So i just asked myself..i'm i the only one in this situation? Today's Saturday and most people are hanging out with friends and having a fun filled day and here i am wondering why i have no one to hang out with even when i find myself in the midst of people, i find it very hard to mingle, i become instantly shy and tongue tied. Its really frustrating...so i ask...are there any introverts like me on NL and how do you manage life as an introvert. I'd love to have replies from my fellow girls also

Hahahahahaha........ You are not alone dear.

It really is quite common, just try and do something different more regularly, for example say hi to the first person u see on ur way out to work or anywhere and try to startup a convo, it doesn't need to be a spectacular topic just something that can easily extend to other topics eg weather, sports, Ebola etc.
I know you said ur shy but the more u try sis the more comfortable u get doing it more regularly.
Good luck

Ugojames: It really is quite common, just try and do something different more regularly, for example say hi to the first person u see on ur way out to work or anywhere and try to startup a convo, it doesn't need to be a spectacular topic just something that can easily extend to other topics eg weather, sports, Ebola etc.
I know you said ur shy but the more u try sis the more comfortable u get doing it more regularly.
Good luck

thanks dear...buh u knw starting up a conversation is not as easy as it seems especially for my kind..lol

mimiy05:
thanks dear...buh u knw starting up a conversation is not as easy as it seems especially for my kind..lol

Like I said practice makes perfect, even if u make mistakes on the first try u can correct ur self d next day.
PS: we are talking ryt now aren't we?

Ugojames:

Like I said practice makes perfect, even if u make mistakes on the first try u can correct ur self d next day.
PS: we are talking ryt now aren't we?

lol..yes we are..tnks again

Ugojames:

Like I said practice makes perfect, even if u make mistakes on the first try u can correct ur self d next day.
PS: we are talking ryt now aren't we?

lol..yes we are

mimiy05: So i just asked myself..i'm i the only one in this situation? Today's Saturday and most people are hanging out with friends and having a fun filled day and here i am wondering why i have no one to hang out with even when i find myself in the midst of people, i find it very hard to mingle, i become instantly shy and tongue tied. Its really frustrating...so i ask...are there any introverts like me on NL and how do you manage life as an introvert. I'd love to have replies from my fellow girls also

Its not easy, sometimes people bore me, and d few friends i have call me 'scammer' i most times don't show up for outings. I guess they are used to me now..... I hope so.

Mimiy, I can assure u over 80% of NL members (my humble self inclusive) are of your class, forget all d braggings. dat's why u see them glued to d forum, at least what they can't do physically they do mentally. Online involvemt provides better accommodation. d emotional stress of trying to be like others, I mean extroverts, might be more than d likely reward, I know frm experience. Just try to be yourself.

drop ya number make we holla you.....how can u be an introvert ?

Hussyk: drop ya number make we holla you.....how can u be an introvert ?

lol..u don see am na

itsmine: Mimiy, I can assure u over 80% of NL members (my humble self inclusive) are of your class, forget all d braggings. dat's why u see them glued to d forum, at least what they can't do physically they do mentally. Online involvemt provides better accommodation. d emotional stress of trying to be like others, I mean extroverts, might be more than d likely reward, I know frm experience. Just try to be yourself.

Yeah, 99.9% of regular posters on this forum are introverts.
@Op, no be by force to talk to people, if you don't feel comfortable chatting people's up offline, we are always here for you.

well, op.....it is wat it is, u are not alone, i am an inntrovert. i talk onli when necessary, i so dislike lousy peeps. as an introvert, u suffer much when you are nt imaginative and intelligent.
for a lady, its undastandable....but for guys, who go toast for u . d koko is just to embrace d person we are and learn to develop our strength.

When I got to Nairaland...I was a complete Intorvert but Now I'v graduated to partial introvert

shegxi: well, op.....it is wat it is, u are not alone, i am an inntrovert. i talk onli when necessary, i so dislike lousy peeps. as an introvert, u suffer much when you are nt imaginative and intelligent.
for a lady, its undastandable....but for guys, who go toast for u . d koko is just to embrace d person we are and learn to develop our strength.

lol...thtz if dey see me to toast na

Divepen: When I got to Nairaland...I was a complete Intorvert but Now I'v graduated to partial introvert

lol..really..how did u do it?

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[quote author=mimiy05] lol...thtz if dey see me to toast na

see u, dn't u go out at all ni? if a dude like u, forget it. even if u have bodyguards, he will still find a way to get across to you.

Divepen: When I got to Nairaland...I was a complete Intorvert but Now I'v graduated to partial introvert

are u sure? y do u tink so?

sebi i say make una holla me now.....buh seriously mehn thats how you break that introvert jinx. u start by talking chances on wrong people till you boost your self confidence. had a babe like dat before.....i noticed she wants to relate with pple atimes buh feels insecure. she talks to ne alone and just a gf..."as in...can u imagine" ? just talk to pple ...its gonna be hard....u may even regret doing it....but lata u will see ur already an extrovert before u realise and can now selectively choose your friends. anyways uno mail me...bae i dey para gan

mimiy05: lol...thtz if dey see me to toast na

lol..really..how did u do it?

I started by opening a Bible competition where I was able to build a E-family...Many of whom I now ave their contact outside the forum...
Then I started chatting once in a while in some thread...That as helped me whenever I'm in the midst of ppl

mimiy05:
lol..u don see am na

enjoying d diary ma'am.

shegxi: enjoying d diary ma'am.

thanks dear

xo simple.i stick to my laptop,when d battery runs down,i swap to my phone and when dat one goes down...........my books all the way.Never had a boring weekend.

Stephxoblessed: xo simple.i stick to my laptop,when d battery runs down,i swap to my phone and when dat one goes down...........my books all the way.Never had a boring weekend.

i shld guess u love routine den......dn't u sometimes wish u culd get out of dat cycle?

Not being able to relate with most of the people you come across is not always a negative attribute as you may be seeing it, it has much to do with with your personal interests.

I won't be doing everything I can to get close to people whom I'm convinced I don't share common goals with, all in the name of having friends.

shegxi: i shld guess u love routine den......dn't u sometimes wish u culd get out of dat cycle?

no i dont

Stephxoblessed:
no i dont

hmmmmmn! I envy u.

Op, I read your dairy and I just want to say; what you did or doing to your bf is wrong. it will end in only one way; regret. No body can make you cheat on your partner if you dont want to; there is nothing like he pushed me away. sit down and talk with him, there are better and more honorable ways to resolve relationship issues than cheating. a friendly advice... this will only end in one way; sorrow, if you dont cut ties with the other person and make your relatinoship work,or break up with your partner and be with the other person. you cant eat your cake and have it.

I am also an introvert i don't find it difficult to make friends but maintaining the friendship is the problem. People usually tag me as "too proud n like forming" cos i don't go out/associate with them. I don't like people that talk too much, lol..

deb6: I am also an introvert i don't find it difficult to make friends but maintaining the friendship is the problem. People usually tag me as "too proud n like forming" cos i don't go out/associate with them. I don't like people that talk too much, lol..

introvert or nt......som people are actually proud. D irony is a proud person doesn't knw dat hw/she has pride.

shegxi: introvert or nt......som people are actually proud. D irony is a proud person doesn't knw dat hw/she has pride.

Yeah u are right, but my case is different o..