munarule: Hello wonderful people, pls I seriously need your advise. I married this man last 4yrs and God bless us with a son who is 3yrs old. Before the wedding,he was doing everything to win my heart and was also claiming to be born again by calling me every night to pray for me. Am a kind of romantic person so i allowed him to hv sex with me to know his skills on bed. I was sure that he can satisfy me on bed before I accepted his proposal cos hv vow never to allow another man hv sex with me once am married. The problem started since the day he paid my bride price,he want me to be treating him like king while he treat me like slave(though he's 11yrs older than me). He doesn't appreciate me anymore and the most annoying part of it is that he's now claiming single on fb,proposing marriage to different ladies. I no longer see him as friend and confidant,he now make love to me twice or thrice a month. am just 28 and I need to enjoy marriage. Am dying silently pls tell me what to do and pls dnt tell me to go and report him to our pastor cos hv done that several times. God bless you

munarule: Hello wonderful people, pls I seriously need your advise. I married this man last 4yrs and God bless us with a son who is 3yrs old. Before the wedding,he was doing everything to win my heart and was also claiming to be born again by calling me every night to pray for me. Am a kind of romantic person so i allowed him to hv sex with me to know his skills on bed. I was sure that he can satisfy me on bed before I accepted his proposal cos hv vow never to allow another man hv sex with me once am married. The problem started since the day he paid my bride price,he want me to be treating him like king while he treat me like slave(though he's 11yrs older than me). He doesn't appreciate me anymore and the most annoying part of it is that he's now claiming single on fb,proposing marriage to different ladies. I no longer see him as friend and confidant,he now make love to me twice or thrice a month. am just 28 and I need to enjoy marriage. Am dying silently pls tell me what to do and pls dnt tell me to go and report him to our pastor cos hv done that several times. God bless you

purplesummer: Dreal1247 has almost said it all. Divorce is not a good thing, this is marriage OP and as unfortunate as it sounds, you have to stay, look after your son and continue to pray for your husband. As Dreal1247 has said, draw closer to God and take solace in Him.
It's well.

Kanwulia: Only one question for you.
Do you have a job?
Or is your husband the only job you have?

munarule:
still searching for job

munarule: Hello wonderful people, pls I seriously need your advise. I married this man last 4yrs and God bless us with a son who is 3yrs old. Before the wedding,he was doing everything to win my heart and was also claiming to be born again by calling me every night to pray for me. Am a kind of romantic person so i allowed him to hv sex with me to know his skills on bed. I was sure that he can satisfy me on bed before I accepted his proposal cos hv vow never to allow another man hv sex with me once am married. The problem started since the day he paid my bride price,he want me to be treating him like king while he treat me like slave(though he's 11yrs older than me). He doesn't appreciate me anymore and the most annoying part of it is that he's now claiming single on fb,proposing marriage to different ladies. I no longer see him as friend and confidant,he now make love to me twice or thrice a month. am just 28 and I need to enjoy marriage. Am dying silently pls tell me what to do and pls dnt tell me to go and report him to our pastor cos hv done that several times. God bless you

samonom: pls dear, dnt go for divorce, talk with him on your observation, be submissive, respect him & show him love, pray for him, it is just a phase that will go out soonest.,
to stop hurting yourself avoid looking at his phone. it will be alright soon tke. play d song below. a song of hope & encouragement.

purplesummer: Dreal1247 has almost said it all. Divorce is not a good thing, this is marriage OP and as unfortunate as it sounds, you have to stay, look after your son and continue to pray for your husband. As Dreal1247 has said, draw closer to God and take solace in Him.
It's well.

Kanwulia: Only one question for you.
Do you have a job?
Or is your husband the only job you have?

purplesummer: Dreal1247 has almost said it all. Divorce is not a good thing, this is marriage OP and as unfortunate as it sounds, you have to stay, look after your son and continue to pray for your husband. As Dreal1247 has said, draw closer to God and take solace in Him.
It's well.

samonom: pls dear, dnt go for divorce, talk with him on your observation, be submissive, respect him & show him love, pray for him, it is just a phase that will go out soonest.,
to stop hurting yourself avoid looking at his phone. it will be alright soon tke

Yomieluv: Here comes another pity party.

He has all the symptoms he's showing now during courtship,only you were too blinded to notice it..

I don't pity any married couple,cos they deserve whatever spouse they get,afterall bird of feathers they say flock together.

