i have been in a few relationships where i put in my efforts to make it work irrespective of how stupid it may look but i end up being hurt and unfairly treated by the man but wen i see how some ladies heartlessly treat some men and still yet they ar being pampered and loved by the man, does it mean am not just lucky with being blessed wit God fearing and responsible men? or am i the problem?

D ladies actually treat me bad,very bad,@ times I wonder if I have offended any in my former life

You blow hot and cold in a relationship to make it work, pushover doesn't work for most men. My friend that devotes every every to relationship is facing same fate you are facing now. The bible said " don't be too good, don't be too bad".

edozie04: D ladies actually treat me bad,very bad,@ times I wonder if I have offended any in my former life

Stop being nice, be a toughy.

beeevan: You blow hot and cold in a relationship to make it work, pushover doesn't work for most men. My friend that devotes every every to relationship is facing same fate you are facing now. The bible said " don't be too good, don't be too bad".

beeeeeeeevaaaaaaannnnnnn!!!!!!!!! where did the bible say that?

alutacontinua:



beeeeeeeevaaaaaaannnnnnn!!!!!!!!! where did the bible say that?

Seriously it did but I have forgotten the exact quotation, ecclesiasticals or proverbs . It even went further to Say" don't be too stup*id or too wise.

Nothing wrong in being nice in a relationship. You will soon meet a man that values and appreciates you.

Aluta nah foolish bible use ooo

beeevan: You blow hot and cold in a relationship to make it work, pushover doesn't work for most men. My friend that devotes every every to relationship is facing same fate you are facing now. The bible said " don't be too good, don't be too bad".

Which bible pls?

Nashville: Nothing wrong in being nice in a relationship. You will soon meet a man that values and appreciates you.

tanks nash but for hw long?i av withdrawn from having relationships after d last terrible xperience which left me wit a baby girl coz i sense it might repeat itself .i want to put all my love to my baby

HFOG:
Which bible pls?

The one you know, am sure you haven't read your entire bible or have you? I have attempted reading the entire bible as a teenager so I do know some bible points that Sunday Sunday christians will never come across.

If being nice is not working, then try something else.

ephee:

tanks nash but for hw long?i av withdrawn from having relationships after d last terrible xperience which left me wit a baby girl coz i sense it might repeat itself .i want to put all my love to my baby

Never ever give up; your man will soon show up. Just be yourself and believe me, you will laugh last.

ephee:

tanks nash but for hw long?i av withdrawn from having relationships after d last terrible xperience which left me wit a baby girl coz i sense it might repeat itself .i want to put all my love to my baby

Then you need to be more careful. Lots of horrible guys out there and you should know to differentiate between them.

And more importantly, if a guy starts treating you badly, don't try to do more. Just leave the relationship.

However there are lots of good guys out there and you need to find one.

alutacontinua:



beeeeeeeevaaaaaaannnnnnn!!!!!!!!! where did the bible say that?

HFOG:
Which bible pls?

Ecclesiastes 7:17

Don’t be too good or too bad, and don’t be too wise or too foolish. Why should you die before your time?

You have not met the right guy yet, there are guys out there who will appreciate your efforts and hardwork but the bad thing is that many of them may take you for granted or even call you desperate. ..


My advice is that if putting in so much effort into a relationship is who you're, then continue but if not, loosen up because many will take you for granted and may think you want to tie them down or have any other ulterior motive. .be yourself, you don't have to go against your way just to please a bf...you even took in for the last guy, yet he left you....

Bottomline: Learn to earn your respect in a relationship and wish you the best in your next relationship...

My dear ephee, there's a n adage that says you can't keep doing the same thing the same way and expect a different result.

I had such issues in my previous relationships thank God it didn't leave me with a baby.

I went back to the drawing board asked myself some important questions, like what have u being doing wrongly. I cautioned myself to act differently, viola it worked like magic and I got married to a man that adores the very ground I walk upon.

My dear, if you are investing in a relationship so much and all the other person does is to withdraw and withdraw, my dear it's normal for you to go empty.

Sit down, focus on your baby, invest some much love in her that the one left will be for you. If the man is serious he will work for both you and your baby's love.

Some guys are jerks sha...mschw

[quote author=awhales]My dear ephee, there's a n adage that says you can't keep doing the same thing the same way and expect a different result.

I had such issues in my previous relationships thank God it didn't leave me with a baby.

