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| How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by bababuff(m): 2:33pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
I[b] need your help.[/b] This is serious o! My 3 year old boy is always scattering and re-arranging my sitting room. I don't want to spank him but I'm seeing that as the last option now. when I tell my kid "drop the remote" is when he takes another remote, and he will be smiling and laughing as if is a game. Now he is teaching his 1 year old brother the same thing. It's a big joy to see them play around, but they are now destroying things. I have lost a lot of good CDs because they slide them on the tiles. Please, I want constructive suggestions and methods that have worked for you, not all these "teach your child the bible way" stuff. Mummies and Daddies in this forum please help. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by plappville(f): 2:47pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
I was thinking of posting this thread, thank God we re wearing same shoe  i am having thesame problem here, they are something else each night when they go to bed i will take my time to arrange and arrange, thesame thing will continue the next day.All my nigeria cd's re scrashed becos the soon 1 year old is having fun with dem. thx to onlinenigeria.com for posting free video clips.
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| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by BabyJinx: 3:21pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
LOL! Parents of toddlers are so funny. Okay, you say he rearranges your furniture. . . how so? Does he have a particular pattern or order he wants things? For instance, does he arrange by color or by size? What you should be worried about is what is he trying to express, You'll be surprised to know how geniuses started. Please don't stiffle his creativity and genius ooh. About the remote control, don't ask for it. . . just pick up something else, something YOU want him to have and pay attention to that thing. Gush over it, make a big deal over it. . . soon he's gonna want that, then you make a production about not giving to him, even tell him to go play with the remote control, while you play with what you have. When you do give it to him, do it grudgingly. The goal is to make the remote control as unattractive to him as possible. Do this a few times and trust me, your remote control will be yours in no time. Reverse Psychology Baby! You have no idea how many things I've gotten children to do using that method. The power is yours. . . use it wisely. Good Luck. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by HRhotness(f): 3:38pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
i'm not a parent yet but i hav loads of kids around me. . . my aunt started spanking her kids at about that age. . . nuthin too hard tho, just a tap on their bum when they do sumthin wrong. . . the she lets dem cool off for a while befor playin with them again. . . the trick is she says a firm NO, spanks them, takes whatever they r hold and says a firm NO again! eventually all she has to do is say is No and they knw they r being naughty again. i knw may pple disagree with this method in today;s world but it has worked for our parents for ages. . . |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by mohawkchic(f): 4:31pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
[b]Time oUt:Naughty corner is the most effective form of discipline that works for me just great!!! It helps the child calm down & try to realise what they've done to make mum/dad not happy w/ them!! *This works by letting the child realise they've done something wrong,You tell them what they've done for & they're not been rewarded by that behaviour . . . you isolate them preferably in a corner of the room,never in a room by themselves,for every year of their life,is a minute they spend on time out,so you son is three,if you were to do this,he'll stay in the naughty corner for thre minutes . . .you don't let him get to you by crying or trying to make you feel guilty!! Trust me they will TRY anythiing to make you feel so bad for doing the right thing!! You have to be very consistent w/ this method,if you consistently set limits & enforec them,after a couple of times of him going to that corner,he'll do his damnest not to go to the naughty corner!! ooh by the way, you resort to time-out after you've had to repeat yourself 2/3 times Health & safety is important especially with him moving furniture around,so you'll have to do the key steps in taking control of the suitation,trying to use them effectively in your every day life suitations!! *Always try to redirect his energy in a positive direction *Distract him from doing something distructive *Ignore repeated behaviours . . .ignoring can be hard especially if they're crying their eyes out, but there are those times when drawing attention to the unwanted behaviour has the effect of making it worse,you know your child so pick your battles!! *See if any pointers in the link can be incooperated into your suitation[/b] http://www.parentingtoddlers.com/toddlerdiscipline.html |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by ifyalways(f): 4:39pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
Baby Jinx:this sounds good and realistic. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Outstrip(f): 5:20pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
