i have spend a good part of my night reading this thread and i most say i'm shocked and entertained,

First off i can not agree to the conclusions of the poster, Nigerians on a whole can not be generalized as such, i am from the Niger-Delta and Polygamy is rear but not unheard off but for its few occurrence is restricted to the more advanced or elderly age groups,

Next most guys here know that there interest lies in only one female, i'm not saying that we are all saints but like all men we are not perfect,

Another thing u should take into consideration is the fact that in the southern parts of the country, most or a large percentage are Christians which makes polygamy out of the question, if you take into consideration only the three major tribes in Nigeria then ur observations would have a 40% maximum accuracy no more cause almost everyone people you will meet are educated atleast to a degree,

All in all i feel it would be pointless trying to explain the complexity of the nigeria culture since its broken down into so many fractions,
hence my advice would be to make a good plan for a visit and try and explore a good part of nigeria,
i invite you to take a trip to the south-south, you will be surprised by what u find,

we'll get a "life" when you get one. At least we're still young. What's your excuse? Agbaya -itis

How much is your yahooze boss paying you for your questionnaire. Olori bu alabajo.

karmamod, you are iwere olochi buruku
If I am yahoozee, your whole family will be gone into extinction by now

madam, stop painting Nigeria men red, we have decent men, which i belong to, my lovely wife will tell you that also, tell that your friend to go and learn good moral and be aper decent on the street, not naked as most of you do, no man will associate with bitch.

thanks

this guy don charge sha

LE GURU:

madam, stop painting Nigeria men red, we have decent men, which i belong to, my lovely wife will tell you that also, tell that your friend to go and learn good moral and be aper decent on the street, not naked as most of you do, no man will associate with bitch.

thanks

EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT WOMEN ARE CREATED TO BE TAKING CARE OF AND NO MATTER THE LEVEL OF EDUCATION OR EXPOSURE THIS THORY CAN NEVER BE CHANGE. ANY WOMAN WHO WANT PEACE OF MIND AND HAPPY HOME FOR HERSLF AND HER CHILDREN WILL HAVE TO BE PATIENT THOUGH SOME PEOPLE WILL SAY YOU ARE TAKING SHIT BUT SINCERELY IT IS THE BEST.

IF YOU WANT TO BLAME ANYBODY FOR THIS THEN TURN TO GOD WHO CREATED MAN FIRST AND A WOMAN LATER I.E AFTER A SECOND THOUGHT

Laughing a lot !

I thought I have already read all

It never ends

simibrazil, who do you think you are? i dont blame you at all. i guess from the way you have been constructing your grammar, its very obvious you are not that educated at all. You dont surprise me one bit cos who will take you serious in that home country of yours? my guess, no one! period!

ooh boy, to imagine its an igbo guy you are disgracing like this on this forum, gush!

get out of here and let real issues of life be discussed please!

sojapikin:

simibrazil, who do you think you are?  i don't blame you at all.  i guess from the way you have been constructing your grammar, its very obvious you are not that educated at all.  You don't surprise me one bit because who will take you serious in that home country of yours? my guess, no one! period!

You think one's ability to speak the English language is a measure of their intelligence? My Goodness! How sad and very ignorant. Tell me, what part of the world is Brazil? What is the official language? Can you write two sentence in their official language? I doubt it. . . so would it be safe to say you are not educated?

sojapikin:

ooh boy, to imagine its an igbo guy you are disgracing like this on this forum, gush!

Rotflmao! What exactly are you implying here? Surely, you don't think Igbos are beneath you? Is that why you are gushing all over the place coz someone else is wasting their time on them? Yikes! talk about uneducated.

sojapikin:

get out of here and let real issues of life be discussed please!

Yes, like how to stop having a myopic view of the world. Just because you speak English as your official language does not mean all the other countries do, which makes it utterly useless as a measure of a person's intelligence.

@ poster
this is d worst case of hasty generalisation i have ever read, seeing that naija is such a multi- ethnic, cultural and religious country, i wld say ur opinion just cant be true,

am married to a born and bred in naija man and our rlnship is wonderful, so is my parents', and i know a lot of other balanced naija marriages, so are these not in naija, there r bad marriages everywhere, not just here

castigate us all u want but i wldnt agree with you, if u are talking abt an article review of the 1960's (as indicated in the writeup) then,

also ,those nigerian friends of urs u talk about just might have left naija some light years ago, how else wld they exhibit such crude mentality, u know, thats why they have trouble with their pick-from-naija wives when they realise things aren't the way they thought,

BUT IN ALL, WE DON´T KILL OUR WOMEN FOR INSURANCE POLLICY CLAIM OR FOR FILING 4 DIVORCE e.g(2008) 46 women already dead in Spain killed by their ex/husband.

