We live in turbulent times. There are fewer
guarantees and more uncertainties these days.
Thankfully this also means there are lots of
opportunities to be had. And if you and I are to
overcome the obstacles in our way and seize the
opportunities, we’re going to need strong minds.
Mental strength means you understand how to
manage your emotions, adjust your thinking, and
choose to take positive action, despite your
circumstances. It’s knowing deep down that every
little struggle is progress. And if you really want it,
you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the
odds. Every step forward will be tough, but will feel
better than anything else you can imagine. You will
ultimately come to realize that the struggle is not
found on the path, it is the path. And it’s worth your
while.

Being willing to walk this path of resistance is what
mental strength is all about.

Because 90% of our problems as rational human
beings are the byproduct of learned mental weakness.
In other words, over time we’ve heard a succession of
lies from other people about what we need and what
we don’t need – about what we can and can’t do –
about what is and isn’t possible for us – and we
subconsciously believed every word.
What’s worse? We now tell some of these lies to
ourselves and we live by them every day.
Which means it’s time for us to unlearn these lies for
the sake of our own mental strength:

1. It wasn’t supposed to be like this

We all have anidea in our heads about how things are supposed to be, and sadly this is what often messes us up the
most. Realize this. Expect less and learn more. Let
go and let life grow you – let it test you. You won’t
always understand it and that’s OK. Just when you
think it can’t get any worse, it does. And then just
when you think it can’t get any better, it does.
Mentally strong people are appreciative of the
obstacles in their path because they know the
obstacles are necessary stepping-stones. So keep
going, keep growing, and someday you will be able to
describe your entire life in just one sentence: “It
didn’t go as planned, and that’s OK.”

2. Disappointment and sadness are not necessary.

Having an excessive preoccupation with happiness
can actually lead to an unhealthy attitude towards
negative emotions and experiences. Mentally strong
people don’t try to avoid negative emotions – rather,
they accept both positive and negative emotions and
let these feelings coexist. This is a key component of
their resiliency. Trying to be happy 24/7 is futile; we
need to focus on being whole instead .
Disappointment, frustration, sadness and failure are
part of your wholeness – all of these things help make
you who we are. Happiness, victory and fulfillment
are nice things that also happen to you, but they don’t
teach you and help you grow nearly as much.

3. This situation is definitely bad.

There’s an adage in the ancient philosophy of Stoicism, “There is no good or bad, there is only perception,” which was later echoed in Shakespeare’s famous quote, “There is
nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
Truth be told, the way we perceive a situation has
tremendous power to either help us or harm us. So
often, we react emotionally and project negative
judgments onto a situation, when the first key to
overcoming a challenge is to view things objectively.
In the long run, it usually isn’t what you have or
where you are or what you’ve been through that
makes or breaks you; it’s how you think about it all
and what you do next.

4. There’s no hope.

Mentally strong people know the opposite of defeat is not courage; the opposite of defeat is hope. And there’s always hope. When you lose something good, don’t think of it as a loss, but as an experience that gets you back on the path you
were meant to travel. Ultimately, the measure of who
you are is what you do with what you have at any
given point in time. It’s important to remember that
you have enough, and you are enough, always. Stay
strong. Think clearly. Even when it feels like things
are falling apart, they aren’t.

5. You don’t really have any other choice.

Have you ever met a happy, successful person who regularly
avoids responsibility, blames and points fingers and
makes excuses for their unsatisfying lives? Me
either. Because happy, success people are mentally
strong. They accept responsibility for how their lives
unfold. They believe their own happiness and success
is a byproduct of their own thinking, beliefs, attitudes,
character and behavior.

6. Successful people follow the rules.

Break the rules. Don’t break the law, but break the rules. You don’t need to measure up to other people’s benchmarks The psychological root of most unhappiness lies in
external validation, which happens when you try to
measure your self-worth based on the opinions of
others. But it’s not what others think… it’s what you
think about your life that counts. You, and only you,
get to decide what kind of life you want to live. Other
people’s goals and expectations don’t matter that
much in the long-run.

