ace it". If he has a brain, he will change.
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Just like some people said,it's just a phase in his life which he would eventually outgrow,especially when his attention gets divided on other important things.I'm also a football enthusiast and an impassioned gamer,but not to an addicted level.

Makes me remember those days I was addicted to the internet.I could spend over 15 hours a day browsing.But these days,I barely spend up to 5 hours surfing the net.

But it would also be good if you can let him develop a career along the fotball line.

I bet you its when you don't have work that you will spend time on things like that

I do play games too but its very rare unlike when I was 3 years younger, I believe he will outgrow it, just a matter of time. Also ASUU may be the cause, when he has things to do, he will definitely stop.

yomola: FAILURE WILL OPEN HIS EYES ...some people need to hit rock bottom before they become wise. Get him "ace it". If he has a brain, he will change.
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Failure doesn't end addiction bro, he just has to learn to be moderate in doing stuffs like that.

jelel6: abegi. Who says trashing the hell outta the kid wont help.

Its because you are in naija here you call a 17yr old a kid.