I went back to the drawing board asked myself some important questions, like what have u being doing wrongly. I cautioned myself to act differently, viola it worked like magic and I got married to a man that adores the very ground I walk upon.

My dear, if you are investing in a relationship so much and all the other person does is to withdraw and withdraw, my dear it's normal for you to go empty.

Sit down, focus on your baby, invest some much love in her that the one left will be for you. If the man is serious he will work for both you and your baby's love.

Some guys are jerks sha...mschw[/quote

tanks.am so hapy for u

ephee: i have been in a few relationships where i put in my efforts to make it work irrespective of how stupid it may look but i end up being hurt and unfairly treated by the man but wen i see how some ladies heartlessly treat some men and still yet they ar being pampered and loved by the man, does it mean am not just lucky with being blessed wit God fearing and responsible men? or am i the problem?

you are the problem!
then again, you might think you are giving your best but doing the wrong thing. it means you are always working ever so hard to do the wrong things - surely, you are bound to get burnt!

all those guys can't be wrong - take 2 steps back & check yourself. be honest with your assessment - look at the things you have done that rubbed them the wrong way. was it a common theme in all the relationships you have had?

if it is - you have identified the problem.

[quote author=coogar]

you are the problem!
then again, you might think you are giving your best but doing the wrong thing. it means you are always working ever so hard to do the wrong things - surely, you are bound to get burnt!

all those guys can't be wrong - take 2 steps back & check yourself. be honest with your assessment - look at the things you have done that rubbed them the wrong way. was it a common theme in all the relationships you have had?

if it is - you have identified the problem. [/quote


tanks for ur sincere response.
it just crossed my mind now that i play good gurl in my relationships.i dnt ask for money coz i blive i am financialy independent.i even help out wen ever financial crises arises so that he dnt av to worry.i go out of my way to satisfy him nd i breakdown emotionally wen we have issues.

could all these be d reason for their actions?

ephee:
it just crossed my mind now that i play good
gurl in my relationships.i dnt ask for money
coz i blive i am financialy independent.i even
help out wen ever financial crises arises so
that he dnt av to worry.i go out of my way to
satisfy him nd i breakdown emotionally wen
we have issues.
could all these be d reason for their actions?

Break down emotionally ke? Jesus!! I wish I was a gal,,, honestly, I wish I was,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the only way to show a guy hell wen u both av issues is to pretend that u'r good!!! It drives men insane,,,,

My ex-g.f always call me wen we av ishs, even wen I'm wrong, she calls and say she's sorry,,,, then she became sm1 I could push around,,,,no guy wants a girl he can push around,,,,,,,,,, I eventually frustrated that girl outta the relationship............

Fast Forward a few months,,,, I met this ridiculously firm girl,,, and I cherish that she is!!! Its 2years nw, and I still adore her,,,, dunno aw to make my point again jhor, but jez put this in mind,,,, he needs a partner, not a pet

topelouis:

Break down emotionally ke? Jesus!! I wish I was a gal,,, honestly, I wish I was,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the only way to show a guy hell wen u both av issues is to pretend that u'r good!!! It drives men insane,,,,

My ex-g.f always call me wen we av ishs, even wen I'm wrong, she calls and say she's sorry,,,, then she became sm1 I could push around,,,,no guy wants a girl he can push around,,,,,,,,,, I eventually frustrated that girl outta the relationship............

Fast Forward a few months,,,, I met this ridiculously firm girl,,, and I cherish that she is!!! Its 2years nw, and I still adore her,,,, dunno aw to make my point again jhor, but jez put this in mind,,,, he needs a partner, not a pet

wuld u mind giving me a hint on how to be firm

topelouis:

Break down emotionally ke? Jesus!! I wish I was a gal,,, honestly, I wish I was,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, the only way to show a guy hell wen u both av issues is to pretend that u'r good!!! It drives men insane,,,,

My ex-g.f always call me wen we av ishs, even wen I'm wrong, she calls and say she's sorry,,,, then she became sm1 I could push around,,,,no guy wants a girl he can push around,,,,,,,,,, I eventually frustrated that girl outta the relationship............

Fast Forward a few months,,,, I met this ridiculously firm girl,,, and I cherish that she is!!! Its 2years nw, and I still adore her,,,, dunno aw to make my point again jhor, but jez put this in mind,,,, he needs a partner, not a pet

You are on the wrong path bro.
Your feeble mind is being played by an experienced runs girl. You are a victim of reverse psychology. Girls fall for it more, but it is more annoying seeing it work on a guy.