7. There is always an easier way.

The path of least resistance is often the path of least reward. You needto do hard things. There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. As Einstein once said, “Genius is 1%
talent and 99% percent hard work.” You must run to
be a runner. You must write to be a writer. You must
actively work on a business venture to learn how to
run a successful business. There is no substitute for
doing the work. So meditate on this every day: “I will
do the work. It won’t be easy. It will be worth it!”

8. Now is not the right time.

The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. And when it comes to your goals, later is always the wrong time to do the right thing. Why? Because time is passing. So stop
waiting for the right time; it will never come. Make a
decision and take a chance. You have to dare to do it,
because life is too short to wonder what could have
been.

9. You need more to be happy.

Mentally strong people know that gratitude is the best attitude adjustment. The more goodness you see, the more you create, and the more good things you have to smile about. Happiness doesn’t start when “this, that or the other
thing” is resolved. Happiness is what happens now
when you appreciate what you have.

10. You need to be perfect to be impressive.

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday
there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you
spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s
perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to
be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t
fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart
who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have
to be perfect to impress people. Let them be
impressed by how you deal with your imperfections.

11. You have a great reason to hate them.

The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and
you try to understand their situation instead of trying
to hurt them back. It’s about forgiveness. And it
doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past or forgetting
what happened. It just means you’re letting go of the
resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn
from the incident and move on with your life.
Remember, the less time you spend hating the people
who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the
people who love you.

12. Loved ones should always agree with you.

Mentally strong people know that someone who loves you won’t always agree with you just to make you happy. If
anything, they will say what needs to be said,
sincerely, regardless of whether or not you want to
hear it. Why is this good news? Because close
relationships grow stronger only when two people are
able to share their innermost feelings and thoughts
about themselves and each other. To be fully seen by
someone in raw form, and be respected anyhow, is
what love is. It’s about acceptance and truth over
agreement and ruse. And, sometimes, it’s agreeing to
disagree and being OK with it.

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OP, thanks, you have added something to my life this beautiful morning.

OP modify and BOLDEN the points!

3. This situation is definitely bad.
There’s an adage in the ancient philosophy of
Stoicism, “There is no good or bad, there is only
perception,” which was later echoed in Shakespeare’s famous quote, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it
so.”Truth be told, the way we perceive a situation
has tremendous power to either help us or harm us.
So often, we react emotionally and project negative
judgments onto a situation, when the first key to
overcoming a challenge is to view things objectively.

Ever since I've in cooperated stoicism I have become a better and more balanced human being. Nice write up.

Chubhie: Ever since I've in cooperated stoicism I have become a better and more balanced human being. Nice write up.

i am a stoic, at least a student of stoicism

stoicism:


i am a stoic, at least a student of stoicism

Nice to met you Mr Zeno. Stoics inspire me to stay mentally strong regardless of weather conditions.

Chubhie: Nice to met you Mr Zeno. Stoics inspire me to stay mentally strong regardless of weather conditions.

Mr. Zeno ke ? Lol.....heard of Freidrich Nietzsche and his criticism of stoicism?....

stoicism:
Mr. Zeno ke ? Lol.....heard of Freidrich Nietzsche and his criticism of stoicism?....

Nietzsche the madman who was looking for God! Stoics played into his hands by holding an inconsistent view of Divine plan by a supreme being yet individuals retains the power to alter their character. The rest of his criticism on stoicism was more like comic jibes on what stoicism stands for.

Chubhie: Nietzsche the madman who was looking for God! Stoics played into his hands by holding an inconsistent view of Divine plan by a supreme being yet individuals retains the power to alter their character. The rest of his criticism on stoicism was more like comic jibes on what stoicism stands for.

are u a student of philosophy ni?....

stoicism:


are u a student of philosophy ni?....

I chased philosophic wisdom way back then in school. Philosophy doeth good to the mind.