Dear Taiwo,

Kindly help me out, I am newly married. My husband and I got married three months ago. We are both Christians and we had a no-sex relationship. Although, he is not a novice; I had never had sex before our marriage.

Though, our wedding night and my first time at sex was not what I expected, he told me that I would eventually grow to love and enjoy sex. To the glory of God, I am six weeks pregnant now. I am however shocked at the fact that I caught my husband watching pornography few weeks after our wedding.

He thought I had slept; he brought out the compact disk from the bed side locker. I have never opened the locker before, so I wouldn’t know what was there. He lowered the volume of the television set to the barest, so I won’t hear and he kept looking at me on the bed to see if I was awake.

I pretended I was sleeping and when he went to the office the following day, I checked the locker and found dozens of these films therein.

What I found and caught him watching really disgusts me. We are both Christians for Christ’s sake. And to think he was sneaking to watch these films. I really don’t know why. I am yet to tell him what I saw and the fact that I saw him watching the film. What should I do? I am not comfortable about this development as it is against my conviction. We just got married and I am pregnant. Help me.

Tinuade.



SOURCE: http://www.tribune.com.ng/share-a-burden/item/17003-why-would-my-husband-watch-pronographic-films

He might be learning more skills.

i see, women can complain sha o. D most important question is he cheating on u with someone else? If no. If he lyks let him watch it in secrecy frm morning till night. As long as he performs his duty on bed. What more?? Note : problem of most human being, is dat u people expect too much frm people. Thank God 4 my father he told not to expect anything frm people dat in mind people will never disappoint u.

Getting more skills na since u both have not bn doing it before

I don't think the op should be bothered. Watching porn is basically a male thing and most likely the op husband has been watching it for a very long time.that is why most porn magazine always show nake women ,it is essential to know that at least 80% of men that have access to the net do watch porn.that is a fact and the reason is men are moved by what they see while women are moved by what they hear.but the op must be very careful not to think that her man doesn't love her. And she shouldn't try to be like the porn actresses in the porn films in order to please her man. The op husband loves her just the way she is. By been natural and not the porn actresses is what is most likely to have attracted her man in the first instance to her.

Dear Tinuade,

I sincerely pray the real. Tinuade who wrote this to Tribune gets to read my reply here.

I just replied someone whom I believe is your husband here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1920284/marriage-life-feel-cheated/1

I suggest you read it. Your husband needs spiritual help. You should not stoop to doing indecency stuff as that is for dogs. However, sex is an important aspect of marriage, especially for normal men ( not indecency crazed men): so you need to find ways to make it more satisfying for your hubby without becoming a LovePeddler or dog.

Now you are pregnant ( with twins?) so sex has to go on hiatus for perhaps about 3 months depending on your bodily reaction to pregnancy. So the desperately spiritual nature of the solution to your problem becomes more apparent because you cant even talk of sex now even if you wanted to.

pity him naw... like if he ask you for sex you are gonna give him during your pregnancy.

let him feel himself a bit

Divorce him sharperly. Wait oh, but this guy is really funny, watching tv in the same room and checking if the wife would wake up? Or maybe he wants her to find out and probably watch and learn from it? I dont even know what to think about this.

Is this even an issue

cococandy: Is this even an issue

Lol see quension

egopersonified: Divorce him sharperly. Wait oh, but this guy is really funny, watching tv in the same room and checking if the wife would wake up? Or maybe he wants her to find out and probably watch and learn from it? I dont even know what to think about this.

American pie thingz. I dey suspect the guy wanted to have a fix though one can't be sure; he may have genuinely wanted to learn new skills. His wife has a right to worry tho'. @OP: This issue needs tact. You need to talk to your husband about dis ASAP.

Hubby needs to improve on his already existin bedmatics skills na, Is that supposed to be a crime?
Women and their yeye complain. The wife too was cheatin on the hubby cos she pretended she was sleepin while also tryin to watch the movie and sizing the pornstars dikk