Blov: A friend of mine that got married about 8 months ago, came to my room and after some time, he made a positive comment about marriage counseling and courtship, and when i look at him, i saw him with my courtship exercise book, he was admiring the things i have written there as we discuss with my wife to be. and he wish that he had opportunity of doing the same thing....
With this background info, i decided to share this piece i found insightful for intended husband and wife. The important of planing in everything we do in life, cant never be over emphasis.
enjoy as you read through and plan a head!

Topics for Conversation When a Man and Woman Are Considering Marriage[/size]

In each of these sections one item could be added that I have not listed, namely, How do you handle and live with differences? How do you decide what can remain differences without jeopardizing the relationship? So as you deal with each subheading, include that in the discussion.

Theology

• What do you believe about… everything?

• Perhaps read through the Desiring God Affirmation of Faith to see where each other is on various biblical doctrines.

• Discover how you form your views. What is the reasoning-believing process? How do you handle the Bible?

Worship and Devotion

• How important is corporate worship? Other participation in church life?

• How important is it to be part of a small accountability/support group?

• What is the importance of music in life and worship?

• What are your daily personal devotional practices? Prayer, reading, meditation, memorization.

• What would our family devotions look like? Who leads out in this?

• Are we doing this now in an appropriate way: praying together about our lives and future, reading the Bible together?

Husband and Wife

• What is the meaning of headship and submission in the Bible and in our marriage?

• What are expectations about situations where one of you might be alone with someone of the opposite sex?

• How are tasks shared in the home: cleaning, cooking, washing dishes, yard work, car upkeep, repairs, shopping for food, and household stuff?

• What are the expectations for togetherness?

• What is an ideal non-special evening?

• How do you understand who and how often sex is initiated?

• Who does the checkbook —or are there two?

Children

• If and when, should we have children? Why?

• How many?

• How far apart?

• Would we consider adoption?

• What are the standards of behavior?

• What are the appropriate ways to discipline them? How many strikes before they’re… whatever?

• What about school? Home school? Christian school? Public school?

Lifestyle

• Own a home or not? Why?

• What kind of neighborhood? Why?

• How many cars? New? Used?

• View of money in general. How much to the church?

• How do you make money decisions?

• Where will you buy clothes: Department store? Savers? In between? Why?

Entertainment

• How much money should we spend on entertainment?

• How often should we eat out? Where?

• What kind of vacations are appropriate and helpful for us?

• How many toys? Snowmobile, boat, cabin?

• Should we have a television? Where? What is fitting to watch? How much?

• What are the criteria for Movies and theater and video/DVD? What will our guidelines be for the kids?

Conflict

• What makes you angry?

• How do you handle your frustration or anger?

• Who should bring up an issue that is bothersome?

• What if we disagree both about what should be done, AND whether it is serious?

• Will we go to bed angry at each other?

• What is our view of getting help from friends or counselors?

Work

• Who is the main breadwinner?

• Should the wife work outside the home? Before kids? With kids at home? After kids?

• What are your views of daycare for children?

• What determines where you will locate? Job? Whose job? Church? Family?

Friends
• Is it good to do things with friends but without fiancé, or without spouse?

• What will you do if one of you really likes to hang out with so and so and the other doesn’t?

[size=8pt]Health and Sickness

• Do you have, or have you had any, sicknesses or physical problems that could affect our relationship? (Allergies, cancer, eating disorders, venereal disease, etc.)

• Do you believe in divine healing and how would prayer relate to medical attention?

• How do you think about exercise and healthy eating?

• Do you have any habits that adversely affect health?

These questions were compiled by John Piper © Desiring God. Website: http://DesiringGod.org

egopersonified: Disclaimer: please bear in mind that answers to these questions can change after marriage and there are a million and one other questions not stated here.

Blov:
These questions were compiled by John Piper © Desiring God. Website: http://DesiringGod.org