You've got a chicken heart. Don't think of getting married to that girls cos the truth will come out and you will realize the package is actually empty.


Good girls rock, anytime, any day

laplace12:

You are on the wrong path bro.
Your feeble mind is being played by an experienced runs girl. You are a victim of reverse psychology. Girls fall for it more, but it is more annoying seeing it work on a guy.


You've got a chicken heart. Don't think of getting married to that girls cos the truth will come out and you will realize the package is actually empty.


Good girls rock, anytime, any day

I didn't noe that! Gracias!

Waking up to see that my g.f might be an experienced runs gal is terrible dou!!!!

And I av a feeble mind Ehrmmm

Can't say the thought of insulting the hell outta u didn't cross my mind!

But jez one question dou; can't good girls be firm?

I av the luxury of soo many female friends and I noe that those ones that are overly good and acting all caring are the runs gals,,, they'll do jez abt anything

Basically all the men you've met you treated them like kings and they turned out to be jerks

What was their excuse for dumping you?

raumdeuter: Basically all the men you've met you treated them like kings and they turned out to be jerks

What was their excuse for dumping you?

no pogent reason .
if i am nyc and good,am boring
if i am outspoken and blunt,am rude
if i dnt ask for money,i am weird
if i do, am a gold digger
if i am homely and domestic,am taken for granted
if i dnt do anytin,i am lazy and not a wife material


my point is what xactly do men want cos av not figured it out

Instead of trying to please these men, why not be yourself for a change

ephee:

no pogent reason .
if i am nyc and good,am boring
if i am outspoken and blunt,am rude
if i dnt ask for money,i am weird
if i do, am a gold digger
if i am homely and domestic,am taken for granted
if i dnt do anytin,i am lazy and not a wife material


my point is what xactly do men want cos av not figured it out

As I said in my previous post, be yourself. .stop struggling so hard to please them...QED

ephee:

no pogent reason .
if i am nyc and good,am boring
if i am outspoken and blunt,am rude
if i dnt ask for money,i am weird
if i do, am a gold digger
if i am homely and domestic,am taken for granted
if i dnt do anytin,i am lazy and not a wife material


my point is what xactly do men want cos av not figured it out

So you were all of these? How possible is that? How can you be domestic and lazy at the same time or in different relationships? How could you be financially dependent and independent in different relationships? It would seem you can change your personality from one relationship to another. Hmmmm..........

Now, as regards the bolded. Not all men say those things you pointed out. Not all men take a domestic lady for granted, not all men considers good ladies as boring. Maybe you've been unlucky. My advice: pray to God for favour and guidance. Don't be quick to rush into a relationship. Ask yourself: does he truly love me? If you think he does, still seek divine revelation. If God says yes, who can say no?

topelouis:

I didn't noe that! Gracias!

Waking up to see that my g.f might be an experienced runs gal is terrible dou!!!!

And I av a feeble mind Ehrmmm

Can't say the thought of insulting the hell outta u didn't cross my mind!

But jez one question dou; can't good girls be firm?

I av the luxury of soo many female friends and I noe that those ones that are overly good and acting all caring are the runs gals,,, they'll do jez abt anything

Your idea of being firm is playing mind games, and that is probably what the present girl is doing.


A girl that didn't cheat on, never stopped loving you and never stopped showing it, yet you broke her heart for a silly reason and yet proud to talk about it. I'm just pained.

How firm do you want her to be? Take a cane and whip you like an irresponsible child that doesn't know what to do?

Its annoying that you dumped a girl for being true to herself and to you. Its wickedness, I can't understandstand why you are proud of it.

coogar:

you are the problem!
then again, you might think you are giving your best but doing the wrong thing. it means you are always working ever so hard to do the wrong things - surely, you are bound to get burnt!

all those guys can't be wrong - take 2 steps back & check yourself. be honest with your assessment - look at the things you have done that rubbed them the wrong way. was it a common theme in all the relationships you have had?

if it is - you have identified the problem.

This is just my point.

Nashville:

Then you need to be more careful. Lots of horrible guys out there and you should know to differentiate between them.

And more importantly, if a guy starts treating you badly, don't try to do more. Just leave the relationship.

However there are lots of good guys out there and you need to find one.

Exactly. I think the OP is just hanging with the wrong kind of guys and being too gullible. Dont believe everything he tells you. Use your head and not your heart and most importantly USE A CONDOM EVERYTIME.