He is old enough to be spanked. I have chopsticks that I use. It is small but it does not feel good. He clearly understands what you are saying but he is testing you and testing to see how far he can go. This is an opportunity to teach. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by DisGuy: 8:15pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
nigerian parent should recognise talent right from birth!!! the next Laurence Llewelyn-Bowen if you ask me |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by MrCrackles(m): 8:18pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
Buy PANKERE OR correct BULALA whip im yansh till its red and sore!!! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by abujabooks(f): 9:53pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
@Poster, What I did with my boys is dat, I took all my Cds and dvds from d sitting room. At that time, I had only my leather settees, tv and sky receiver with the viewing card cellotaped. You can put your things back when they are older. U can't discipline dm 4 things like throwing cds on d floor. Remove the things! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by MrCrackles(m): 9:54pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
abujabooks: longtin!! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by HRhotness(f): 10:24pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
abujabooks: my nephew is crzy about d sky viewing card too. . . |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by nana(f): 10:39pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
MrCrackles:Ahn ahn,why nah? |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by MrCrackles(m): 10:44pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
nana: hehe small small pikin too get wahala dem whip my yansh tire wen i be pikin been there done dat!! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by nana(f): 10:49pm On Oct 31, 2008 |
MrCrackles:Hehehehehe |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Ndipe(m): 12:46am On Nov 01, 2008 |
Baby Jinx: Great answer! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by TOYOSI20(f): 1:00am On Nov 01, 2008 |
A three year old?  Pls the little on is being creative in his/her own way  . . . . . .just watch the kid closely to ensure safety that's all. . , . ,  |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Busybody2(f): 1:08am On Nov 01, 2008 |
Baby Jinx: Check the post again, the children are boys  Boys don't do arrangement or re-arrangement for that matter, they just like to irritate you by scattering things and turning everything upside down  Is the original poster female, because toddler boys are usually like that around their mums, they are usually well behaved with their dads though. One word from their dad and they are as good as gold, whilst the mum has to scream till she is blue in the face  Hang in there poster, they usually grow out of this behaviour by the time they are 5 years old. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by monatoetje: 1:09am On Nov 01, 2008 |
What i do is , i stand up and take whatever i don`t want her to play with. She knows what the word " no " means but sometimes she`ll not listen a still try to play with it. Nor do i see any reason why i`d allow my daughter to scatter the entire livingroom. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Busybody2(f): 1:25am On Nov 01, 2008 |
I have a two year old toddler too and I am tired of smacking him, I heve been pleading with the dad to allow me ship him to Africa, but he says I have to go too I am tired of locking the toilet doors from outside so that he would not go and wash his hands in the WC, I am tired of sellotaping the DVD player's slot, the Skycard to the box, the phone to its cradle . . . His current obsession is with light and TV switches etc, he likes flicking it on and off constantly, which totally pisses me off, one minute you are reading, the next you have to jump up to go and switch back on the light, and he goes back to switch it off because he thinks its a game What went wrong  I used to be very strict with ma little cousins, nephews, nieces, etc All I had to do was give them one "if I catch you" or "behave yourself" look |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by BabyJinx: 2:31am On Nov 01, 2008 |
Awwwww! It's soo unfair. . . a lot of willy nilly spanking! Haba now, children explore the world around them. . . this is what they do and one of the ways they do it is take things apart and put it back in a way that makes sense to them. They are not doing it to annoy or make parents work harder. . . they are just trying to understand and when you spank them for something they don't know is wrong, they see it as being punished for trying to make sense. I am begging all parents. . . on my knees, please take it easy. There are worse things you're going to need to spank them over, don't let them build an immunity to it already. Another method you can use is making them do the cleaning. . . now you are thinking but he's 3 years old, trust me they are capable. Make it funform a song "Clean up, Clean Up, Everybody Clean up" Now, I know I just lost all the parents with that one, eh? |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by BabyJinx: 2:34am On Nov 01, 2008 |
Busy_body: Rotflmao! Don't worry. . . you are not alone, my sisters do the same thing. They also have "This is your last warning" there can be 1000 last warnings in a day! |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by BabyJinx: 3:20am On Nov 01, 2008 |