It's simple!  You strong women, leave the Nigerian men to the weak women like me.  Go and marry those of the other nationalities that treat their women like queens.  But I no wan the naija man wey go marry second wife o. That is my only objection. 

@comfort86- lovely sister, say l no feel u that one na big lie,that is hen? 4 what u v just said am once again proud to b a nigerian. That of polygamy that one na during our grand-pa time,any man wan try that with u just let me knowwetin be spoil? oyinbo love na fire.

@POSTER You call it SPOIL l call it CULTURE. 4 this simple reason u people can't compete our nigerian women,(Advice) you got 9ija guy and he is complaining let him know u r ready to learn ,if u really loves him 2ndly dump any supremo attitude if u got one.

emotional:

@POSTER You call it SPOIL l call it CULTURE. 4 this simple reason u people can't compete our nigerian women,(Advice) you got 9ija guy and he is complaining let him know u r ready to learn ,,

I feel you.

Comfort86:

It's simple! You strong women, leave the Nigerian men to the weak women like me. Go and marry those of the other nationalities that treat their women like queens. But I no wan the naija man wey go marry second wife o. That is my only objection.

Bless you my sister

Oh gosh. These pathetic men are still here.

How sad.

Justdull i am surprised the only neuron you have is still working.

michelin89:

Oh gosh. These pathetic men are still here.

How sad.

Justdull i am surprised the only neuron you have is still working.

As you no get papa, you no sabi when man get brain. Na ya mama kind brain you get.
Just make sure say you go begin do random DNA test maybe you go fit find who be ya papa. Born reject

JustGood:

As you no get papa, you no sabi when man get brain. Na ya mama kind brain you get.
Just make sure say you go begin do random DNA test maybe you go fit find who be ya papa. Born reject

I take my statement back. It's obvious all your cerebral functions have seized.

NEURONLESS MAN!

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HEY  HAPPY INDEPENDENCE FELLOW NIGERIANS(EVEN THOUGH WE KNOW ITS NOT ALL THAT ROSY AS IT SHOULD BE, WHICH COUNTRY IS BY THE WAY) SINCE ITS 10.31PM OCT 1 U.S TIME WHERE I AM AND 3.13 AM NAIJA TIME EVEN THOUGH ITS A BIT BELATED
I HAVE BEEN FOLLOWING THIS THREAD SINCE YESTERDAY EVENING AT WORK AND WHILE I HAD A COUPLE OF RIB BREAKING LAUGHTERS  (ESPECIALLY NO THANKS TO THE BACK AND FORTH INSULTS BEEN HURLED AROUND BY MICHELIN AND JUSTGOOD, THERE WAS A USELESS PERSON WHO WAS PROMOTING THE AYE FRATERNITY GOOD THING NO ONE PAID HIM ANY NOTICE.)

