I had this impression that second wives are always evil, jealous and troublesome, but presently i have a  neighbour who is a third wife, from what i observed from our few contacts as neighbours , i think she is humble and respectful. I can hardly see any "second wife" trait in her. So i was actually wondering if its morally right or wrong for a woman to be a second wife or third wife as the case may be, considering the fact that some so called second wives could actually be good and morally upright persons whose marital status was occasioned by circumstances. What do you think

It has to do with nature and environment,good girl remains good either as first,second or third wife while atimes the environment might play its parts in changing the IQ of d girl  forcing her into standing up to d challenges of polygamy (this means the problem is probably not from her but from the previous wife/wives).

In another context for non moslems , woman can either be the second wife when she fails to get d first class position in a home;menace from bad character.
so this type ended up as a second wife with their poisonous character.

I shall stop here 4 now.

Regards,
I

I would rather be unmarried for the rest of my life than be a second wife, haba

each man to one wife,but pple have turned everything upside down wt their stupidities

Second wife ko

tope2000:

Second wife ko

but u r,cos stephen is already married to rebellious still u dey chook ur nose

whatever90:

but u r,because stephen is already married to rebellious still u dey chook ur nose

Im still not second wifey oo
I allowed stephen to marry the girl because i like her n plus they both live in US, u see im a considerate pesin

no it ain't right to be a 2nd wife. 2nd wife? whats the woman thinking of?

It depends sha though i can't be one
@OP No,its not wrong.

No,a second wife is an Adultress that needs to get her own husband,It's written in the bible

Once came across a guy who wanted me for a second wife cos he found after marriage that they were both AS. so he wanted me to have kids for him.

Of course I said No, cos it diidn't feel right to me playing a second fiddle by being a second wife.

Baro:

I had this impression that second wives are always evil, jealous and troublesome, but presently i have a  neighbour who is a third wife, from what i observed from our few contacts as neighbours , i think she is humble and respectful. I can hardly see any "second wife" trait in her. So i was actually wondering if its morally right or wrong for a woman to be a second wife or third wife as the case may be, considering the fact that some so called second wives could actually be good and morally upright persons whose marital status was occasioned by circumstances. What do you think

Of course third wives are okay, it’s the second and fourth ones that are bad. It is that their yeye even number trait.  You know what that is right. . . I’m talking about the “2nd wife trait” you were expecting in the 3rd wife. The most devilish of them wives is the 16th wife because she is even number 3 times over. . . ya know 8, 4 and 2. Me, I advice men everywhere to stay away from 16th wife, if you can skip to 17 wife, do so without batting an eye.

[size=3pt]Rotflmao, Osirisiri on NL. What is 2nd wife trait? Are you born with it or is it nurtured?[/size]



@ Igwe1
Mr. Igwe it's so nice to see you on the romance section. Awwww! A man who isn't adverse to learning how to romance that special one. Goodness, I am teary eyed, right now. You know who is sooo lucky!! 

Second wife? rotflmao.

_{He dares not}

Baby Jinx:

Of course third wives are okay, it’s the second and fourth ones that are bad. It is that their yeye even number trait. You know what that is right. . . I’m talking about the “2nd wife trait” you were expecting in the 3rd wife. The most devilish of them wives is the 16th wife because she is even number 3 times over. . . ya know 8, 4 and 2. Me, I advice men everywhere to stay away from 16th wife, if you can skip to 17 wife, do so without batting an eye.

[size=3pt]Rotflmao, Osirisiri on NL. What is 2nd wife trait? Are you born with it or is it nurtured?[/size]

This was funny as hell! They should stay away from the 2, 4,6, 8, 10 only marry odd numbered wives. They can do it I believe in them
I can't believe this is being discussed. Second and third wives still exist in Naija? When will men learn, one is not enough they want 2, 3, 4, 5 trouble.

cant be one thats trouble.nigeria men needs to change.

do u know the first wife is considered as the wife and the others are not? i think its pathetic bin second wife

ashe2:

do u know the first wife is considered as the wife and the others are not? i think its pathetic bin second wife

Not in most cases, cus i could remember the former lagos state military administrator Col Buba Marwa, he goes to any function with both wives and they take turn to represent him anywhere .

whatever90:

each man to one wife,but people have turned everything upside down wt their stupidities

It is wrong to call it stupidity, are you aware that some religions allows marrying more than one wife ? So long as you can take care of them. And some circumstances may warrant you having more than one.
But come to think of it,what about guys who go about having xtra marital affairs, are they better of ? 

I dont think its that bad, being a second wife. Some religion and traditions permit it, so It cant be wrong. Though personally I wont do that, but I dont condemn those who do and I dont see them as 'bad'.

it is not acceptable,i will always be first not second handed,used wife.

I HEARD YARADUA AND GOODLUCK ARE LOOKING FOR SECOND WIFEYS, ANYONE INTERESTED? 

forget about the issue of being a second wife.we are supposed to promote fidelity in marriage and not promote it.the issue of second wife is suppose to be completely out of the question, IF YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN!!!.Being a second wife means yu are interfering with somebody's marriage and we all know that ''WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER''.i am yet to see any polygamous family that experiences peace,even if there seems to be hamony amongst wives.because as soon as the man dies,u will know that the so called peace was absolutely false.''A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE'' and ''HE THAT HATH AN EAR LET HIM HEAR''.don't be a second wife.u'll be doing yourself more harm than good[/color][color=#000099]

am always happy to be a second wife, so long as i can also have a second husband and maybe a few concubines

vivaladiva,  the foundation of  home will be affected with your theory

As for me I must be the first and the last
@Topic If that makes you happy and comfortable that ok

rubi, To maintain a woman's dignity you are very right

I can NEVER be second best in a man's life.

Which kind second wife,second ko,second ni.Am certainly not a party to such marriage.lets be real it doesnt pay at last

webman:

vivaladiva,  the foundation of  home will be affected with your theory

Of course it would be. Yet the man having more than one wife firmly roots the foundation of a home in place.

Good thinking webman, good thinking.

its not right,im from a polygamous family and i can tell you that you might see them all getting along but there are always undercurrents,tensions in the house,petty jelousy envy e.t.c and this is assuming money isnt an issue