Get use to him.

munarule: Am a kind of romantic person so i allowed him to hv sex with me to know his skills on bed. I was sure that he can satisfy me on bed before I accepted his proposal

munarule: Hello wonderful people, pls I seriously need your advise. I married this man last 4yrs and God bless us with a son who is 3yrs old. Before the wedding,he was doing everything to win my heart and was also claiming to be born again by calling me every night to pray for me. Am a kind of romantic person so i allowed him to hv sex with me to know his skills on bed. I was sure that he can satisfy me on bed before I accepted his proposal cos hv vow never to allow another man hv sex with me once am married. The problem started since the day he paid my bride price,he want me to be treating him like king while he treat me like slave(though he's 11yrs older than me). He doesn't appreciate me anymore and the most annoying part of it is that he's now claiming single on fb,proposing marriage to different ladies. I no longer see him as friend and confidant,he now make love to me twice or thrice a month. am just 28 and I need to enjoy marriage. Am dying silently pls tell me what to do and pls dnt tell me to go and report him to our pastor cos hv done that several times. God bless you

Raymondenyi:
This is d kind of mentaality, dat has kept us where we are as a nation; citizens dat dia sense of judgement and logical reasoning hs been flawed by stupid n baseless religious sentiments, where youths cannot come out to clamour n reach 4 d change dey need, buh will rather coward in dia closet "Praying" .. I really see no hope ( "why freedom is a gift 4rm God it must be secured by men" - obama)
Also to think both of u are women n offering dis preposterous advice; to a fellow lady; n later expect a man; or will want a man to respect U in a home? If u don't think respect in a marriage should be mutual, if u don't think a woman also has a take in how a marriage should be, if u see a marriage as solely been centered on d man, while d woman swallows everything n conforms 2 anything; just to still stay put... In dis exposed age, where most women re very educated n independent (Alakija's,Iweala's)...
If those re ur reasoning; in dis current age n time; den in all honesty, I think u are a total disgrace to womanhood; U should go and ask ur God 4 forgiveness..
(Repulsive comments everywhere)

Blockus:


[b]You have no real problems from what I can see.

In summary;

1. You crave more sex from your husband

2. You dont trust your husband hence you have been snooping around on his facebook page and stuff.

3. You listen to rumours cos how else would you know he has been proposing to other women?!

SOLUTION..

I see no real problems here. Your husband is a flirt and that is not necessarily bad depending on your mind frame. Marriage is though. It requires a shiitload of work to keep the romance burning. Your husband being older than you by so much would naturally have a father-complex over you his 11 year old wife. You have been married for 3-Years so its only normal that the romance phase would have elapsed by now. However, you can still get back on that train if you so desire.

1. Ignore facebook messages, Twitter and all that other social network bullshit. If you are too insecure to overlook suggestive messages from him or to him, delete him from your friends or even better stop visiting his page. You need to learn how to trust in your husband all over again. STOP SNOOPING. When you start checking his facebook messages, BBM, Twitter, e.t.c, it simply means you dont trust him. I once dated a girl who was never trusting of me. She kept hounding me, snooping and spying on me both online and offline. Infact, one day she confronted me and started accusing me of cheating and all worth not and pulled out a photo of me in a club dacing with a chick who just so happened to be my bestfriends girl . So I sat her down, opened my laptop, pulled up my facebook and had her look through it.. unlocked all my phones and gave her to read through to her satisfaction, emails and all.. THEN, I broke up with her. #Reason; Without trust, there cant be any relationship between two persons.

2. Sex in a relationship takes two people to happen. You should be more sexually assertive. Find his trigger button, smooch your way into sex. Rape him if you have to. Create at atmosphere for sex to happen. Go buy yourself a ton of sexy negligees, lingerie, wear nice scents and fragrance and make this a habit not just for sex night but for all nights. Become a LovePeddler for your husband. Suck his diick whislt he is driving, caress his diick whilst he is watching T.V, do sexy stuff gaddammit. The difference between you and the girls outside your marital home is the conciousness of sex. Those girls know its all about sex so they work at it, you on the other hand treat sex like a chore. So my dear.. Become a LovePeddler for your husband. You cant be forming for your husband o!! If you form for him... Na your problem.

3. Stop listening to gossip and get closer to your husband. Share your pains with him, share your everything with him. Basically do everything you can to keep the relationship. Change your mindset.




If you want to leave, please pack your things and leave. If you want a divorce, go to the State High Court and seek legal counselling there from the multitude of Lawyers there. If you want to stay married, better up your game and put in work. In every marriage, one person works harder to carry the two, maybe in yours, this is your cross to carry.


#Goodluck.[/b]

munarule:
Thank you beautiful
people for your advises,may God
continue to protect your home. hv
tried begging him several times to
forgive me all my wrongs(even if
have offended him). I dnt ask him
for money except he willingly give
me. I opened his fb inbox one
night when he was sleeping and i
saw his erected dick picture which
he sent to a girl and he was telling
the girl that he will flog her very
well. He doesn't show care or love
to me again,dnt even care if am
happy. If this is all what marriage
is all about, i will keep enduring it
till I breath my last cos I dnt love
him anymore

Kanwulia:

This is your main problem, not your husband!
An idle mind is always the devil's workshop.
Blokos-SHHHHHIARRRING nor be work o!