UHM,  THE MAJOR PROBLEM WITH THE THREAD WAS THE WAY SIMIBRASIL WENT ABOUT IT, FOR SOMEONE WHO CANT WRITE PROPERLY IN ENGLISH BUT AT LEAST COMPREHEND AND REASON OBJECTIVELY IN THIS 21ST CENTURY I EXPECTED YOU TO HAVE RESEARCHED PROPERLY AND AT LEAST ADDED YOUR OWN FOOTNOTE RATHER THAN COPY AND PASTE,AM ASSUMING YOU DID YOUR FINAL PROJECT AT HIGHER INSTITUTION, THE SUBJECT OF THE THREAD WOULD BE BEFITTING FOR NIGERIA AND OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES WITH SIMILAR CULTURE  BEFORE THEIR POST- INDEPENDENCE ERA ,AND WEREN'T YOU NOT SUPPOSE TO SOUND STEREOTYPICAL, THIS SUBJECT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER - WOMEN SPOIL MEN WITH THEIR OVER TOLERANCE - COZ ANY MAN ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD WHOSE WOMAN OVER TOLERANT HIS BULLSHIT WILL SO SO EASILY  DEFINITELY GET SPOILT AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK OF BEEN SPOILT CONVERSELY A MAN WHO OVER TOLERANT HIS WOMAN WOULD GET HER SPOILT(THAT WOULD ACTUALLY BE THE TABOO, A MAN WHO DOESN'T HAVE A SAY IN HIS DEN,YUKE!).SHIT HAPPENS EVERYWHERE, CRIME,FRAUD,CORRUPTION, NAME IT, I THOUGHT THE STATES WAS YOU KNOW KINDA OF DIFFERENT BUT 5 MONTHS HERE AND AM LIKE WHAT REALLY IS THE DIFFERENCE.THE MEDIA KNOWS NOTHING THAN TO ADULTRATE THE NEWS, REALLY I DON'T WANNA DIGRESS BUT  THE CROP OF NIGERIAN MEN I KNOW ARE MOSTLY NOT AS YOUR THREAD WENT ABOUT IT, I SEE TWO OF YOUR ADAMANT SUPPORTERS ARE BLINDLY ROOTING FOR YOU WITHOUT ANY CORRECTION UNTIL YOU STARTED GETTING INSULTIVE TOO.I WONT HANG JUSTGOOD BY THE BALLS ESPECIALLY WHEN I FOUND OUT THAT HIS CONSTANT ANTAGONIST WAS JUST A YEAR OLDER THAN HIS SON, CMON YOU HAD THE FIRST CANON AT HIM AND HE SIMPLY DEFENDED HIMSELF HENCE YOU BOTH ARE GUILTY NONETHELESS(ME TOO AM GUILTY BECAUSE I FRIGGING ENJOYED IT MORE THAN POUNDED YAM!) .
ON A MORE HOME-POINT NOTE NAIJA IS BETTER NOW OOH,COZ THE ISSUE AT HAND IS SO SO OLDEN DAYS AND AM SURE ONLY A VERY INFINITESIMAL % OF THE POPULATION STILL DO THIS AND ON A MORE GENERAL NOTE BOTH THE MAN AND THE WOMAN ARE BOTH CULPRITS THESE DAYS WHEN THERE IS A FAMILY STRIFE.WHAT AM I EVEN SAYING SINCE MORNING SELF, NO BE UNA GIVE US APPLE CHOP FOR EDEN.ANY WOMAN THAT COMPLAINS TODAY SHOULD SHUT-UP, ITS SHIT THAT ATTRACT FLIES, MAYBE YOU SHOULD STOP BEEN SHITTY AND GET THE FINE MAN OUT THERE AS WE CAN SEE FROM THE COMMENTS A FEW WOMEN WHO GOT THEMSELVES A GOOD BARGAIN IN THE MEN MARKET NOT TO MENTION THAT HALF THE WOMAN OUT THERE ARE MATERIALISTIC DRIVEN.AFTER FAILED MARRIAGES THEY'D ALL GO ABOUT CRYING THAT ALL MEN ARE USELESS(IN THE WESTERN WORLD AFTER SPLITTING HALF HIS WORTH IF NOT 2/3 RENDERING HIM FURTHER USELESS SINCE HE WAS USELESS IN THE FIRST PLACE BUT THEY WERE BLINDED BY WHAT ?, APOLLO CAUGHT THEM IN THE EYE PERHAPS), DID YOU MARRY THEM ALL?(INCLUDING YOUR FATHER AND BROTHERS UHM?), AM YET TO SEE ONE MAN SAY ALL WOMEN ARE USELESS EVEN THOUGH WE CAN RAISE UP SOME GOOD SUPPORTIVE CASES BUT WE KNOW ITS JUST AN INDIVIDUAL ACT THATS WHY MEN LIKE ME ARE HAPPILY OFF THE MEN MARKET  .

Bravo! Very well said, my brother. Please if you don't mind. . . can you repeat it here?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-178044.0.html

Thank you very much!!

Siena, I hope you're not letting your biases get the better of sound judgement!

An idiot comes on thread to insult me for airing my opinion, you say nothing.
I respond by directing my attention to the person(s) in her disjointed family who may be my mate, and you have something to say.

Better to be quiet than to openly display bias, except where one is determined to join issues

JustGood:

Siena, I hope you're not letting your biases get the better of sound judgement!

An idiot comes on thread to insult me for airing my opinion, you say nothing.
I respond by directing my attention to the person(s) in her disjointed family who may be my mate, and you have something to say.

Better to be quiet than to openly display bias, except where one is determined to join issues

I am sorry for you!

you have more than enough to be sorry for yourself

Siena:

@ JustGood: Why would a mature, family man take to insulting the parents of a teenager?

If you have to react, why not direct the insults at the poster, rather than her parents?

Been following the drama

U're really taking it out on JustGood. Try caution others too

Dat's very biased!

@ Michelin89
You this small girl, stop bullying old people oh. . . It's not fair now.

I am already tired of this thread.
I will invent another polemic

Sisikill

I like your brain. !

I know get time for long tory. I wonder how Brazillian men are,for their ladies not to treat them well, Any way what ever she wants to think let her think

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i am sorry but i have to agree with the poster

many a time i have founf myself talking to a lady
and sharing points of view, and several times i hear
her say something like,
"but that is how men are, it is their nature to be unfaithful"

this statement pisses me off because i think that if each woman dissed her guy for infidelity, the men would be less
willing to flirt.

but all in all i think the women are so willing to tolerate anything because of their unsatiable quest to "get married at all costs"
mostly because the African society has conveniently designed that a Woman SHD be married in order to be considered sucessful

i stand to be corrected !!

SimiBrasil:

Sisikill

I like your brain. !

LMAO!