Am married,wife from a different tribe and stay @ a different location from my wife.My new born baby s a month old but just worried cos my doesn't care @ all. I am presently spendin d hols with her.I run errands for her nd assist on the chores but trully its becomin lik am still single.No form of care or concern from her.Even to my meals.All these started immediately she put to bed.D whole issue is getin me real worried and presently considerin returning to my station even tho I got some time b4 resumption.This I hav spoken to her about but not seein any change.Can someone pls advice?Really wld not want to hurt her but am real tired!

OP you said all these started after your wife gave birth about a month ago, that means she wasn't like that before.

Your wife is probably trying to adapt to the pressures of taking care of the baby, sleepless nights, maybe sore nipples from breastfeeding and she might still be feeling pains as a result of the delivery.

What she needs from you is full support, care and encouragement. And the fact that you live in another city means you are not there for her all the time, so do what you can for her whilst you are around

apoti: OP you said all these started after your wife gave birth about a month ago, that means she wasn't like that before.

Your wife is probably trying to adapt to the pressures of taking care of the baby, sleepless nights, maybe sore nipples from breastfeeding and she might still be feeling pains as a result of the delivery.

What she needs from you is full support, care and encouragement. And the fact that you live in another city means you are not there for her all the time, so do what you can for her whilst you are around

Gbam!

This woman needs care more than you do now, i don't think you understand the trauma The body go through during delivery,its one Month and the woman hasn't quite recovered.Does she have help?if she doesn't and you still complain,then you are being selfish here.Caring for a newborn baby is tasking,she is probably exhausted due to sleep deprivation and other unpalatables associated with childbirth. Help this woman through her recovery ,she is going through stress and I don't understand why you can't acknowledge that.

Well, I hope she was certified medically fit before being discharged from the hospital. Does she show any traits of behaviour unlike her after childbirth? Does she react angrily at issues and you everytime since she gave birth?

I asked to know if she doesn't have postpartum depression. If she has, she needs help immediately and if she doesn't, she needs you now more than before.

Childbirth is not an easy task, it takes time for the body to readjust to normal. During the process of readjustment, it is usually stressful for women coupled with sleepless nights as well as the psychological effect of caring for the baby.

My brother, endure this period, it is a temporary phase that shall pass. Now is the time to truly show her that love you daily profess.

May God be with the baby.

Did I read that the beby is just a month old and the husband has started complaining that he's not well taken care of?


Haba! Eyin baba wa, diedie o.

I just hope this pregnancy and delivery processes are in shifts, maybe then, the daddies will know whatssup!

I must confess,I trully appreciate every counsell.No man finds this change easy so it shld not be seen as strange seeking advice nd off course its my first experience.I shall continually be of help God helping.Thanks and thanks...