this Guy: Rotflmao! I just saw this Guy’s comment. . . don’t put me in trouble ooh. This is what I mean about color recognition in kids Colors The Psychology of Colors: Colour and children and Children and colour - Self-Expression Shapes & Sizes and Geometry There is a school of thought that children who have a firm grasps of shapes and sizes from an early childhood, having a good grasps of math. . . Geometry as adults. Children can only be said to understand the concept of geometric shapes when they can identify a variety of examples in different orientations. That’s why I asked how he arranges the things around him. . . Is there a pattern? Does he separate his triangular shapes and square shapes? It sounds silly but at 3. . . That is a huge thing. If anyone is interested. . . . Teaching Mathematics 3-5 Developing Learning in the Foundation Stage [I]Book Description This book provides a research background for adults helping three to five year olds learn mathematics, including social and emotional processes as well as key mathematical ideas and common difficulties. It includes implications for practice and proposes presented with a playful and sensitive approach.[/I] |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Busybody2(f): 6:18am On Nov 01, 2008 |
Baby Jinx: ROFLMBAO You mean I have to read books That's it, he is going to Africa tommorrow My mama no read book to raise me I doubt she was literate anyway |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by BabyJinx: 3:10pm On Nov 01, 2008 |
Busy_body: Tee hee hee. . . that's not really a parenting book. It's for teachers and parents on how to teach children Mathematic. . . errr. . . I guess it is. . . eehmm. . . sorta like one. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Pepeye(f): 9:45pm On Nov 01, 2008 |
They will definitely drive you nut, but they are too damm lovable |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by plappville(f): 11:16pm On Nov 01, 2008 |
MrCrackles: Funny u, i am laughingsssssssssssssss at this but just wanna let u know that Gone are those day when u can whip a baby the way u like, if u are a parent u won't do that, although they can really drive u crazy with this scarttering of home stuff. It's funny because when u don't see them in few mins around u, u will feel very empty, this is wonderful. As for the whiping thing, if u try to whip ur baby make em yansh red here, make u know say u go lose that ur pikin to goverment ooo na small small we dey handle things here wit children. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by HRhotness(f): 2:31am On Nov 02, 2008 |
Pepeye: they r lovable when they belong to other people but become little devils when they r urs or u r responsible for them. my little nephew empties out the washing basket, throwing d cloths everywhere. . . when d basket empty he sticks his head in and then brings it out again with a very surprised look and goes "oh my days" in a sing song voice. . . that always cracked me up uuntili had to babysit for an entire day. . . it wasnt so funny anymore, it just drove me up the wall, imagine having to deal with that everyday. . . i'm definitely apprehensive about motherhood  |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by busybody20: 2:23pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
Busy_body: Congrats! Thanks for letting us know you'v got SKY! [img]http://1.2.3.11/bmi/emoticons4u.com/cool/049.gif[/img] |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by asitis(f): 4:11pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old has well, the thing is that they see most objects as something to explore, had to remove all cds from the living room, push the sky box well back so the one year old can't reach it (the 3 years old is not interested in this) At one time, my 3 year developed this habits of hiding the remotes, my husband and i spend like 2 hours one day looking for the sky remote until we found out she hid it behind the printer and started laughing as soon as she saw we found it, she did this several times until we knew all her hiding places by heart, we then stop making a big deal about it and she got over it, my 1year old specialty now is switching the TV off while we watching it, engaging the phone, turning off the PC while surfing etc to be honest, i enjoy this but not all the time but i try not to make much fuss, they all grow out of eventually so try and relax. |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Shaz(f): 7:13pm On Nov 04, 2008 |
LOL! Parents of toddlers are so funny. Grin Great answer. Busy_body: Lol. . sorry ehn. Him go soon grow. You should see my lil brother, mehn. Then you'll know that your child's just a bit of the icing, let alone the cake. busybody20: . . lol |
| Re: How To Displine A 3 Year Old Child. (always Re-arranging Furnitures) by Busybody2(f): 2:42am On Nov 06, 2008 |
abujabooks: Busy_body: asitis: busybody20: Aaawww, poor thing, pull yourself up and pull yourself together, no need to feel despondent na, all you need have said was that you wanted to keep up with the Joneses too, and that we should pray that God would provide your own too na Asitis and Abujabooks and all other esteemed Nairalanders, please help me join hands and pray for busybody20 that God would provide her own too before the green-eyed monster eats her inside up |
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